Shamed for Teaching her Charges Basic Manners

     Have you ever been so mad that you are literally shaking? I am a nanny. I have been a nanny for 7 years. I am friends with all of my former nanny families. Friday evenings we usually talk about the week before I get my paycheck. I don't really like the set up either because they have the check lying face down in front of them at the kitchen table, and only after the meeting is over do they give me my pay. Nevermind these meetings happen at 730 and I get done at 7.

   

      So, all I did was teach the children, 6 & 8 to say please, thank you and excuse me before interrupting. The father LITERALLY told me, "I know you think you did a nice thing, but in this world, that isn't what they need. No one listens to excuse me. We don't want to raise meek children that are shoved out of the way or spoken over. We want to raise leaders and we need you to get on board with that".

    I was shocked at what I heard and trying to make sense of it. I asked, "So what do you think I should do better?" The father told me there was a time and place for manners. (I believe he said "around grandparents and politicians") but that I should celebrate their ideas and energy and help them explore.. I politely suggested that I do that. The father said, "Look we like you alot, and it's really not enough to even be a criticism, I just want you to give it some thought. Take a look at the kids out there today and how they bully and victimize other kids."

   So I am "off work" now and I have my paycheck in my hand but I am so angry I am shaking. I am a nanny in Chicago, Il. for a family from the same basic background as my own. I think I am most mad because I didn't say enough, but let him basically insult me for teaching their child manners! The horror!

Rant - What's Wrong with These People?

      The last job I left after being fired for voicing dissent over some of the things my female boss said.  I complained to her about how she spoke to me. This is why I was fired. I took issue with her telling me not to sit at the table with the kids, that I should stand and she would also refer to me..always laughing as a "fucking cunt". If I wasn't as happy as she thought I would be, she would say, "what's up your snatch today, " or..."you need to get fucked." She wouldn't say it openly in front of the children but she would say it when they weren't around or if they were, dramatically mouth something. One time she was picking up her daughter at school instead of me and as she left the house, she said to the dishwasher guy, "she wants you to have dirty sex with you on the kitchen table". Like she thought it was funny.

     I had an interview last night with a woman who asked me, "Are you straight, gay, bi?" I responded, "I don't think that has any bearing on how I do my job". She responded, "Well as long as you're not one of those that has to be fucked through a sheet". And she and her personal assistant laughed like hyenas.
 

Claire Mohjer

    I had an interview last Tuesday with a Mom who took pride in not getting her sh*t together. She told me before the meeting that it would just be us and we would meet away from the children. I understood that. Then she starts talking about dance and gymnastics and doesn't know when it is, so she SCREAMS for her daughter. Like 8 times. Then the daughter comes down and the mom asked her questions about her schedule. The girl was like 9 and recited the dates and times. The mom then waves her away. Way to invalidate your child and make her feel unimportant in front of a person.

     Where are the normal people? Why is it only sociopaths pay on the books?  I had an interview with a father and mother. We met in their actual study. It was very harsh and severe. They were on one side, two chairs cramped behind one desk and I was on the other side with two big chairs. The father had his computer up and was taking notes. Then he said, "I know you weren't expecting this, but what we like to do is have the nanny bring up her twitter, facebook and instagram and review it with her. It can be a deal breaker or deal maker". I said, "you want me to sign in to my account right now" and he said, "I'm afraid so, otherwise, we may only see a censored version.". I was under so much pressure, I agreed, against my better judgment.  But they didn't just look for smut or drug use, they looked through my pictures and asked, "and who is this" and "when were you in Florida?"I wanted to end the interview but sat through because I have these two powerful people looking at me from one side of the desk.

     I'll say it. I'm ready to accept $14. an hour off the books, so long as I don't have to deal with the BS of the UES Parents!

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