Received Wednesday, July 23, 2008
South Knightsbridge Circle in Ann Arbor, Michigan - Rant
Seriously, of all the kids I have ever seen act out... Yours take the cake.Your poor nanny had her hands full this afternoon at 1:30. Your son and his victimised younger brother( didn't look to close at the little one but I'm sure it was a boy) is an absolute monster. Yes I said it. He must be around 6 or even 7. Shaven head. She was very patiently pushing the little one in a plastic yellow and red car while your out of control son was hitting her from behind for no reason with a toy- and I mean he hit her real hard. Sadly she looked used to it. I know this because she asked him to keep up with her already slow pace -I heard her ask nicely. So that must be the "reason" if you are trying to justify things.He was so nasty to your youngest. Teasing and aggravating him for no reason what so ever to the point of tears. The nanny kept asking calmly for him to stop though I could see she was embarrassed and felt like she had no way of getting him too.That kid planted his butt on the cart, clearly too big for him preventing her from pushing the little one at all. So now nanny is at stand still for 5 min asking for cooperation. Then I hear her saying: you are going to lose privileges... Kid just doesn't care. Again this kid had to be at least 6. What 6yr old does that? That's 2/3 year old behaviour! My point is that you should be embarrassed to even call yourself a parent. Especially when I'm sure you are the brunette mom who allowed this same kid to crawl out your parked car sunroof in the parking lot outside your condo onto the glass and hood like an animal! He could have slipped and cracked his head open. Boys will be boys but that's a bit much.Grow common sense! Your kids safety and his future moral being is at risk here! And for goodness sake teach him some manners so your poor nanny won't be the punching bag anymore.This was all just too disgusting to witness. I hope you know the general public is watching. Hopefully that would be motivation for you to take the parent roll. Its really not that hard to raise respectful kids. I've raised 6 from 3 different families and they are decent kids- with flaws- but decent at least.
15 comments:
Sounds like the nanny is the wrong profession. Even if the child is special needs, it's up to the nanny to take charge and control. I have had kids that are absolute beasts with thier parents behave good as gold for me. I'm not praising the mother here either. But the nanny needs to either
get control or get a new job.
Its not that easy to get control on a child thats not yours. I don't care what anyone else says. There are alot of spoiled kids that act terrible because the parents let them. What's the nanny supposed to do? Beat them.
The nanny can be great, but sounds like she is with the wrong family
That poor nanny!
Oops...Don't delete me! I messed up. *LOL* Sorry Jane and MPP, it's been a long day.
I wouldn't say the nanny isn't in the wrong profession. I would say that perhaps the parents of this child parent like my best friend's brother. You know, the 4 year old who Grandma treats like a baby and lets him get away with whatever he wants. This child may have special needs, then again, maybe the parents didn't use effective discipline, making him the way he is. I wouldn't want to nanny for this family
metronanny are you insane? how the heck can you turn this around and blame the nanny? who is responsible for the child's actions? that is my question to you. someone needs to teach that kid how to be responsible for his OWN actions and it starts with the parents. if it doesn't happen at home, this kid is going to end up being very unhappy one day. studies show that overly-permissive parents end up having the LEAST happy children, compared to parents that are too strict or just right. go ahead, blame the nanny. then who do you blame when he's too old for a nanny and his parents are still letting him have his way?
It's hard to be a nanny and go in everyday and undo what was done by the parents the night before. Sometimes I have them behaving well by the end of the day and as soon as I'm getting in my car, they are running outside into the yard acting like monsters while their parents lose control. At least I will be starting with a clean slate when I have my own kids.
Kids who are out of control are hard to handle, period. It doesn't matter if you've been with them 5 days or 5 months, they still don't listen to you if the parents let them get away with everything. I've quit jobs before because the kids were so obnoxious and bratlike that everytime I saw them I wanted to go and bash my head into the wall.
This child sounds horrible. I agree, a badly behaved, hard to handle child is always going to be difficult, ESPECIALLY if the parents are not setting any appropriate limits or not parenting effectively. I hate to think of this boy's teachers, since he sounds old enough to be in kindergarten or first grade.
It may be that the nanny was new in the position and will be able to gain more effective control after she has worked with him a bit longer, or maybe she will just move on soon, due to the child being such a brat. I really just want to smack parents who do nothing at all, or just sit there smiling stupidly, while their out of control brat children behave in ways that are completely unacceptable. There's one such boy at my son's preschool and I'm relieved he is moving on to kindergarten in the fall because he mikes it hell for the teachers and parents who are working with him every day.
It certainly is not the nannies fault if the child is a brat. No one knows if the paretns let him get away with this kind of behaviour. Not all out of control kids are special needs either. They are spolied rotten and the parents are too lazy to make him /her behave and therefore hire a nanny and expect her to deal with it. If the child is special needs there are schools for these little kids and they need to attend them because they help them deal with the problems.
My Grand daughter has a friend that they say is special needs and she refuses to help clean up any mess that is made by the both of them.She says she doesn't have to as her mother says she doesn't have to. One day when the mother came to pick up her daughter I said "can you wait until the kids pick up their mess"? She informed me that "they do not live that way" that "she does not force her child to do anything she does not want to do". Soon after that we went to party for this child at the home..I have no idea how anyone could invite anyone into that house, It was filthy and I mean filthy. Most of the parents did not eat any of the ice cream or cake or use the bathroom. You needed a chisel to get the filth out of the bath tub. This child was not special needs she was spoiled and lazy because her mother was lazy. She now has CPS involved because the child refused to do anything at school.
Blame the parents for unruly children not the nanny!
someone needs to set some limits for this kid, special needs or not. there is no way in hell i'd allow any kid to hit me with an object over and over.
I have a special needs child (autism) and the behavior of this boy does not sound like it. When kids with autism act out it is usually in response to something they can't handle, i.e. too much noise, visual stimuli, not having skills to properly exress themselves, etc. I can spot the difference fairly quickly and this boy just sounds like a mean brat, which is a shame, because he is only a product of what he's been allowed to become.
IMHO, having a special needs kid means I have to work harder at teaching her good behavior. In fact many people I know can be even harder on their kids b/c they are worried about how they will act in public.. I don't agree with that but the other extreme of no discipline is worse. Giving a child a 'free pass' just cheats them out their chances of doing well in the real world.
Wow, this kid sounds exactly like the 6 year old who I nanny for. He and his 3 year old sister rule the house and if the parents tell them to do or not to do something, they usually just ignore them. Thankfully, I have the little girl kind of "trained" to listen to me when her parents aren't home, but the boy behaves in the way that was described here more often than not. This girl is definitely with the wrong family, and so am I. Thankfully, I only have a couple more months left so I'm sticking it out for awhile...
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