Wednesday

Nanny Notes!

Hi All,

SS here.  I thought it might be helpful to have some of our Nanny's share some "Helpful Hints".

What are some of your best practices?  

ie: easiest way to get a child to eat their meal?   get them to sleep?  share their toys?

What are your Nanny Notes?



Tuesday

BAD Parent Sighting - A Tragedy Waiting To Happen ( We Hope Not)

A woman who seems to be the mother of 2 kids, a 3 year old girl and a very young infant, endangers them on a regular basis at 610 and Beechnut in Houston. The woman uses the kids to get attention for panhandling. Reports by witnesses say that the little girl runs into traffic and has caused a fender bender. The girl and mother ( we assume ) are regularly picked up by a man in a late model white SUV. They seem to do well on the money. Witnesses  say they have called the police and CPS to no avail. (Pics are coming)

Best way to give notice?

Hi! Just wanted to hear suggestions on how to give notice. I've been with current family for two years. I have been through really rough time. I've recently burned out. I got sick about 5 times in the last four months. I have zero energy. I think I'm completely zapped out. I live near NYC and they only paid $14.50 for two kids. No TV. Not type of entertainment and drop off and pick ups'when oldest is in school.

Now, starting next month the youngest is going to school. They offered part time and only $15.50. I have to commute by either driving or public transportation. They're only offerinf about 20 hrs a week too. So I decided to look somewhere else. I did get offered a position at a preschool. I'm going to take it because I just felt like these people took advantage of me and want to be cheap. I always went above and beyond. The kids are ok, but hit and abused me for a while. The mom wanted me to always have them outside and take them to various things A DAY. She couldn't stand see me home sitting down. She purposely took nap time away because they would fall asleep too "late". A MESS. Most of the days the job was OK. I just feel like I need change and be appreciated it more. Especially since I am college educated and it shows on how much the kiddos know.

I'm thinking of giving three weeks notice at the end of the week. Thanks !

Wednesday

Question from a Nanny.

Hey guys, I have some questions. I just got offered a position as a nanny for $10/hr for 50 hours a week, after quitting a hospital job 4 months ago. I'll be watching 1 toddler and if i have to watch the other kids (2 more) it will be $13/hr. The family is paying cash off the books. Has anyone else worked off the books? If so was it short term? Did you ever have issues with IRS? If I try to work with an agency later on will they hold it against me that I have no proof of employment, besides the parents' word?

Gift Ideas Please!

My son has been with his current nanny for 3 years. She just had a baby in October and due again in November! Plus she has a toddler. We mutually decided my son should head to a PreK program and I would like to do something wonderful for her to thank her for all she's done for my son and I. What are some gift ideas? We have done spa items, gift cards to movies and restaurants.... I would love to find a sentimental children's book about friends forever or something to that effect and flowers? Any ideas?

QUESTION OF THE DAY!! How do you get a child to sleep?



How do you get a child to sleep?


Here are some answers from a mothers group.

We have been dealing with this and FINALLYYYY solved the problem. 30 minutes before bedtime we give him LUNA Melatonin pills and we reversed the lock on his door to face the hall! Took a week before he quit! But it worked!

Lavender in a diffuser... And lock the door. My friends daughter did the same thing and would fall asleep at the door for a few nights until she realized that she wasn't going to win the fight to get out of the room.

Yep- we give melatonin before bed too. Really works. Also- when you are putting her back to bed- do not interact with her. It's time- says it's time to go to bed, every time after that, just put her back to bed and say nothing. I also take away their favorite blanket, stuffed animal etc and that seems to help.

I started tart cherry juice and diffusing lavender or Doterra serenity in her room over melatonin option.

Cut down on nap and lock the door. I had to or mine wouldn't ever fall asleep! We unlock after he's fallen asleep just in case he needs us

We use an app called "Calm" and they have sleep stories. At first that helped but now she wants me to lay with her. I give her a time limit or if she gets up I leave. Lately we have been telling her to listen to the story and tell me the ending tomorrow. That has been working so well this past week. I remember this phase with my son and looking back it was short lived. Good luck!

Tell us your tips and tricks!


 

Bad Nanny siting Riverside Park

Nanny dark skinned )Jamaican?)blue shirt and small girl pink top in riverside park. Nanny was very aggressive with the child for no reason. Loud yelling and physically abusive


Nanny need advice!

Hello, I hope I receive some advice. I provide childcare for 2 families. It's a part time job and receive payment in cash from both families. I am being audited by the state of Maryland. They are requesting that I provide address and social security numbers from these families. I asked them if they are willing and of course they are very hesitant to do so. I have never gave them my social security number. Thank you!

Regards,

Friday

Not Good Child Sighting - with John Quinones

" What would you do? " just had an interesting episode in which a child actor pretended to talk down to and even threaten the nanny. In the toy store the actor said things like " You have to do what I say, I pay you" and " You're just the nanny, you don't mean anything, buy me this toy or i will have you fired " etc. They showed a mother telling the child actor "How would you feel? She is a person."  And one patron cried for the nanny's hurt feelings, another lady tracked down the child's "mom" another actress and discussed it. Has a child ever crossed the line from just being a child into really wrong/demeaning behavior? What is the best way to handle it?


What would you do?

Thursday

Bad Nanny Sighting Harry Chapin park - Brooklyn, NY

Very unprofessional nanny, put her hand on my child and not in a friendly or helpful way. This event took place at Harry Chapin park which we frequent on a weekly basis.

This nanny was very unprofessional to say the least. She put her hand on my son and that's where I draw the line. I'm all for the village raising a kid but not when you handle a child in a demeaning unfriendly way and trying to yank a truck from under him while yelling at him "why are you playing with both trucks?!!!" this happens right in front of me and I am in utter disbelief that it's really happening. The child in her care runs up to my son to take the truck from him and my three-year old son pushes him away. The child loses his balance and falls on his butt. I walk over to pick him up to make sure he is fine, and he is. As I was about to talk to my son to have him come over to apologize, the nanny goes straight for my son while she's yanking at the truck from under him, she yells at him, "WHY ARE YOU PLAYING WITH BOTH TRUCKS?!!!" when my son wouldn't let go of the truck, she starts yanking at his arm. I tell her "don't to touch my son!" Then she proceeds to yell at me. I'm amazed at how instantly angry she is and I ask her, did my son personally hurt you? While she's hovering on top of me, she starts yelling at me, way too close to my face. She then grabs her child and while carrying him, she yells at me and says, "get that shit under control! Take care of that shit!" I was both flabbergasted and appalled. I should've called the cops but my son was crying and I felt I needed to take ourselves from the situation because she was so angry and getting so close to my face. I took her picture and once she saw me take a picture she decided to take her picture or video of me, She puts her phone very close to my face and my son's face. I do have her name and phone number from a business card she's been passing around to other nannies. Her name is Tara W. When I asked other nannies if they know her, they didn't hesitate to give me her info. So I have her name and number but it doesn't really help me find her employers. I'm told I can file a police report but I would much rather have her employers tell her that she is not allowed to touch other children or speak to any parent or child in a disrespectful manner. She also needs to control her temper and anger and be professional most especially while their son is under her care. It's not healthy for their child or other children to constantly be exposed to so much anger.

I'm also posting in other mommy sites in the neighborhood as well.

Even if she was having a bad day, I don't understand why she thinks it's okay to touch other people's kids that way or speak to anyone in that manner. I'm not sure what else to do.



Wednesday

HELP PLEASE!! What do I do?

I am in a rough situation and I know I'm my heart the right thing to do. I know also what you are all going to say.. but here it goes.. the family I have been a nanny for has been really upsetting lately. Things have just gone south. Things are the same as they were when I first started 2 1/2 years ago.
Parents have become rude and crude. Mom is consistently embarrassing me and talking down to me or about his oldest. One time she took a 6oz baby bottle off the drying rack and found formula still inside (after she "washed it"). She put it into the sanitation bag and cleaned it that morning. I used the 4 oz bottles and didn't touch it all day.

I'm not allowed to suddenly take kids out. One time- mom didn't have an address for me to meet her I was calling from my cell phone in the car- trying to get to the doc office that I didn't know where it was and I got lost. After trying to call her 100 times- my cell died in the car. I went home in tears.

Bosses are always late. My position starts and ends at 7am/6pm. I understand that they have the occasional traffic/car troubles but this is everyday I don't get to leave before 6:30/6:45. Sometimes, especially with dad, around 7pm.

A couple weeks ago- mom had picked up C from school (the oldest- he just turned 3 years) he came home screaming/crying for mom to play with him. Also found out (next day) that oldest wanted to take his mom out for coffee. C wanted to spend time with her. Anyway, mom had to finish her work in home office. Had to be on call. Mom was so upset. "I have to get on this call- its so important- S (me the nanny) will you please just f&$@in feed him (child gets symptoms of low blood sugar and can get really upset) so he stops being an a$&. I was so upset!! She has no control over her kid.

The oldest has hit his baby brother- right in front of me and mom (as we were talking). I said C you are in time out and mom says time outs are a joke to him (child) I count... Um thanks for telling me and what does counting do? Oldest is very sweet and loving. Super smart. But mom let's him get away with everything. He has bit me and times out work wonders for me. I never have an issue afterwards. I've tried to talk to my bosses and nothing is being resolved. (I get nothing but blame and mind your business attitude from boss- like she so frustrated with me...

I have a chance to leave this position this week. I was offered a fabulous job with a lot more money. I would have to start next week. I love the boys I currently work with and have not told my bosses yet- I know it will end ugly. I don't want to do this with the boys- I have a bond with them. This thought is killing me.. but when you have bosses that treat you like crap....Help!!



Friday

Bad nanny sighting New Rochelle

This nanny was at the New Rochelle Library this AM, with 2 children, a boy between the age of 1-2 yrs and a baby girl. The nanny was physically rough w the boy + intimidating, she roughly handled him at least 4x in ten min. The baby girl very nearly fell from her lap, her head falling back abruptly. I don't feel this nanny is fit for kids, especially so young! I alerted library staff.

Monday

I was just used... I think!

I really like my MB and kids and they had me accompany them to a wedding (to watch their kids). There was a room with many toys JUST for the kids which was where I was with the children. There were 30 other kids acting horribly, getting into fights, running, etc. A mother stuck her head in and said "do your job they are running everywhere" There were two teens that were being paid and just sat there giggling on the cell phones... What should I have done? I just kept my two kids occupied and stayed away from the awful kids.


Wednesday

Dealing with dads immature behavior...

When you start to realize how much of a immature jerk your boss is and as much as you hate to leave your precious nanny child, you know you don't deserve to be treated that way.

This past Week, I had Got a stomach bug that started in the middle of the night. I notified my bosses as soon as I realized I was unable to work. The one boss was able to get home to be able to cover in this situation. The immature boss decided to be mad at me for several days deliberately avoiding me and not speaking to me. I was told by my other boss just how mad he was tonight. My response was this was something that just happened not deliberate. His response was well you know how he does not handle stress and I should basically accept his behavior. He is the one who is married to this immature jerk, so he chooses to live his life with this jerk. But for me, I've never dealt with this type of behavior before and I'm not married to him, so why should I have to? What would you all do? Keep in mind, this is not the first time I've had to deal with his immature behavior.

Sunday

Food Fight

I'm not a nanny, I have worked with kids before but I am needing views about a nanny I am having trouble with. I have a weekend job giving out samples of these high end cheese products, crackers,cheese,olives and salami at a local grocery store. Part of the job is to be social and talk to the customers. There are two kids, a girl and boy, seven and six years - sometimes they come in with the mom and sometimes with the nanny. When it is the mom, no problem, all normal, they all get a sample or two, the mother sometimes buys the crackers. But every time the nanny brings the kids they keep eating and eating the samples,hanging out for thirty minutes to an hour. As part of my job I've made "friends" with the nanny who talks about her job,unhappy with her pay. She has actually told me thank you for the samples as she keeps the kids lunch money! The manager thought she was a personal friend of mine which of course I tried to explain. I work for an agency, not the grocery store and I am afraid I am going to be fired if I get a complaint. Should I tell the mother? I have told the agency owner who is hands off and just said "handle it."

Monday

Should I stay or should I go?

Started a nanny position 3 years ago (September)

Before baby:
$10.00-55 hours week

After baby:
$11.00/1 child. $13.00/2 children

Hours

Monday, Weds, and Friday 11 hour days @ $13.00/hr

Tuesday and Thursday. 5.5 hours @ $11.00 (older child in school)

So basically I am earning about $80-100 less than what I started with

Should I stay or should I go?


Wednesday

Mom needs advice

I am a new mom (I have a 7mo old) I am thinking about going to back to work and hiring a nanny.

Since I have never done this, does anyone have any good tips on:


1, Where to look for a nanny

2. What type of compensation should i offer? (Hourly, Weekly)  extra for the weekends?

3. Do I need to offer paid time off?

4. Health Insurance?


Any other suggestions that you think might be helpful.


Thanks, 
 A New Mommy

Interesting ad on CL!


Housekeeper Live In (Houston)

compensation: $1500 per month plus free lodging & other benefits

employment type: full-time Seeking to hire a live in person to help take care of our house and to also provide additional care for our 6 year olds and 19 month old girl.

We currently have two other non live-in nannies that provide care for our children. You would be providing care when they are not at work. We also intend to hire a second live in housekeeper. There is and will be significant time off plus one day off per week.

Both parents speak Spanish so it is acceptable to be Spanish speaking only.

We have residences in San Antonio & Houston, so you must be willing to travel with us to both cities..

Pay is $1500 cash per month plus free food, free use of our cars for personal use, medical insurance and free food lodging. The pay is basically all spending money.

We require that the person love children, be kind and gentle, and have excellent child care skills.

This can be a very long term position for the right person.

Do not apply if you have young children of your own, have a substantial amount of planned outside activities that will limit your schedule, or do not want to live in. We are only hiring a full time live in person for this position.

If you are interested, please email us to the address below, telling us about your experience, how you might fit this position, and provide contact information..


twinsamyannie@gmail.com

Estamos buscando a una ninera (mujer) que viva con nosotros y cuide a nuestra nina de 19 meses y un par de ninas de 6 anos.

Ahora tenemos a dos personas que no viven con nosotros las cuales cuidan a nuestras hijas. Usted estaria cuidando a las ninas cuando las otras dos personas no estan trabajando. Esperamos contratar a una segunda persona que se quede a vivir con nosotros. Habra suficiente tiempo libre mas aparte un dia de descanso por semana.

Ambos padres hablan Espanol asi que es acceptable si la persona habla solamente Espanol.

Tenemos residencia en San Antonio & Houston, asi que la persona interesada debe estar dispuesta a viajar a las dos ciudades.

El salario es de $1500 por mes en efectivo mas alimentos gratis, puede usar uno de nuestros autos para uso personal en el tiempo libre, seguro medico y no tiene que pagar nada de renta. El dinero es practimante dinero para gastar.

Requeremos que la persona quiera a los ninos, sea dulce y amable y tenga excelente cuidado con los ninos.

Este puesto puede ser para tiempo largo para la persona correcta.

No nos contacte si usted tiene ninos de corta edad viviendo con usted, tiene actividades planeadas que limitaran su disponibilidad, o no quiere quedarse a vivir en casa. Solo estamos contratando a personas que esten disponibles para vivir con nosotros.

Si esta interesada, por favor envienos un correo a la direccion a continuacion, diganos sobre su experiencia, como cree que puede ser una buena candidata para el puesto, y provea su informacion para contactarla.

Si usted esta interesada, por favor envie un correo electronico a la direccion a continuacion. Diganos a cerca de su experiencia y como es que piensa que puede ser una buena candidata para este puesto.

twinsamyannie@gmail.com

Thursday

GRRRR!

I am really angry right now so maybe I should have waited before writing this. I am the nanny for a 4 year old boy and he and I get along very well. I will probably ask for a raise in the future but I am satisfied so far with what I am making. Here is what has me angry: I have had 2 friends call me and tell me about my MB complaining about me on the web!!! She does it on a neighborhood FB for mothers which I am not a member of but I have friends and other part time bosses who are. My friend let me go on there and see, MB does not mention me by name but mentions 3 incidents, one where I served  my charge and 2 of his friends a macaroni and cheese casserole MB was planning to serve for supper. Another one where she thought I was serving him Gatorade, which I was drinking and he had watered down OJ. And some other thing I forget at the moment. She never tells me these concerns, she is always very polite to me, but now I find she is badmouthing me behind my back. Do I confront her? Let it go and say something vague?

Tuesday

Hot outside.

I am a nanny to a 2 yr old and a 7 yr old.  they both enjoy being outside, but we live in Louisiana where it is very hot in the summertime.   Does anyone have any ideas for good activities for me and my kiddos?

thank you in advance!


Sunday

found this on CL.


SCAM ALERT - NANNY / BABYSITER WANTED (Houston)

I have been contacted multiple times by a scammer using different emails and aliases after I posted an ad looking for work as a nanny / caregiver. The person has used both text and email but always asks you to email his email address for more info regarding the position. They included pictures on one text. He has even looked up my number to find the area code location and then told me he lived in the same area. The end result is the person is wanting you to cash a check for pay upfront. I googled the area code phone number and it was linked to multiple extortion attempts / scams out of Puerto Rico. If you look carefully, enough, you may notice some small indicators that the person is not a native English speaker and may be using a translator. What is unique about this person is that they will text back and forth and really spend some time on the scam. I will post two emails below so that you can see the similarities. ***THIS IS A CHECK CASHING SCAM. This person wants you to cash a check that is no good but will take some time to flop. You will go cash it and send them part of the money and keep the rest. Eventually, you will be contacted by your financial institution for reimbursement of the fraudulent check.

From "Shawn Baker"

Hi, Thanks so much for getting back to me, I am glad to find you on craigslist I hope you get to be our ideal caregiver. My wife's name is Madison and our first child named Lisa of 5 years old. My wife is 6 months pregnant and we are in the process of re-locating to your city, I will appreciate if you can recommend a good doctor for her when we arrive. I will be working on a contract basis with the U.S. Department of Health & Human Services building, doing private research work and am in need of someone who can help my wife as personal assistant when necessary and childcare for my baby, taking care of her as yours. You would only be needed for 4 hours in a day, 3 days in a week. We are a Christian family, but we don't put the religious issue in the childcare case, you can also work for us as a Muslim or any other tribe, we just need you to be warm and kind with our family and help us in getting around the cities and some other helps you can render for us but the most important thing is child care, we are planning our move already and we will like to secure a childcare worker before our arrival so we will be glad to have you work for us if you will be interested in doing this work for us.
There's nobody who smokes here, we don't smoke in our family.
Lisa is a sweet baby to be with. I have a Personal Assistant who is helping me with the re-locating process. It's okay if you prefer to be a live-in or live-out as babysitter, just as I can drop her at your home everyday, and I will also like to let you know that transportation is not a problem, we can provide a very reliable transport, will greatly appreciate if you will be delighted to accept this offer as we would be arriving on 25th of MAY If you accept this position, I will instruct my finance manager to process the a payment for your first week upfront payment so that I can be rest assured of your availability for the job and wouldn't need to search for a Babysitter any more perhaps we have some items we ordered for Lisa and only the payment is pending and the items will be shipped soon as we pay so the check might include the funds that will pay for the items. As soon as I discuss everything with my finance manager I will get back to you on how you will be receiving the payment I'll also like you to know we are willing to pay you weekly which is $400 that we are willing to pay you per week and we hope that is okay with you,and help us do some errands upon our arrival.
If this employment opportunity is acceptable to you, kindly get back to me asap with the information below required for confirmation and further proceedings to take place:

Full name:
Contact Address: (Not P.O. Box)
Apt #:
City, States and Zip code :
Home & Cell numbers:
Age

Our expected arrival date is 25th of MAY and we want to pay for your first week service to secure your service. All we ask from you is honesty and sincerity. And am sure you will enjoy the time you will spend with my daughter. Please do look into this if you will be interested in working for our family, take just a moment to get back to us and lets have your views. We look forward to hear back from you again in a few if you will be a friend to our daughter.
Please do get in touch on time so that we can start making arrangements with our travel agency while I await your swift response regards this employment offer and the requested details

From "William Thomboro"

Dear _____,
Thanks for getting back to me promptly concerning the babysitting/nanny job, I'm Willy Thomboro the Husband to Kaith with my daughter Angie, We are coming in to your state on vacation from Manchester (England), I contacted you as babysitter/ Nanny for my daughter, because I want her to get used to the environment around her and also make new friends, She is potty trained and also a fast learner, she also loves to swim and visit the park around once a while.

The main reason why I need someone to get this done for us is because we are expecting our baby boy very soon, and it might be a little bit stressful for my wife and for myself because I have to make sure she is fine and get her to the Hospital for her check up and more, while I am doing all this I don't want Angie to feel lonely or bored we will be arriving on the (28Th-May-2017) for a duration of 2 months or more, I might understand if you wont be able to get it done for us for 2 month, but for the time we can have you help us get settled and if you can take care of her for that time then that's fine too.

We will be offering you $350 weekly for 15 hrs a week, I will be offering you more pay because I want you to do the job good with my kid will be needing your services for five hours from (10 am-3 pm or 4 pm-9 pm) for three days in a week or you can schedule a convenient time for you and let me know what time is okay for you to take care of her probably (Thursday to Saturday) I would be needing the service of a caring babysitter/nanny with positive personality to take good care of her on a part time basis moreover I want to be certain you are fit for this position, you will need to prove yourself to be a reliable, honest, and hard working person, you will start working on same day or next day it's okay if you prefer to be a live-out nanny as I can drop her at your home every time I do not mind or a live-in nanny if you can take care of her in our home.

I will instruct the landlord to mail the keys and description of the house to you so you can know the location, also you will be helping us in purchasing groceries for our home complex before or on the day of our arrival and you will be rendering us your services for that duration if you meet up to our expectation with your services. We have a financier that is based in the states and will be handling the payment and as well as our other expenses so he will be the one that will be taking care of your payment, I will instruct him to pay for the first week before our arrival so as to secure your service. if you accept our offer my wife financier would need the following information to mail out the first week payment and some of our other expenses payment that you will be taking care on our behalf before our arrival to the state.


Full Name:
Home Address or Office Address (where payment should be mailed to. No P.O Box:
city:
State:
Zip Code:
Home & Cell Phone Number (Best time to call Day/Night) :

Most importantly, I'll need your total honesty, organizational skill and ability to carry out the task with less or no supervision. I want to believe you will be committed to the work, you can be sure of a great time while watching over Angie. I will be waiting to read from you.



Regards,
Willy's family

Tuesday

Lost my temper today

Oh boy! I completely lost my temper at the park today. 3.5f told me she had to go potty, great no bathroom at the park! This is why I told both 3.5f and 3.5f (twins) to try and go potty before we left. I did not get upset because she needed to go potty, I got upset because when I asked her if she went potty before we came to the pirate ship park like I asked, and she said no, however at home she told me she went potty. Then I decided to have her try and go potty behind some bushes because we were the only people at park and I didn't want her to have an accident, but she couldn't so I said okay then we have to go home. If course she gets upset about that because we just got there (I'm sad too!) So twin 2 comes over and I tell her we have to go home because twin1 needs to go potty. So I put twin 2 in her carseat, and shut the door. Got twin 1 in her carseat and asked one more time if she wanted to try and go potty so we didn't have to go home, and she said yes. So we tried rifht outside twin 2s door. It's pretty warm today and I had the windows open in car but I decided to open twin 2s door so she wouldn't get too hot. Oh, it's locked! (She's been locking her foot the past couple of weeks and I've been trying to get her to stop doing that because I don't want something to happen and she gets stuck in the car!) So I knock on window and tell her to open her door. Which she can t unlock it, I had the keys so it was fine, she wasn't trapped or anything but it made me angry because I keep telling her to quit locking the door. So then I lost my temper and yelled at the girls because they weren't listening to directions. And I felt terrible during the drive home and tried talking to them about it. So I told them we weren't watching a movie today like we always do, and that we were having some quiet time when we get home. When we got home, twin 1 sat on the potty for like 10 minutes and guess what? She didn't have to go :/ all that for nothing.

I just needed to write down all my feeling from the last hour and a half. I feel terrible! The girls are happy and giving me hugs now so I know they are okay but still.

Nanny needs advice

Hello All,

I am a full time nanny is desperate need of some advice. I work with a wonderful family caring for 2 little sweet boys. I work some pretty long hours sometimes mostly from 55 to 60 hrs per week.

I usually start at 7:30 in the mornings until 7, but sometimes when my boss travels I come in for 6. When I come in for 6, I have to be up at 3 a.m because the trains run local and have to leave home by 4 just to be on time.

My trouble is, the younger child who is still 2, still takes his morning nap, and that is usually the time I take a break, but problem is, parents wants to cut out the nap. If I cut out his nap, he would cry, fuss, fight and be miserable all day. I am a little frustrated about this because, if I am up so early, and the baby is crying all day (without me taking a break) no one would be happy.

Please advice me, I really love my job, and don't want to be force to quit because of this. I am considering the children happiness and also my happiness, sanity and health. Being up so early without a break and a fussy child all day is no good for anyone.

Sincerely,
Concern Nanny.

Monday

We received a scam on our email....

God Fearing Nanny Needed Urgently

Me and my family recently relocate to Florida and we will need a God fearing nanny to take good care of our two kids.

Applicant can apply from any country across the global with Attractive salary and accommodation guarantee.
Interested applicant can reply.
Thanks you


hmmmmm CL WTF or Not?

I'm looking for a LIVE IN mother helper to help me with my house chores and two kids (2-year-old and 3-month-old) in the evening and on weekends. Its is 80% house keeping and meal prep and 20% nanny. I would need you to do my laundry, ironing, tiding the house, dishes and light cleaning all week with one day deep cleaning (including bathrooms). Also, you will help with taking care of the young baby while the nanny is taking the older on to library/story time (twice a week for 2 hours). Occasionally I might need you to run errands. I will also need help with meal prep during the week. On weekends, I would like help with the kids and house. hours are FLEXIBLE but no more than 40 hours per week. We will provide room furnished plus food expenses and a cell phone line. If you are interested in this let us know. Thanks

Interesting Post from CL... What are you thoughts?

Nanny Afternoon & Evenings for Twin 6 Year Old Girls (Houston) hide this posting

compensation: Up to $15/hour
employment type: full-time
Nanny to care for twin 5 year old girls, who are healthy, normal, active and are being home schooled.

Nanny to work between the hours of 2pm and 12 midnight, usually in about 8 hour increments, more or less,. You will be able to work between 40 hours per week and sometimes more.

The nanny will take the girls daily out of our house to visit museums, the zoo, the park, and other places where they can learn and have fun.

Nanny must be able to teach our girls how to read using electronic books and computer programs. They already know how to read somewhat and this will be easy for any reasonably intelligent person to do. You will just have to follow our plan. The primary teachers are the parents.

We require that any Nanny be intelligent, computer literate, a fun person, a nice person and have sufficient energy to keep up with our girls.

We also have a 17 month old girl who will generally be cared for be a different nanny. You will never need to take all three children out of our house.

Galleria area location.

Pay up to $15/hour based on past pay rates. Raises might be possible for someone who is extraordinarily good.

We are willing for you to also be a live-in. If so, we would furnish vehicle that you could also use personally, paid vacation, and medical benefits.

Do not apply if you have young children of your own or have a very restricted schedule

If you are interested, please email us to the address below, telling us about your experience and how you might fit this position.

Money Questions...

Just curious, what is the least amount you have ever worked for? What were your duties? How long were you there?

What is the most about you have worked for, what were your duties and how long were you there?

Which just did you get the most satisfaction from?

Thanks for reading and answering!

SS

MOMS - HERE IS WHY YOU NEED A GREAT NANNY LIKE THE ONES HERE ON ISYN

This was posted on facebook back in January. THIS IS SCARY

http://www.ketv.com/…/3-individuals-cited-for-child…/8597798


So I get to my kids' daycare last night (Busy Bees 3602 F ST, Omaha NE 68107) and when i got to the door I heard my son screaming so I rang the doorbell (They keep the door locked so you can't get in without them letting you in) and the teacher inside ignored me until she saw that I was starring through the window and my son is strapped by his waist in a little wooden chair. She came and opened the door and I asked her why my 4 year old is strapped into a chair and she said, "I don't know he was strapped in this chair when I got here." I asked her when she got there she told me 5pm, I look at the clock and it's 6:18pm. I asked her why he was being restrained and why for over an hour, she told me she didn't know... I asked her why shes been there for over an hour and has not let my child out of this chair and she just shrugged like she had no idea what was going on all she knows is Ms Kat put him in the chair. So at this point my blood is boiling and I'm trying not to lose it. To make matters worse the woman stood up and accidentally bumped into the chair he was strapped in and knocked him over and he smacked his head on a table. He couldn't even break his fall bc he was trapped in this chair and he hit his head so hard he immediately started screaming. This teacher gave me no valid reason as to why he was being restrained or why she didn't remove him from the chair. Once i got him into my car and was strapping him in i noticed his pants were wet, so not only did you sick mfs restrain my child he peed his pants and yall just left him strapped into this chair to sit in pissy jeans? I balled my eyes out the whole drive home, I would never do anything like that to my child or any child. I contacted the owner of the daycare, Nicole (Nikki) Halbfass via Facebook and told her what was going on and she told me she would "talk" to her employees. She told me she reviewed the camera footage so I asked her HOW LONG WAS MY CHILD RESTRAINED and her response was, "I only viewed the footage from 5pm when the teacher arrived until you came and left. So I asked her can you go back further and tell me how long he was in that chair and she didn't respond to my message. I do feel as though my son was strapped into that chair for waaaaay longer than an hour which any amount of time is too much. He's 4 years old why is he in this thing? The fact that this chair is a danger to his safety bc of how easily it tips over and they still strapped him into it for lord knows how long or how many times really bothers me :( What if he wouldn't have just hit his head and got a knot what if it was worse than that? Do NOT send your children to this facility bc the lady they call Ms Kat is an abusive woman, none of the kids there like her, I have heard her threaten kids with the "time out chair" not knowing what the hell that even was until I found my own child strapped into it for an insane amount of time. Nikki will not fire Kat and she will not suspend her either even though her negligence and abuse caused my child to be injured. But I have filed charges against the staff and also contacted CPS to make sure these people are never able to care for children again. When the Officers arrived today and met me at the center Ms Nikki and the other staff tried to lie to the police about the purpose of that chair and they messed their stories up so the police could tell something wasnt right. Now I'm sitting here in the daycare parking lot waiting for crime lab to get here. Yall got me and my son messed up and I promise this won't be over until yall pay for this. I feel so guilty that I trusted these people :( Like what if he spends every single day in that chair? Restraining any human being for hours is a former of torture and this is exactly what they did to my son.

Sunday

Opinions, Thoughts, feelings please!

Ok yall, please indulge me, this is not a nanny story, but is does have to do with children.  I would like your opinions and thoughts on something I heard on the news the other morning.  It is called "Lunch Shaming" For those of you that don't know what lunch shaming is it when a child doesn't have enough money for lunch their hot lunch is taken away and they are given a cold sandwich and milk or juice.   I am not sure what the answer is, but I would like your thoughts and opinions.  How do you think this issue should be handled?

Thanks for reading!

SS

Ps: here is an article from Fox News about it.

http://www.foxnews.com/politics/2017/04/13/lawmakers-push-to-end-lunch-shaming-at-schools.html






Thursday

Bad Nanny Sighting - Frustration With Hydration - In Manhattan!

About an hour ago I saw someone's nanny on 22nd St between 5th and 6th Ave in Manhattan being less than gentle with a quiet toddler having trouble with his apparently new "sippy bottle". After harshly telling him that it was the same as his other cups and warning him not to tilt it, she forcefully pushed the long silver bottle-like container (shiny chrome bottle with straw feature) down into his hand. She frustratingly said "I keep telling you over and over". Disgusted, she slows the stroller down to do this with him. No compassion--nothing the mother of these two children would expect to see. There were 2 children: the toddler brother was forward facing on the nanny's left and the infant was rear-facing in the infant seat on the nanny's right. She was a Black woman with a Caribbean accent very short curly haircut (curls with scalp showing) wearing a quilt-stitch brown jacket that covered her backside. She had on dark blue jeans and ankle high weather boots--quite fashionable. She was between 5' 6" and 5' 10" tall with dark brown skin. If not terminated, she should be observed very closely. How do you treat someone else's child like that on city street? Makes me wonder how she treats the poor fellow behind closed doors!

Tuesday

So What Is a Blog?


This article may be helpful to understand what we are doing here...


Let’s begin with some definitions. A bit dry, we realize, but this is a necessary evil. First we’ll define the word this whole site is based around – blog.

A blog is a frequently updated online personal journal or diary. It is a place to express yourself to the world. A place to share your thoughts and your passions. Really, it’s anything you want it to be. For our purposes we’ll say that a blog is your own website that you are going to update on an ongoing basis. Blog is a short form for the word weblog and the two words are used interchangeably.

Originally blogs were known primarily as places for people to write about their day-to-day activities. Their mundane, everyday tasks became fodder for journal entries. Somehow these writers gained a following and the hobby of blogging was born. Today people write about far more interesting topics, but we’ll get to that in a minute.
Who Blogs?

So who are these fearless people who would be willing to post about their lives in as public a forum as the Internet? They are people just like you. Once the haven of technical know-it-alls, blogging has suddenly caught-on as a legitimate hobby and has entered the mainstream. Every day millions of people, some of whom have no technical ability whatsoever, write on their blogs.

To meet this demand some amazing tools have been created that will allow anyone, even people with very little knowledge of computers, to have their own blog. If you can find your way onto the Internet and follow some basic instructions you can have your own blog. It’s just that easy.
Why Do People Blog?

So you may be asking why anyone would want to have their own blog. We believe the answer lies in the fact that every human has a voice and wishes their voice to be heard. The Internet is a medium that is unparalleled in its reach. Never before have average people like you or me been able to reach a global audience with so little trouble. Bloggers have the opportunity of reaching hundreds or even thousands of people each and every day.

There are still many people who like to share the details of their days. They may post twenty or thirty times a day, detailing when they ate lunch and when they headed home from work. On the other hand there are bloggers who give almost no detail about their lives, but write instead about a hobby or interest of theirs. They may dedicate their blog to something they are passionate about.

In fact, today’s blogs can provide hair tips, up-to-date news, technical information, celebrity scandal, political rumor, gets people involved in volunteering, advice on investments as well as there being blogs about niche topics like cooking, health, gardening, sport, blogging blogs (this blog) and of course many personal blogs and quite a few strange blogs.


http://blogbasics.com/what-is-a-blog/


Monday

Just a little bit of History that involves a Nanny!

THE WHITE PRINCESS - and The Present Queen - descended from a nanny! (Katherine Swynford )

Many fans are enjoying this romp thru history about Elizabeth of York, the mother of King Henry VIII. A fun fact many people do not know is that she and her husband the king - Henry VII were descended from a nanny! They called it being a governess, but the same duties applied.

This all happened in the 14th century, Katherine became the nanny to John of Ghaunts wife Blanche who was sick, He was a handsome prince and soldier, son of Edward III. Katherine was very beautiful with reddish hair, but her successful road to power was not easy. They waited till Blanche passed away to have their affair and she had 4 children 3 boys and a girl - all given the name BEAUFORT. But john was very proud and arrogant and wanted to make a powerful marriage which he did to a queen, and Katherine's reputation was ruined for a time but she was careful and patient.

But later when that wife died John relented and married Katherine, slowly she fought the sneers and insults about her birth and she and her children became very powerful and royal, eventually the ancestors of England 's and Scotland's and Spain's royal kings and queens - all descended from the nanny Katherine Swynford.




Nanny needs advice...

I need advice on how to deal with a 2 year old who screams bloody murder EVERY time we separate him from mom. Mom is frustrated, I'm frustrated, and we thought it could be a phase or he would grow out of it but its been a long time.

How can we make the transition better? How can we help him be less clingy of mom when I'm not here? I feel terrible for her because, while I know she loves her children more than anything, this poor woman can get nothing done without him needing to be with her, and if he cant he screams. There is no middle ground!!!

Thanks!

Sunday

suggestions please!

Hello, 

I am not currently a nanny, (I have been a baby sitter in my teenage years and worked at a day care, I am now 26) I would like some advice on becoming a nanny.  Are there classes I should take? What is the best way to find a nanny job?  Any help or suggestions would be appreciated!!

Thank you!

Wednesday

what to do?

I am a full time nanny for a 3 year old and 5 month old baby. Upon arrival of newborn- parents offered me a raise ($13 for both boys and $11 for when I just have the baby). Starting in June 3 year old will be in school 3 full days a week which will significantly lower my paycheck. They sprung the preschool bit on me after the fact (raise)

Tuesday

Frustrated Nanny needs advice

I feel so frustrated and depressed. I've been working in the Upper West Side for almost a year being the nanny to a 8 year old kid. More like the mom really because they work really long hours and are never around. They make a LOT of money and the kid goes to a top private school (tuition of nearly $50.000 a year). Parents have very successful jobs but yet I only get paid $20 an hour off the books part time, since kid is at school 9hs. I was never offered the opportunity to be on the books but I have decided it's time for me to step up for myself and have a talk with them. I have no benefits whatsoever, no meals included, no overtime when kid is off school working more than 40hs. I am a very hard working person who have struggled a lot to come to this country and be where I am today. I have worked my but off for countless of other families and different jobs. At the moment I'm working towards my bachelors in science and boy it's hard to juggle it all together. I feel I do so much more than what their parents do for their kid in terms of bringing love and a sense of connection to his life. I only work part time and not only a nanny but running errands, grocery shopping and cooking. It's been almost a year and no raise conversation, no birthday present, very low Christmas bonus of $300. Considering I'm practically raising their kid and the one who spends the most hours with him during the week, for a Manhattan nanny working for an upper class family with just one kid that have a way above high standard of living and high income I'm getting ripped off. I do not even live In Manhattan and cannot make ends meet anymore with this wage. Truth is I need to pay my bills and being on the books and a raise is something I deserve to give myself dignity and power to other nannies doing what we do and be seen as a what it is: a very important job, a professional.

Please I need to urgently know what is a reasonable but decent rate to charge for families of this type and what benefits should I ask for.


Kindly,


Frustrated nanny

Monday

Gracious Me Academy's Anna Minter weighs in on being a nanny!

I am very excited to weigh in on the subject of being a nanny. In 1980, when my sons were 1 month, 14 months, and 3 ½, I left a very promising career with AT&T (complete with bountiful benefits) to stay home and become a nanny. Armed with various crafts, audio story and song cassettes, toys, educational workbooks, and miniature furniture, I felt prepared and excited for my new venture. Our outside yard looked like a park with a huge slide and clubhouse/ tree house and sandbox. I had been to night school for early childhood development classes, I am bi-lingual, I am patient and loving, I was CPR trained and my home was certified. I was ready to start accepting new charges or was I? Did I mention that I was only 23 years of age when I started?

Our home was situated on an acre just outside of Los Angeles, north of Burbank, Ca. The rural landscape provided a perfect setting for farm animals and lots of healthy children’s activities. In no time, I had 10 children in my home (8 in diapers)I might have been over my certification limit at various times.I didn’t know how to say no (besides the money was great) I recruited a friend to assist. Life was great for the first few months.

Within the first 6 months my friend abandoned ship, my husband helped when he could. Without so much as two words I accepted an acquaintance to join forces. Without a proper background check and training, she proved to be more trouble than help. She stated bossing ME around and called in sick and wanted me to continue to pay her on days she did not show up. Soon I was on my own again. I couldn’t quit because first, I truly did not want to leave my children with anyone but me, second, I had made an investment into equipment, third, I was making money, and most important to me, I was no quitter. My reputation was building and I did not have to advertise for new enrollees, so I braved on.

Truth be told, it was extremely difficult. I persevered for 5 years, until I literally had a nervous breakdown. I went to my Dr. because I was losing so much weight and my hair was falling out. He told me my stress level was out of control.

In hindsight here is what I learned: My children were suffering because I would get to them last they were on the bottom of the totem pole. No one was coming to pick up my kids, so I was just keeping them busy until all the other children’s needs were met and their parents came. By the time the last child was wiped clean, packed-up and retrived, I was too exhausted to give the proper nurturing to my own children. I had not set limits for space, I put babies in my children’s cribs and in spite of cleanliness (I had hired a part time-housekeeper) we had contracted head lice, including me. I shut down for 2 weeks and took the furniture out shaved my sons’ heads and cut my hair. Every day we were disinfecting toys and washing loads of laundry. Weekends were spent getting ready for the upcoming week. Parents did not have the understanding for my workload. They often came late or did not show up for care most times not even calling and I had not set limits for them to pay on days missed.

What I learned is that many parents had their own guilt about leaving their children in someone else’s care. Pretty soon the good cop, bad cop game would start-up. Parents wanted to play best friend with their children and wanted me to hold the line of strict discipline. My best foot forward, I opted to error on the side of patience and nurture so that the children would feel love and security in my care. But it all came at a cost. Rearing our own children is challenging enough, adding a house full of other children started causing resentment. We were limited as to where we could go and often missed out on family fun during the week even weekends due to kid overload. I was burning out.

After 5 years of working as a Nanny, I took the advice of my doctor and resigned. I can honestly say, in good conscience, parents and children alike were saddened that I could no longer continue. But, here’s the thing, no one seemed to fully appreciate all the work and care that went into rearing their children in their absence. This added insult to injury.

All in all I learned so much caring for children. I gained skills and pulled on my gift and strength of patience. 5 years later I would become an elementary school, kindergarten teacher. Fast-forward to today and I have now retired from teaching. The ironic thing, I have been considering returning to the nanny field. This time I do not have children of my own to contend with.

Taking the skills I learned as a nanny helped me greatly in the classroom. But the greatest take away was the interpersonal skills I refined as a nanny. Dealing with parents and children alike gave me the idea to write children’s books with an emphasis on manners. As educators, we work to help mold the little ones. Why not take advantage of the fact that we have their attention and the opportunity to touch their hearts. What a noble opportunity. In our current cultural climate, it’s nice to know that people still care about modeling kindness and making a difference.

For what it's worth, here are my words of wisdom to you: remember to keep your own “oxygen mask” on for self-care and self-respect because you are doing a notable and very worthy job. You’ll need every ounce of self-preservation in order to give out; you can’t give what you don’t have. I had to learn this the hard way. I do appreciate your choice to nurture and from one who worked “in the trenches” Thank you!

©2017 Anna Minter - GraciousMeAcademy

Sunday

Rant or Venting....Just a little irritated....am I overreacting?

Hello All,

I just wondered if anyone has the same issue with this as I do. (I am a mom with nearly grown children, as well as a nanny for a 4yr old)

Yesterday, I was at an Easter/Spring party and they had someone dressed as the Easter Bunny.  This bunny helped the kids with the egg hunt and was available for pictures, there was a line for the bunny pictures and while most kids were happy to sit with the bunny, some were not.  Now, here is where my irritation comes in.  The parents of children that wanted no part of the bunny would force their children (while screaming) to sit for a picture with the bunny.  How is that fun for the child?

I don't understand how these parents can not see that they are traumatizing their children.  Am I wrong?

Not Just a Mom.

Tuesday

Stick This Out? Or Go For Better!

I need some advice, I have been a nanny for 5 years since my early 20's. I have had some awesome families,the longest being one I had been with for 3 years part time. I told my last family I was moving so they found another nanny. I am moving as my other half is in the military but it's taking longer than I thought. So I picked up another family and I am miserable. The mom is so overbearing and works from home and comes running anytime the baby cries even if nothing is wrong. Also she won't let me take him for a small walk past the front gate. I am trying to stick this out as we are moving in 2 months. Do I stick it out or leave? I feel completely undermined. All my other families trusted me to take the kids on walks and more, but now I am stuck in a house not only with a 10 month old but the mother too. HELP

Question for our readers...

In our interview with Anna Martinez-Minter yesterday, she her most challenging part of being a nanny was "having to deal with the parents that felt guilty about not being there and the parents would try to be the child's "friend" and wanted to leave the child rearing to me. I felt like we were playing good cop, bad cop and I was always the bad cop.'

What is the most challenging part of your Nannying job?

Staying out of pity?

Hi all, I have a dilemma I am getting mixed advise about and thought I'd ask others. I have been nannying p/t for a teen with special needs M-Friday for almost two years. I was actually supposed to move last year so the family was happily surprised when I signed on for another year. Now I am saving money for a house and need more income. I am literally only making $200 a week which is fair since I work only 2 hours daily. The issue now is that the mom has been going through chemo for this whole year so I only work every other week.. My fiance thinks I should quit and find another job but I like routine and become loyal to families so I want to ask the parents about either paying me for the weeks I don't work or raising my weekly fee to 300 or I may have to quit. My parents think it would be offensive to ask this but I feel like I can't stay out of pity without a raise and I've been working for them for 2 years and I am SURE they have a very hard time finding babysitters and can't easily replace me. Help!

Regards,
Staying out of pity?

Monday

Nanny turned Author Interview

We had a chance to chat with Anna Martinez-Minter about how she went from being a Nanny to a published author of her popular children's book "MABLE SETS THE TABLE".

How long were you a nanny? I was a nanny for 12 years. I did every type of Nannying...from live in to nannying at my home with children staying overnight.

How did you go from being a Nanny to being an author? I truly enjoyed teaching my charges and making learning fun for them. This was my passion and I found a writing group that encouraged me, (I first ended up with a publisher that took control over my book and my writing group helped me with that situation as well and I learned how not to make that mistake again)

What is your specialty as a children's author? focusing on manners helping build a child's "toolbox" of important life skills.

What do you believe are the most important example of manners? Kindness, Awareness outside themselves, Making "please" and "thank you" automatic, Learning to say "I am sorry" and mean it, and being available to help others.

What was the most challenging part of being an nanny? having to deal with the parents that felt guilty about not being there and the parents would try to be the child's "friend" and wanted to leave the child rearing to me. I felt like we were playing good cop, bad cop and I was always the bad cop.

What was your favorite part?
Being able to influence the children in everything that I believe is important aka being a Modern Day Mary Poppins.

How do you become an author?
WRITE, WRITE, WRITE. Watch your charges, they are a wealth of information. They will be your best influence.

Here is a link to her website Gracious Me Academy

http://www.graciousmeacademy.com/

Thank you Miss Anna Martinez- Minter, We appreciate the time you took to chat with I Saw Your Nanny and we look forward to more of your stories!




Thanks for reading!

SS


FAVORED



I have had a nanny job for 3 months and I really need it but there is a part that makes me really uncomfortable.

The younger brother is 4 and the older brother is 7, I am mainly hired for the younger brother, gladly, but I do have to deal with the older brother who I believe is unruly and mean. I always have a fun day with 4 yr old and then when 7 gets home at about 3 by carpool, I constantly have to make sure he does not attack 4 yr old, calls him names, smacks the side of his head, even says " I should kill you!", One time 7 yr said to me - first week - "feel free to smack him anytime you want, I do". Now 7 yr old has many activities and my time with him is limited - Thank goodness for that. The dad works so much I rarely see him, but the mom does get home from work and keeps me there about an hour till she is settled and when 7 yr old says these things to his brother she says in sing song voice "not nice" or ignores it, etc. Now, I am careful to see if 4 yr is ever injured and he is not that I can see - no bruises, and I do what I think best - he adores me - i would do anything for him. But am I doing enough? I need this job. What do I do? thank you



Spring Boredom Busters

Hey Bloggers!

I found this on Pinterest and thought I would share....

It has some pretty cool things to do with your charges!

Thanks for Reading!

SS

https://www.pinterest.com/pin/95349717092637092/


Finding a Nanny/babysitter for a child with Diabetes

Jasmine Burns, a RN has sent us this article to post about finding a babysitter (Nanny) for a child with diabetes. It is a very thorough article. She would like some feedback from us.

this is the email we received from her..

"Thank you for getting back.
Here is the editorial piece we are working on https://www.thediabetescouncil.com/finding-a-babysitter-for-your-child-with-diabetes/

I was wondering if you can take a look and let us know if there is anything missing or if there is anything that we need to change/add/modify.

We have done our best to cover everything but we want to ensure that we are putting out the right information out there.

Your feedback will help over half a million readers with diabetes"


Friday

HELP! NANNY NEEDS ADVICE!

I have many years of experience as a nanny, twelve to be exact. I am very skilled in learning and social development. I have been with my current family for over a year now. I follow a schedule, sleep-trained their now 16 month old, and was given the freedom to take him on outings. My problem is this. The mom is a serious germaphobe and up until the baby was a year old he was only allowed on walks around the neighborhood. His parents read a lot of psychologists' advice and have recently began to seriously micromanage my every move. When the baby scores as under-developed in some areas (ie. not walking yet, not speaking over 5 words yet), I catch blame. I must mention that he is only allowed not the floor of his playroom because the mom thinks the other rooms in their rather large house isn't clean enough. The reason is, they have 6 cats and I feel as if they take priority over the baby in that situation. They have a camera in his playroom so they can "record special moments" but really it is to keep an eye on me. I was recently texted one night at 3 AM with a 4 paragraph essay on how they don't think I'm talking to the baby enough. They want consistent reaction. He is never allowed to play on his own. I have to constantly respond. When he wants something I must say yes, unless it is to something that will cause serious injury. One part of the text said that she felt as if his self-confidence was hindered because I said "no" too much. The thing is, I don't. I do set boundaries for him but in no way hurt his feelings when I am helping him learn something. I give him only praise and encouragement, but to them it's not enough. Yesterday, both parents were home and during lunch I cut him blueberries. Because I was doing it by hand she suggested using a plate because "He tends to grab" but he's never done that with me. He acts out more with them than he does with me. I'm structured and they're more "Yes to everything" parents. The only socializing the baby gets is going to a little gym class every Mon and Thurs morning and a Kindermusik class on Friday mornings. The rest of the week I am supposed to be allowed to take him on outings but lately the mom just wants me to take him to the park that is 5 mins away. They bought us all passes to the zoo but they make it a thing to take him on the weekends and am discouraged to take him during the week. I can't take him to the aquarium because the mom doesn't like it, though it's the largest in the country and very educational. I was invited by my fiance's mother and his little sister who is the same age of my baby and the parents said no. I'm just at my whit's end. I was hired as an expert and have done nothing less of an exceptional job. I was even given a raise and $2500 cash bonus for doing so well but lately I've become discouraged and depressed. I have such a special bond with the baby but cannot take the micromanaging and undermining my work. How can I communicate my concerns without come across as disrespectful and arrogant? I want to be firm but not rude. HELP!

Tuesday

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SPRING TIME!



Happy Spring! Does anyone have any fun spring time activities you like to do with your charges?




Post them in the comments OR send them to us at isynblog@gmail.com





Thursday

Scary Incidents...

Recently a friend of mine posted an article on Facebook talking about the uptick in child trafficking in certain cities in the US. The article talked about a foiled snatching and the mother's sense early on in the encounter that something just wasn't right.

It reminded me of an incident a few years ago while I as out with my charges (triplets, then two years old). I had offered to do the family grocery shopping since MB was having a busy week at work (and I enjoyed getting out of the house haha). She texted me a list, I packed up the kids, and off we went to Costco.

Since the shopping cart only had two seats/seatbelts, I had two of the kids buckled in and carried the third one on my hip. We got to the checkout and I pulled up to the self service kiosk, put the child down by my leg, between me and the cart (with the cart angled so she'd have had to climb through my legs to wander off) and began checking out.

I was not distracted at all, I had the cart full enough forward so that I could put things from the cart to the belt without breaking line of sight with the kids (because even though kidnapping was the LAST thing on my mind, I'm a bit paranoid lol). The kids and I were chatting as we checked out - stuff like, "Oh, here are the oranges! You like oranges, don't you? Here's the broccoli - what color is it?" Etc.

Two women were standing over by the other checkout line, hanging out. They had sodas from the snack bar but no shopping cart or items. They looked over at us and watched for a bit (which I'm used to when we go out - triplets are a bit of an oddity and my charges are CUTE). They walked a little closer and the first woman started asking questions - are they triplets, how old are they, etc. I answered politely but shortly and did not encourage the conversation.

At this age, one of the triplets was much smaller and fairer (and to be honest, "cuter") than the other two. Suddenly one of the women stepped right up to the cart and put her hands around her in a way that just scared me without being able to articulate why I was so freaked out (I realized later that the way she touched her was like she was figuring out how heavy she was, like how much effort would be required to pull her out of the seat).

I'm generally a person who gives everyone the benefit of the doubt and not a "scene" person at all, but I basically went into mama bear mode. I picked up the child by my legs and stepped between the kids in the cart and the women. I said, "Please don't touch my child. I don't know you. You're making me uncomfortable." They didn't immediately back off or apologize or any response that a normal person who accidentally scared someone might have. I kept repeating it, getting louder each time.

By now people were definitely looking, and the women left. I was freaked out, threw the groceries in the cart while still blocking the kids, and went out to the car, being hyper aware of my surroundings. I opened one door, put rhe kids inside, tossed the groceries in, and locked us all inside to calm down.

I definitely didn't realize while it was happening why I was reacting the way I did (a lot of warning signals I wasn't consciously aware of and only realized later) and I'm sure I looked like an easy target (single adult, three young kids, trying to check out and keep everyrhing together). But it was actually kind of a good feeling after to know that I instinctively responded the way I should have, if that makes any sense.

Has this ever happened to any other nannies or caregivers?

Saturday

I need to vent.... and want opinions please!

I need to vent (and ask opinions of other fellow nannies)

I am the nanny of a 3 year old and now 4 month old baby. I was working 60 hours plus a week and the parents recently hired a pt nanny who comes 2 half days a week. I like the parents I work for; but the parenting sucks.. It makes for my day pretty rough. Currently training the 3 year old on the potty. Parents have him sitting on his little potty in front of TV. Child was doing fabulous until a few days ago where he just refused to go. I (the nanny) have him in big boy pants all day and he (the child) loves the idea. He wants to be the big kid. When mom has him it's straight to the pull ups- although child doesn't want to. Yesterday (child was going to school with mom- it's a preschool/ parent involved class) He was in big boy pants and I told him he needed to go potty before he left with mom. I mentioned that he had big boy pants on. Mom said I don't want to deal with that at school- he needs to be in pull ups. Child had a total melt down- he wanted his big boy pants.. Parents don't encourage at all.

Other ways she really makes bite my tongue...

Since we hired the new person- I thought it would be nice for the older child to spend quality time with me- I've been with him since he was 5 months old- so I asked mom if it would be okay to take C out while new person was at home with baby- doesn't want baby out in cold- mom refused. "I don't want new person to do nothing while baby sleeps. All he (older child) wants to do is play". No he wants someone's attention!!!! And that's really hard with a little one...

Since new person can set her own days (I'm okay with this) she set to work M and W of next week. Mom has an important conference (C school day) at work; and so I asked her if she wanted new person to come over on that day and I would take C to school. She refused.. "I don't want to change her schedule if I don't have too- um she was changing it anyway as she is going out of town... Really?

Every since baby was born and mom has gone back to work- things in her have changed. I know she is stressed about work and I give her the benefit of the doubt; but I am so frustrated.

Help! I'm in a Pickle!

So I'm in a pickle. I started working with this current family a little over a year ago. I was at the time working about 45 hours a week but they were very flexible. I was paid a weekly salary. I had vacation but never had to use it because I worked most of my hours in a few (long) days and the other days were a few hours here and there. The long days were rough but having the early long weekend was worth it. Well when I was interviewed they said no cleaning would be involved. If I had time, I would clean a little and do some dishes. I would also take the kids out to activities, something else they never asked for. Well suddenly if I didn't do the dishes they would mention it as if it were a requires duty. Also if I didn't take them out one day I was grilled about it. Then the hours changed. I was told i would still get out earlier one day a week but when the time came I was still pulling 5 long 10-11 hour days. I'm also in school at night and they knew this when I was hired. When I finally mentioned this they seemed very annoyed. They've seemed to be trying to work with me but only temporarily. So after a while it will go back to the other hours. I'd love to work with them but I need shorter days or maybe 4 long days and 1 regular one where I can just get out a couple hours early. I've nannied and worked in centers for years. I also don't get paid for the overtime that I've started working and she had promised a nanny contract but still hasn't "gotten to it" over a year later. Those are all things I should've mentioned before and now I'm so burned out. Idk what to do. Any advice? Am I being crazy or is this not ok?


Wednesday

Kudos To You - Our Readers Kick Scammers' Tooshes

The Old Check Fraud Attack!! ( from Leigh)

Our blog has just now helped a major media outlet with a great reputation learn about a scam that happens to potential nannies. The scammers gain the trust of the vulnerable nanny who of course needs a job and sustenance , gaining her gratitude and joy by sending some advance pay for time and supplies ( as much as $5000 ), and then asking for some of it back blah blah. Well, you know the rest - the original money is fake, it eventually bounces and the evil-doers have the nanny's hard won money earned thru blood sweat and tears while the nanny is overdrawn and in debt!

Good job ISYN!! Your report inspired talented members of the media to investigate to help other nannies! The report is coming up after the weekend and we will get it to you!!

meanwhile - anyone reading this who has been scammed for money as a nanny there are people who wish to know and help - email us !

key words - fraud against nannies, abuse against nannies, steal money from nannies, lie to nannies

Monday

Suggestions please!!

I am a nanny for a 2 1/2 year old and almost 3 month (13 pound) boys. C was a super easy baby. Slept in crib at 2.5 months. J is transferring from soft bassist like rocker to his crib which he absolutely refuses. We tried everything- rocking to sleep (put in) instant wake up, letting him cry for a few- pick me up now!! We want to try to transfer him to crib but don't want to take time away from 2.5 year old. HELP please!!


Am I underselling myself?

Hello out there! I am hoping to get some feedback on my current situation. I recently started working a FT nanny position with a family who has 3 children. The youngest just turned 1 and the oldest is 7 (in school all day until summer). The middle boy is 5 and only goes to school until around 11.30 a.m. I was hired to work 45 hours per week with OT pay for every hour over 40. So far I have only worked one 45 hour week. On average I have been working around 42 hours per week. I make $13/hr before taxes and $19.5 OT. All this after taxes figures out to $11/hr ONLY IF I am working the full 45/wk. Any fewer hours and I make slightly under 11. I am there 7.30 a.m. till 3.30 or 4.30 everyday and do all the kids laundry and all the dishes for the household, everyday (which means an overflowing sink everyday). I also tidy up the kids rooms and playroom downstairs which is LOADED with, not kidding, probably thousands of toys. I also drive the kids around to school and activities, however, a vehicle is provided for me. I work in a very fancy area filled with wealthy families. I believe having a FT nanny (who cares!) and PT housekeeper is a luxury and is worth more than $11/hr. Especially when considering I do not have any benefits and must buy my own health insurance. Am I way off base? Everyone in my life including a few nanny friends keep telling me I am underselling myself. I like the family but I am 26 (27 soon) and feel that if I work 40-45/wk I should be able to afford to buy decent health coverage and put at least a little money away for the future. I would appreciate any in-put on this! Thank you!

Hi I'm new to this group and I joined because I definitely need some advice from other nannies

I have been working for the same family for the past 3 years.
When I started it was just one boy who was a newborn. My pay started at 450 per week.
After one year I got an annual raise and got 480.
The mom got pregnant after some months and when my next annual review rolled around she was about to give birth. So I got a big new baby raise. $600 per week!
That was one year ago. I had my annual review the other day and was told since child #1 was starting preschool in the fall I don't get any raise because he will be in someone else's care and I'll just have baby #2 to take care of. They want me to pick up other duties since I will have more time. They also want to add two extra hours per week and have that extra money be my raise. (No raise per hour. I'm currently at $17 and they want to keep it that way)

Here are my current duties:

Taking care of children (obviously)
Family laundry once a week (sometimes more)
Emptying dishwasher daily
Extreme flexibility (they are late constantly and always ask me to come early/stay late)
Taking care of dog
Picking up after children and meals
Taking children to appointments
I also potty trained their toddler on my own

Once child #1 goes to school they want me to do some other duties including:

Grocery shopping
Dry cleaning
Meal prep for parents for when they come home
basically, whatever they ask of me I'll do since I'll have time with just one baby.

Perks of job:
One week paid vacation
They pay taxes for me
I also get paid when they go on vacation and I get to stay home (although I do take care of their dog when they're gone)

So my question is- is no raise fair? I feel like regardless of whether or not child #1 goes to preschool I should be getting an annual hourly increase because of everything I do for them and how much time I invest with their family. I have never complained or called in sick once after three years. These people are very wealthy (combined they bring home about 800k a year) and I feel as if I'm being nickel and dimed. The contract says I'm eligible for a 3-5 percent raise annually. They complain about money and that's another reason they don't want to give me a raise. But it's hard to believe since they also want to send their toddler to a 25k a year preschool and they bought a million dollar house last year. And they want to skip my raise. I'm a little upset. Advice please?