Have you ever been so mad that you are literally shaking? I am a nanny. I have been a nanny for 7 years. I am friends with all of my former nanny families. Friday evenings we usually talk about the week before I get my paycheck. I don't really like the set up either because they have the check lying face down in front of them at the kitchen table, and only after the meeting is over do they give me my pay. Nevermind these meetings happen at 730 and I get done at 7.
So, all I did was teach the children, 6 & 8 to say please, thank you and excuse me before interrupting. The father LITERALLY told me, "I know you think you did a nice thing, but in this world, that isn't what they need. No one listens to excuse me. We don't want to raise meek children that are shoved out of the way or spoken over. We want to raise leaders and we need you to get on board with that".
I was shocked at what I heard and trying to make sense of it. I asked, "So what do you think I should do better?" The father told me there was a time and place for manners. (I believe he said "around grandparents and politicians") but that I should celebrate their ideas and energy and help them explore.. I politely suggested that I do that. The father said, "Look we like you alot, and it's really not enough to even be a criticism, I just want you to give it some thought. Take a look at the kids out there today and how they bully and victimize other kids."
So I am "off work" now and I have my paycheck in my hand but I am so angry I am shaking. I am a nanny in Chicago, Il. for a family from the same basic background as my own. I think I am most mad because I didn't say enough, but let him basically insult me for teaching their child manners! The horror!
I was shocked at what I heard and trying to make sense of it. I asked, "So what do you think I should do better?" The father told me there was a time and place for manners. (I believe he said "around grandparents and politicians") but that I should celebrate their ideas and energy and help them explore.. I politely suggested that I do that. The father said, "Look we like you alot, and it's really not enough to even be a criticism, I just want you to give it some thought. Take a look at the kids out there today and how they bully and victimize other kids."
So I am "off work" now and I have my paycheck in my hand but I am so angry I am shaking. I am a nanny in Chicago, Il. for a family from the same basic background as my own. I think I am most mad because I didn't say enough, but let him basically insult me for teaching their child manners! The horror!
