I was at the Mamaroneck Library with my two children today. In walks a nanny (young, black, very short hair, jeans, some kind of cream colored flowy top, jamaican? accent) with her charge who couldnt have been more than 2 years of age. She was on her phone (black IPhone), plopped him down in front of some blocks, then proceeded to walk away. TWENTY minutes later, the little boy (blond hair, black track suit pants and a black windbreaker jacket with a G, like the Rye Garnets emblem) gets up looking for her, so I followed him to make sure he didnt go anywhere where he could get hurt or worse get kidnapped by someone. I said to her, "Maybe you should get off the phone and pay attention to him". Well, she completely flipped out and started cursing and asking me who the F&*K I was and I should mind my own business and that she was watching him. I said, "No you were not, he is looking for you and he is a little boy, he shouldnt be left alone". She again completely flips out, while still on the phone and complaining to whoever she was on the phone with, that some b&*ch (me, I am assuming) is asking her why she isn't watching the little boy. I then realize that I had seen her before at the Rye Y, and the boy was crying and screaming in the stroller and she completely ignored him, except to tell him to be quiet (that was at the circle). She was quite horrendous. The nanny/babysitter is there to take care of the child, not abandon them and talk on the phone the entire time.
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Mamaroneck Public Library - Mamaroneck, NY
I was at the Mamaroneck Library with my two children today. In walks a nanny (young, black, very short hair, jeans, some kind of cream colored flowy top, jamaican? accent) with her charge who couldnt have been more than 2 years of age. She was on her phone (black IPhone), plopped him down in front of some blocks, then proceeded to walk away. TWENTY minutes later, the little boy (blond hair, black track suit pants and a black windbreaker jacket with a G, like the Rye Garnets emblem) gets up looking for her, so I followed him to make sure he didnt go anywhere where he could get hurt or worse get kidnapped by someone. I said to her, "Maybe you should get off the phone and pay attention to him". Well, she completely flipped out and started cursing and asking me who the F&*K I was and I should mind my own business and that she was watching him. I said, "No you were not, he is looking for you and he is a little boy, he shouldnt be left alone". She again completely flips out, while still on the phone and complaining to whoever she was on the phone with, that some b&*ch (me, I am assuming) is asking her why she isn't watching the little boy. I then realize that I had seen her before at the Rye Y, and the boy was crying and screaming in the stroller and she completely ignored him, except to tell him to be quiet (that was at the circle). She was quite horrendous. The nanny/babysitter is there to take care of the child, not abandon them and talk on the phone the entire time.
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OP while I understand your concern 100%, you must understand if someone were to come at me in an accusatory manner, I would put up my defenses as well. It would have been in the best interest of the child if you had approached the woman in a more tactful manner. Who knows if she was on her period or just having a bad day?
Anyway, she was wrong to talk on the phone while her little charge was not being watched properly. If this were my son, I would want to know. Hopefully someone sees this and reports it to the parents. The descriptions you gave were very good so I believe it will only be a matter of time before she is fired on the spot.
Thanks OP. I also think anyone would get defensive if someone confronted them about the way they are watching their kid or charge? No matter what you may think about the person, please be friendly if/when you engage them in everyone's best interest.
I agree with previous posters. If anything, think of the child. You don't want to get the nanny all riled up because the minute they get alone together, who knows what kind of things she might do to him? Even if you want to rip her hair out, approach with a smile. (while taking detailed mental notes to write up here!)
okay I understand that someone can get defensive when approached but do they have to use the language? I think that just shows their lack of class when they use words like that and start screaming at someone.
In addition, let us not forget she was not watching this 2 yr old, she plopped him down and spent the time on her cell phone. Whether they op confronted her or not the parents should know about this.
How far away was the nanny? I don't know the Rye library at all, so depending on the layout, she might have been able to observe him while on the phone. (Multi tasking- not just for mothers!) When I bring my 2.5 year old charge to the library (which granted, is very small and it would be impossible for me not to see her!), I consider that time for her to socialize with the other children there- children should not be constantly entertained by adults, and she gets plenty of that from me at home! As long as it was possible to keep tabs on him, which you don't specify, I see no problem with a nanny letting a child play and explore on their own in a kid friendly environment. No, she should not have cursed- that is not acceptable. However, your comment would have probably set the mildest person off. You might have had good intentions for the child, but in future incidents, maybe you should think about a more positive way to address someone that would encourage them towards proper behavior.
@MojoRising:
Good Points...I never thought of things from that perspective before.
Have times changed? Is it acceptable now to have extended phone conversations in the library? That was rude to begin with. However, it is pretty normal for people to get defensive when approached in this manner. OP, if you want to avoid getting cursed out again, next time I would report it to the library staff and let them deal with it. I'm sure they have policies about phone use and leaving children unattended.
I don't know of any job that allows you to talk on the phone for 20 minutes or more on personal business and will still retain you.
There is absolutely no excuse for it. Regardless of weather or not she could observe her charge, she is being paid to mind him NOT talk on the phone. I'm not saying she can't make a quick call or run an errand or two for herself. We nannies work long hours and sometimes we need to handle personal business with our charges in tow. I do agree though that we must approach the bad nannies with a smile on our face whislt we try to do all we can to notify the parents. For the children's sake if nothing else. Good post OP I hope this witch gets caught!
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