Date: Tuesday, August 25th between 10:30 and noon.
Location: Chelsea Waterside Park in Manhattan (23rd st and 12th ave).
Nanny: (I'm guessing) between 30 and 40, African - American, wearing green t-shirt that said "New york" and a straw hat and light colored pants.
Child: somewhere between 9 months and a year and a half, caucasian, blond, wearing blue and white shirt with embroidery on the front, in a light blue umbrella stroller.
I arrived at the park around 10:30 and when i got there, the child was sitting in his stroller crying hysterically, sometimes to the point of choking. The nanny had the stroller leaning towards her, facing away from her. As the child cried, she just talked to the other women sitting on either side of her as the boy cried. She did not speak to him, touch him, walk around with him, or anything. She might as well have not been there. Eventually, i walked over and asked if the boy was okay. The nanny smiled and said, "there's nothing wrong with him, he needs to sleep." Now i understand that sometimes kids get cranky when they are tired, but this was really unfair to the child. We're talking a toddler here. We were very disturbed by the scene. A few minutes after i approached her, the nanny gave the child what looked like a bottle of water, and he stopped crying. So if he was crying because he was thirsty, then she basically deprived him of a drink for at least 45 minutes but if he was crying because of some other reason, she surely didn't care. She was much more interested in relaxing and chatting with her friends. If this was my nanny, i would have fired her instantly. She showed absolutely no love for the child nor any knowledge of age-appropriate behavior. My friend took a picture of my son and me, and this nanny and the child are in the background. The nanny I describe is the woman in the middle in the green t-shirt. You can even see in the shot that the child she's with is crying. (OP and child have been removed from pic)
17 comments:
this is so sad. I don't think the parents or the nanny really care that much though. Look at the stroller....it's a cheap $20 umbrella stroller. This nanny is out all day long with the kid in a stroller that doesn't even recline. That kid looks under a year old. How lazy can she be that she can't hold the kid in her lap. She is sitting in a park. This kid is being what I call "stroller trained" and this is part of the training. I see many nannies do this. By the time the kid is 18 mos to 2 yrs, the child will have learned to sit quietly all day in the stroller and just check out while the nanny shops up and down 6th ave. Just go into TJ Maxx, Burlington, Old Navy etc during the week. You can see the stroller trained kids - they usually have 15 lbs of clothes piled on their stroller.
lynn, that is an interesting observation and one I would not have picked up. You are correct that the stroller looks way too flimsy and nonrecline for a child that young, esp since the nanny is manually reclining it. Stroller training is one of the saddest things I see in NYC and unfortunately see it too often. This nanny really does look to be focused on socializing far more than her charge. The needing to sleep is a valid point, but I trust OP that this was just a sad situation.
MPP and JD - don't you usually black out part of the face of the child in the post though? Or is that only if the post is identified.
I think the contrast between the giant smile on the nanny and her friends, unaffected by the child's wailing was important. But, whatever.
JD - I agree and the wailing was important. Just wasn't sure if it was a site "policy" and perhaps an oversight. If it were my child I would not mind them pictured, but others have spoken out passionately against it before. Did not mean to sound critical.
All of you make excellent points. How sad that this baby will soon have learned to sit placidly, knowing that there is no reason for him to bother crying (communicating).
And it really bugs me that this baby apparently is sitting in direct sunlight, uncovered, for such a long period of time. His stroller should have a big, shady cover on it.
another good point, mom, regarding no shade on the stroller. Parents don't care either. That's why they hired this sorry excuse for a nanny...probably pay her $10 an hour. When the parents have this kid on the weekend, they'll remark what a 'good' child they have and attribute the behavior to the great care their nanny is providing. They will love having a stroller chained child so they can eat out at sidewalk cafes reading the paper while their dc zones out in the stroller.
I think it is unfair to say that because it is a "cheap" stroller that the parents don't care. Not everyone can afford a high end stroller, and it's probably the best they can do right now. Stop being so pretentious.
Either way, shame on the nanny.
MY HUSBAND IS A LAWYER AND WE R STILL DECIDING ON SENDING YOU SOMETHING IN THE MAIL. HOW DARE YOU AND EVERYONE ELSE ASSUME THAT ANYONE WHO IS AFRICAN AMERICAN AS YOU PUT IT WITH A CAUCASION CHILD AS U PUT IT IS A NANNY AND WHEN IT IS THE OPPOSITE U DO NOT ASK QUESTIONS OR TREAT THE SITUATION DIFFERENTLY. YOU PARENTS NEED TO FIND THINGS TO OCCUPY YOUR TIME INSTEAD OF THIS
I AM FROM THE WEST INDIES WHERE WE RAISE OUR CHILDREN IN A WAY THAT WE DO NOT GIVE THEM WHAT THEY WANT. I WILL NOT AND HAVE MY SISTER OR A NANNY ROCK MY CHILD TO SLEEP OR BOUNCE ON A BALL. THATIS WHAY MOST OF YOU PARENTS CANNOT UNDERSTAND Y THE KIDS TAKE YOU FOR SUCKERS. IF A CHILD CRIES THAT DOES NOT MEAN YOU DO NOT LOVE AND CARE FOR THEM. THAT IS HOW THEY TRY TO GET THEIR WAY AND ALSO THAT IS HOW THEY COMMUNICATE. THERE IS ABSOULETELY NOTHING WRONG WITH MY SON HE DOES NOT LIKE TO SLEEP AND HE CRIES WHEN HE HAS TO. I THINK THE LADY WITH THE BLACK HAIR U KNOW WHO U ARE SHOULD MIND YOUR BUSINESS. WE HAVE YOUR PIC TOO AND MY SISTER'S FRIENDS WHO ARE NANNIES KNOW WHERE YOU LIVE TOO. WE SEE U ALL THE TIME AND YOU SHOULD CONCENTRATE ON THE AFFAIR THAT IS GOING ON BEHIND YOUR BACK THAT EVERYONE EXCEPT YOU THAT IS WHAT YOU SHOULD FOCUS ON IF YOU NEED SOMETHING TO DO GO LOOK INTO THAT.
It is so disgusting how the parents of ny especially manhattan who have nothing better to do than to sit there and spy on ppl.I AM THE PARENT OF THIS CHILD! IT IS FUNNY HOW YOU AND PLENTY OF PPL ALWAYS ASSUME THAT IF THE CHILD IS OF A DIFFERENT COLOUR THAT THEY ARE THEY NANNY. THIS HAPPENS TO BE MY SISTER LOOKING AFTER MY CHILD. FYI WE HAVE DIFFERNT FATHER AND MY HUSBAND IS CAUCASION HENCE THE REASON FOR MY CHILD'S COMPLEXION. IF IT WAS NOT FOR MY MOTHER INLAW TAKING CARE OF HIM FOR A FEW MONTHS HE WOULD HAVE BEEN ON HIS USUAL SCHEDULE. HE DOE NOT LIKE TO NAP RIGHT NOW ! BIG DEAL DID U SEE HER HITTING HIM? NO DID SHE SLAP HIM ? NO U DID NOT SEE ANYTHING EXCEPT HIM CRYING SO U NEED TO CONCENTRATE ON SOMETHING ELSE THAT WOULD BENEFIT THE WORLD. SHE TOLD ME EXACTLY WHEN THIS HAPPEND AND KNEW YOU WERE TAKING THE PIC AND SHE TOOK ONE OF YOU TOO.THE SAME WAY THE PARENT ALWAYS KNOW THE NANNIES THEY KNOW U TOO AND WE KNOW WHERE U LIVE WITH YOUR BLACK HAIR. i NEED NOT SAY MORE!
I DO CARE ABOUT MY CHILD HE WAS THERE FOR A FEW HOURS AND HE DOES HAVE A HIGH END STROLLER WE DI NOT USE IT THAT DAY AND THERE IS NO NEED TO LET THE WHOLE WORLD KNOW Y.
HE WAS NOT IN THE SUN THE WHOLE DAY FYI.
AND I HOPE YOUGET PAID FOR ALL YOUR HARD WORK BECAUSE YOU GO AROUND TAKING PISC LIKE YOU ARE SO PERFECT. PPL LIKE YOU WANT TO HAVE PPL LIKE SLAVES U JUST WANT TO SEE PPL ALWAYS ON THE GO AND YOU WERE THERE CHATTING WHILE YOUR CHILD WAS IN THE STRLLER TOO. I WAS TOLD MY SISTER TOLD ME AND THEY WERE LAUGHING AT HOW RIDICULOUS U WERE THAT DAY . I TOLD THEM DO NOT WORRY ABOUT YOU AND IF YOU WANTED MY NUMBER THAT THEY SHOULD GIVE IT. YOU NEED TO FIND WORK OTHER THAN THIS ONE.
Why don't I believe that you are the mother of this child, angry, defensive poster?
And why don't I believe that your husband is a lawyer?
You sound like you're wound pretty tight for a person who "laughed this off with her sister." Uh huh.
More like, Hello "nanny from the photo," I suspect.
I agree Mom - definitely nanny in the picture who is mad and wants this down. There's no legal action to take and I highly doubt her husband's a lawyer.
Just a pathetic attempt to bully MPP and Jane Doe into taking down the picture before her employer sees.
That poor baby looks so miserable in the picture.
To the all caps rageaholic,
Please submit your contact information to isawyournanny@aol.com so that we can confirm, you are in fact a parent and not a scheming nanny. Thank you.
Hello a friend of mine sent me this site because i know the person you are talking abou in the pic.I live in Chelsea on w 26th st and this woman with the green shirt use to be a nanny she actually worked sometime in the same building as I am in for some time. she has not been working as a nanny for a while until he sister had her baby that part is true I know for a fact. they live near me and I do not think it is my place to say where exactly. I do not know how this works. I have never seen them do anything to this child that would be meant to report though. i think that parents should ask for the parents info and call them directly. I do not want to sign up so i have placed my e-mail at the bottom hope this helps. savannah-frederick@hotmail.com
this is the woman in the picture responding. I can understand how parents would be concerned for their kids safety but unless kids are in harms way i do not think that people like jane doe should go reporting what does not eixts. my sister is right about u and other people always make the assumption that if the person is african american that they are the nanny. You neglected to say that when you came in you and your friend saw him holding on walking, he was playing with the big kids, you also forgot to say that we were there 1hr before you came in he was in the sand pit. you forgot to say that I cleaned under his feet with a wipe. you forgot to say that he drank a six once bottle I hope you saw that he threw the cup because he did not want water. Of course you did not see that because at the time he was not crying and you did not observe. then i put him in the stoller and that is when it all started. and i told you that you should not worry beacuse i know that there was no need to he cries when he has to fall asleep and that is just what he does he fight the sleep no matter what. i was not killing him. You did not even bother to ask since when he was up nothing Yoour first impression was that i had to be up to no good and that i was doing someting wrong because he was crying, did u see me have the stoller reclined rocking back and forth. Your back was turned while your friend faced us how come you expected to see if i was touching or caressing him you did not remember to say that as well. you would just turn your head and look then continue talking so you just heard.of course not you neglected to say that part too and just because we are laughing does not mean that we did not care we all know that that is just what he does and someone who does not know and is looking outside in would make it seem that we are committing a crime just because the child was crying. i love my nephew to death but he cries because he fights the sleep. anything to add to your blog I guess! Now I have said my part best wishes to all of you! I do my family should entertain this anymore best of luck
and the next pic you are going to take of someone be sure to put the entire story and not just the part that makes someone look like they are a criminal
I think that
1) Based on this, the nanny knows she did something wrong.
2) No one should hire a West Indian nanny.
3) What's the phrase? Something about protesting too much.
And regarding the comment, "you treat people like slaves", may i ask the nanny in the picture how much she was paid per hour to neglect this poor baby?
Nanny from the photo,
First, it has been mentioned on this site many times that some people do have children with radically different skin color than their own, and that sometimes we might actually be outing a bad mom, or other family member, instead of an actual nanny. It has also been agreed by many posters, that even in the event that the person taking shoddy care of a child is actually a relative, it is still important to post the information in hopes that their is at least some responsible person closely enough related to the child victim to intervene in his or her care...and that by posting the information here, that person might find out that their relative child is being endangered or mistreated.
Since your very dark sister gave birth to a Scandinavian or very Northern European child, it will be important for you all to learn to care for a child with very, very light skin. Please know that it is beyond negligent to leave him roasting in the sun for what we now realize from your last post was AT LEAST two hours...that is if you just materialized at the park without having to walk to and from anywhere else to get there and back home.
Naw, just kidding...both of you. I still don't believe this is your child or nephew. Another compelling clue is that, if you had been raising him the neglectful, uncaring way you say is characteristic of your heritage, he would have long ago since given up crying in his stroller when he was hungry, tired, sick, or hurting....realizing, as neglected infants eventually do, that there is no use in communicating, because nobody in his word actually CARES.
OP, you should probably take precautions since the angry nanny from the photo has threatened you multiple times in he post and claims to know where you live. She sounds like she might be part of some thug nanny gang. Make a copy of her post and save it...just in case. And Jane has her URL, should she need further tracing, in case anything suspicious happens up your way. She is clearly very unbalanced. And if her employers see this...ESPECIALLY with her loony tunes rant attached to it, she will undoubtedly be fired...and will then become even more angry and out of control than she already sounds.
Seriously, how does somebody that angry pass through the interview process without raising any red flags in the parents.
Nanny from the photo,
First, it has been mentioned on this site many times that some people do have children with radically different skin color than their own, and that sometimes we might actually be outing a bad mom, or other family member, instead of an actual nanny. It has also been agreed by many posters, that even in the event that the person taking shoddy care of a child is actually a relative, it is still important to post the information in hopes that their is at least some responsible person closely enough related to the child victim to intervene in his or her care...and that by posting the information here, that person might find out that their relative child is being endangered or mistreated.
Since your very dark sister gave birth to a Scandinavian or very Northern European child, it will be important for you all to learn to care for a child with very, very light skin. Please know that it is beyond negligent to leave him roasting in the sun for what we now realize from your last post was AT LEAST two hours...that is if you just materialized at the park without having to walk to and from anywhere else to get there and back home.
Naw, just kidding...both of you. I still don't believe this is your child or nephew. Another compelling clue is that, if you had been raising him the neglectful, uncaring way you say is characteristic of your heritage, he would have long ago since given up crying in his stroller when he was hungry, tired, sick, or hurting....realizing, as neglected infants eventually do, that there is no use in communicating, because nobody in his word actually CARES.
OP, you should probably take precautions since the angry nanny from the photo has threatened you multiple times in he post and claims to know where you live. She sounds like she might be part of some thug nanny gang. Make a copy of her post and save it...just in case. And Jane has her URL, should she need further tracing, in case anything suspicious happens up your way. She is clearly very unbalanced. And if her employers see this...ESPECIALLY with her loony tunes rant attached to it, she will undoubtedly be fired...and will then become even more angry and out of control than she already sounds.
Seriously, how does somebody that angry pass through the interview process without raising any red flags in the parents.
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