Major prob. Looking for a way out. I had agreed to watch my boss's sister's kid when the two of them go to Italy for ten days. This is at my boss's house in addition to the two kids I watch. The problem is I spent eight hours with her on Saturday and she is terrible. She is four and not potty trained. She smeared her BM all over the place during her nap. She still uses a pacifier. I spent the day WITH the mom and her to acclimate and it was terror. She also parents in a way that is different from the sister. so that alone, how would I do it? The kids I nanny for are 3 & 7. I'm afraid the bad kid is going to corrupt the good kids. The three year old is parented with natural consequences only. That's what the mom said, but when I suggested then that she help me clean up the poop from the wall, the mom said, "no that's punitive". She refuses to eat real meals, so all day long she gets plied with special treats like frozen bananas, gogurt, peanut butter and fluff sandwiches. The trip is on the 15th. I don't know how to get out of this. Do I involve the sister? I only saw her husband yesterday so we didn't get time to talk about my weekend with the sister. Adding insult to injury is she paid me $40 for the day, $40 for 8 hours on a Saturday and she did it like it was some sort of bonus. HELP ME!
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I would talk to your boss-her sister. She has to k now how the child acts. I'm sorry you are in this situation. Maybe your boss can help. $40 for 8 hours- that is insane...
Just be honest... you can't manage her daughter with current kids and she needs to find another person. 10 days of hell is not worth it
Oh...and this is the "natural consequences" for the mom for crappy parenting
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Just tell your boss no. That seems simple enough. Give her enough time to find someone else. Also, I would never watch a child for forty bucks. Unless it was for two hours. They're trying to take advantage of you. Don't allow it!
Definitely inform your Mom-Boss that unfortunately with the extra special needs of the 4 year old, you don't think it'd be wise to involve her in the life of the 3 & 7 year old regularly.
I'd pose it as, understandably being an only child she is parented differently than the 2 children you normally watch. However, for a cohesive environment in which everyone gets along and the nanny is not driven insane, children have to be able to adapt and unfortunately this child requires special treatment in multitudes of ways.
If your normal 3 year old charge is potty-trained but the 4 year old isn't, I'd cite that; you don't want to cause regression in a younger child due to an older, less developed child. Etc.
That really sucks, hopefully your MB doesn't get mad at you for it.
However, $40 is less than what I charge for a DATE NIGHT, which has hourly limits! I can't imagine getting so little for 8 hours. :(
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Your boss is a jerk. Just reading this post. She must know how her niece has special needs. Not nice for her to at least warn you. Maybe both are hustlers. Really $40 dollars for a full day. They (sisters) sound like they schemed this.
Be a grownup and deal with her one on one.
Everyone's absolutely right, but the fact you haven't already told them it's a no signals to me you may not be willing to do so, for fear of losing your job. If you go through with this madness, care for the child your way. Your supervision, your rules -- frozen bananas will not be an entree; you smear poo, you help clean it, etc. This child has not been parented, and if you're going to watch her, you'll have to parent her.
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