I have two nannies, both are college students. My Tues/Friday nanny works two very long 14 hour days. It was hard finding someone to work those days. She has only been with us 4 weeks (8 14 hour days) as of today. This morning when she came in, my husband and I were in the kitchen. She said, "There is something I have to tell you, and I anticipate you are going to be upset, but I want to be honest with you". We were immediately alarmed and frozen. Turns out her confession is that she lost the SIM card to her phone here, after making some X rated videos for her boyfriend. (Her words). She asked that if we find it, could we please not look at it and turn it right over to her. She said she felt she had to tell us, incase we found it and looked at it and the kids saw the video. This mornings I assured her that of course we would. She further elaborated that she made the video in our family room after youngest fell asleep having came home from the park. Older child was at school. The more I think about it, the more it kind of creeps me out. I honestly don't know if I can just give her the card if we find it without looking at it. In fact, a part of me is hoping that I do find it. And even if we don't, this confession of hers really has me rattled. My husband says while it isn't appropriate, she is here for 14 hours and we expect that she will have down time. How do I get past this? The best case scenario is she finds the card, we never have access to it, so I never have a visual and I can somehow stop thinking about nanny buck naked on our leather sofa. I don't know that she was. My mind just wanders. I made the mistake of telling my mother who lives 15 minutes away. She says I have to terminate her now and suggests the children are in peril. I alternate from being creeped out to dreading the process of finding a replacement. Help!
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Yes it was wrong for her to do this in your home. But she did come forward and tell you. I would tell her yes it was inappropriate but coming and telling you was good. Before you talk to her; talk among yourselves and maybe come up with discipline if you think its appropriate. Question: do u have rules about visitors?
I work 50-68 hours a week. I have NEVER nor would I ever have sex at my employers house. It is extremly unprofessional and inappropriate of her. I don't see a need to watch it if you find it what's the need? I would just let her go. How do you know that any guy she allows in YOUR house wouldn't do something towards your kids? What if the child had woken up or another come home?
I worked at one point for 14 hour shifts overnight and I NEVER had sex, made 'x rated videos', accessed any inappropriate materials, or had any friends over (regardless of their gender). Fire her. The hassle of finding a new nanny is way more manageable than dealing with any repercussions that would ensue if your child had a) woken up from his or her nap and walked in on her b) any psychological, emotional or physical damage that this nanny could be placing your child in the path of. She obviously has some severe judgement issues and that is unexceptable under any circumstances.
I am a nanny and work 12-16 hour days. Even though I have been working for them for four years, I would never EVER EVER even consider the possibility of doing that in my bosses house. And with their child sleeping?! That's just crazy. I get that she's young but wow. Fire her.
Chiming in along with the others. Good lord....you cant got those separate days without sex??? Geeze.....nanny, grow up! The fact that she had sex in your house ia valid reason to let her go. If she was a live in full time, thats different, she then is a tenant. Shes not and she needs to learn boundries.
OMG its just sex. She didnt even have the BF with her. Calm down. You are going to raise kids that are afraid of their own penises!
Its called disrespect "prude police". She can have sex all she wants on HER OWN TIME. Its not that she had it, filmed it ...its the fact she had sex in someone elses house. You have sex on the job anywhere and youre going to be fired. That nanny needs to get her priorities straight.
I'm disagreeing with a lot of the above. She never said she had her boyfriend over or had sex in their house! She made a video for him - AKA she was likely pleasuring herself on their couch. That's a different story!
The people who are insanely saying this was okay if she was just masturbating on their couch... What the actual fuck? Who masterbates and records it AT THEIR JOB? (Unless you work in porn, in which case, carry on.) That she would do such a thing where a child could walk in at any moment shows a serious disregard for that child, who should learn about all things sex when and how the PARENTS decide -- not like this. Let her go.
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