I saw an older Asian nanny taking care of a 3 yr old boy named Liam at Garfield Park in South Pasadena, CA. The boy was playing on the larger play ground equipment and he fell about 4 feet and landed on his hip. I was holding my baby and toddler so I didn't move fast enough but I did go over there and check on him. Another nanny came over too, his nanny just stood there with her hands on her hip just looking annoyed at him. The poor boy had to get up by himself. I later saw her drag him by his neck collar out from under the play equipment. It really upset me. I took a picture. The nanny in question is wearing a lime green long sleeve blouse and hat.
25 comments:
OMG! That poor child ! I really hope his parents find out someway
Poor little guy :( This makes me so sad to read. I hope his parents know about this site!
sadly this probably comes down to cultural differences in raising children. I have many close Asian friends. If you have heard about the book "battle hym of the tiger mother" that can give you an idea. They have different styles in raising kids that seem outragious to other people.
Phoenix - Very true, and I worked for an Asian family and saw some of that. Something for people to think about when hiring a nanny maybe. Because she should be following the way the parents want the child raised and dealt with in certain situations, not what SHE would do with her own children.
I object!! I am 100% Asian and raise my children the same as everyone else.
Mike
I am not saying ALL Asians do this. I am talking about the one's that do. Since seeing this post I started researching the parenting styles of Japan. And it was harsh to say the least. Not all Asians parent this way, many have adopted the "western" parenting styles. But others, especially the older generations have not. And i wasn't saying that she was being bad or wrong. Just that the nanny in question on the post may still believe in a stricter parenting style. One that would want the child to be strong. Neither style is wrong or right they are just different. And as western parents we may find the stricter style harsh or unfair, when that is not the case. It is just different
Ouch! Poor little boy. Hope his parents see this.
Geez!Who knows how many injuries he could have from the fall or from his nanny. I hope something is done soon. With all those who witnessed one happen I'm sure it'll get back to his parents soon.
Wow great clear shot of the nanny. What kind of camera did you use? Because theres noway that photo was taken from a camera phone lol and if so then you got some talent, my camera pictures always come out blurry.
Horrible
That's boarderline. I might have called a cop. If I truly saw a grownup drag a child out from under play equipment by the collor of his shirt, I might report this person.
Pigeon, do they have Asians in your trailer park?
Pigeon?
I went to China to teach English a couple of years ago. They do have different methods of parenting, but the Chinese are awesome people none the less. Very friendly and welcoming at least to Americans :) Perhaps his nanny did not witness the fall?
Who is Pigeon?
Amy,
I don't grab my child by her collar or clothes, and I would never do that to any child. And pulling on a limb, especially an arm, is never ok for children.
When have you had to pull your charges by their clothes or limbs?What small spaces? I am honestly curious.
Hey Umass...I think my post was deleted...?
I had a young (18 month old) child that wouldn't come out from under their parents bed, while the parents were home and asked me to assist in getting them out. VERY LARGE HEAVY BED, no way to move it, so we had to literally drag the child out, I was able to grab an arm and a leg.
At a park in Indiana there is a wooden platform that is quite large and I had two children (one 2 and one 4) crawl under and NOT come out. I was able to grab one of them by the foot and drag them out, the other one came out on their own after I got the first one out.
I had to pull my own son out of a tube, like a little tunnle thing, at my sister's mother-in-law's house. He was 9 months old at the time and crawled halfway in then started to freak out. He was too far in for me to do much but grab his hands and pull.
My nephew got stuck in one of those McDonald's play structures and was FREAKING out and wouldn't come down the slide. I couldn't get all the way in because of those damn oddly placed step things, I had my niece (his older sister) go up and "push" him down the slide.
Another thing, she says "by his neck collar", did she mean neck, or shirt collar? My mental image of this is her more having her hand on the back of his head/neck and guiding him out. I do this often with young children while we're walking somewhere. If they are not paying attention or I need them to turn a specific way, I will place my hand on their shoulders/neck/head and guide them in the direction I need them to go.
These are a few I can think of off the top of my head. But honestly, if you didn't know me and these children and you saw any of these happen while being distracted by your own children/charges, would you think I was a bad mom/aunt/nanny? Or would you understand that some times, you just have to do what you have to do to get the children out from a tight spot?
Now, I'm not saying the nanny in this situation was in the right. I'm just asking if it could maybe have been an over-reaction on the part of the person who witnessed this (not the falling, but the pulling out from under the equipment). Without having been there and seeing where the child was and what the circumstances were, you never really know. She was already upset with the nanny because she wasn't right there when the child fell, maybe, while being distracted by her infant and toddler she glanced at the nanny with her hand close to the childs neck while "directing" him out from under the equipment and to her it looked more like she was being rough.
I don't know if I would see you as a bad caregiver or parent. I would have to witness you in action to say that.
Umass is a very, very punchable person :)
Amy,
ISYN will always give the OP of Sightings the benefit of the doubt because we weren't there to witness the incident.
That being said, Readers should double-check that their comments are being posted... there is a glitch with Google and I noticed a few of them not going through.
Thanks MPP, but Umass commented about the post that seems to have disappeared, so I'm pretty sure it was here at some point. And I wasn't trying to say that the OP was wrong, was just voicing an opinion.
Love the very older-Asian-lady type of visor/hat!
She could've been the grandma. That would explain her behavior toward the child.
Hello, I'm the one who originally posted the picture. Yes, this response is 4 month late but I've since returned to work. I took this on my iphone 4, and I didn't hide the fact that I took a picture of the nanny. She then started behaving herself. Like I said, I felt really bad for the kid and I made sure I stuck around Liam for the remainder of the time. By the way kids reacted to him, he seemed like a regular. I also posted this picture on craigslist. This nanny saw the little boy fall, and stood there while I and the other nanny came over to the boy. At first, I thought she was just someone there..i couldnt believe she was his NANNY!
Asian or not , no parent would llike such event. It obviously is something wrong with the Nanny. Asisn parent do not treat thir kids like monsters. They love and prescious their children just like any parents do,
It's horrible how some Nannies get desensitized after working for a family for a while. We see it all the time here at our nanny agency. I often feel that it just comes down to how much the nanny actually cares about another child, let alone it being just a job,
there are many racial problems with this blog. what makes you assume the older woman was a nanny? she may have been a grandparent (many mixed race children may appear non-Asian to those who are not used to it).
Post a Comment