Thursday

Bat Chit Chat Craze ! Need Advice For Peace and Quiet!

I work nights for a great family. I have little complaints besides the fact that when the mom gets home from work she wants to chat for at least a half hour before she pays me. Even if I walk toward the door she does not seem to get the hint. She is a very friendly lady that I get along great with but I am usually very tired after work and the last thing I want to do is chit chat after work. I know it's probably my fault for being a pushover and keeping the conversations going but I don't want to be rude. Any advice?

Tuesday

Nanny Rant - Can You Top This For Bad MB?

I am soooo glad I got out of there and am with a great NF now.

It was on a sat night and she asked me at 11 pm not to go to church and go to her house at 7am so I could leave at 2pm instead of 7pm to have time to study for my exam at 8am on Monday. I said ok because I needed time to study. I get there at 7am and she informs me they are going to an amusement park but promised to be back by 2pm. Yeah, right. I called them several times after 2pm to no avail. I was making NK dinner and hear from them at 5:30, she begged me to stay 2 more hours. Promised shewould leave right then. I was not going to leave the 8 mo old alone so I really had no choice as a moral human. My mom brought my books over at 7pm and i started studying.

It's 9:15 she calls me and says I have my friends coming over can you please clean the house and clear the guest bedroom, change the sheets and make it nice because I am not paying for them to stay in a hotel. They were HOARDERS and you could not even walk into the guest bedroom. I had to clear all of it and put it in the garage. I was finished by 12:45, NK was asleep and they were still not home. I tried to study but was exhausted. At 2:30am I laid down next to NK crib and fell asleep. At 3:30am I was woken up by MB YELLING at me that I was sleeping. I told her that I had been working all day, moving furniture, scrubbing the guest bathroom, have to be awake in 3 hours and still have 30 minutes drive to home.

I asked for my payment ( which I never do, but was planning on quitting) and she refused and said she only payed on Fridays ( I never got paid on Fridays ). I told her that I needed to pay bills and could she make an exception. She agreed after DB said just pay her she has been here all day, give her extra she made the house look amazing. MB tried to give me $75 less than she owed me for 'sleeping'. DB apologized, gave me $100 extra and begged me not to quit. MB did not cook or clean so without me they never got a cooked meal. I stuck it out 2 more weeks but even though I felt sorry for DB and NK, MB continued to be unreasonable. They have been thru 9 nannies in 2 years, I have a very good NF now.

Bad Caretaker Sighting of Child at Heart

I have seen something disturbing at the local coffee shop off I-287 near rt 24 in New Jersey. I saw an elderly woman being ignored by those she was depending on for care. She had a man and 2 women wearing scrubs with her but none of them were talking to her, she looked so alone and bored. They had earbuds, one was smoking, one of them  talking on a phone while feeding the lady in an absent minded way. Both women seemed annoyed when they had to interrupt their activities to pay attention to her, she looked so sad.

Monday

Child & Human Activist Blog - BRAVE MISS WORLD ( with International Specialist and Lawyer Linor Abargil)

This is an amazing website: www.bravemissworld.com. It’s the #1 website on google search worldwide for survivors of rape and assault to post their stories and seek resources. Many survivors of all ages write in to share what happened to them and how they felt, and seek advice and support. The moderators of the Brave Miss World website are very protective and loving of their charges, female and male. Each post is carefully screened to make sure that the site remains safe, and the supportive comments let survivors know they are not at fault, not to blame, and they did nothing wrong. This support is very important to those who have been hurt and attacked. The website is based on the Emmy nominated film “Brave Miss World,” currently streaming on Netflix. The documentary is one survivor's story of turning tragedy into triumph, and also features survivors of every kind of rape, from domestic rape to campus rape to childhood sexual assault. Every survivor should see the film and turn to this site if they need a place to share their story, maybe even for the first time. Survivors can share anonymously or post their first names if they wish. Linor’s story is so powerful — our readers will be amazed!

BraveMissWorld

Sunday

Important - EVERYONE Read This - Nanny And Mom Avert Probable Sex Kidnap Disaster In Iberia Louisiana

Sept 3 @ 11am, Walmart in New Iberia LA. my NK and I encountered what other nannies in the area have been writing about. Thankfully NK was in the basket because she likes to run around and linger behind. Gladly, NM was along also. NK and I were looking at Pjs paying no mind to our surroundings.NM noticed a man staring at girl NK everywhere we went in the store he would follow. NM carefully watched from a distance to just be sure what was happening. He would pick up clothes looking like shopping but never taking his eyes off NK. He called another guy on his cell phone. They made eye contact and nodded to one another all the while making sure to stay around us. From my vantage i could not see this happening. We walked a few isles over and the other guy followed. As NM told us what was happening and showed us a pic, he followed us down another isle. This continued and it was ovious of the extreme possibility they wanted to kidnap a pretty NK. This has been shared, multiple people have seen him at multiple stores, not alone BE CAREFUL!

Nanny Roomie Advice Needed

I need some suggestions regarding my roommate situation. I own a home and got a roommate last fall to help out with my two dogs while I traveled 50% of the time for my nanny job. In exchange for pet care she got about 30% reduction in her rent. This was all working out well until I suffered a ligament tear in my knee 4 1/2 mo into the job. Being discreet, I decided not to go back to this job and resigned during my recovery period. One of my dogs also died during this time.

So as of now, my roommate has only infrequent care of my very low maintenance dog about 2-3 days per month, compared with 2 dogs prior. Rents are skyrocketing here and I really need to raise her rent, which will be hard for her as she does not have a ton of income, the reason this was win/win in the beginning.

I would love to hear ideas on ways to trade some additional help/labor for her rent reduction. Housekeeping is not an option. Market value now for rent on my home would be $1800 per month plus utilities. She has 2 small bedrooms,half the kitchen,space in the basement, half the garage,shared kitchen and living room for eating/hanging out and a private full bath. So I feel another rommate would easily pay 1000 mo. including utilities, she is paying 700 per month.

(I really need the income more now too as I took a cut in pay with my new job since it involves fewer hours and no travel. She is trustworthy and an honest person, always pays her rent on time, so I really would like her to stay! Any ideas of finding ways for her to work off some of her rent would be appreciated, TU

Friday

Nanny Not Happy With Cold Showers

I have not vented anywhere about my nanny job in quite a while but I am at wit's end. I have a wonderful family I work for steadily on Fridays and have provided occasional back up days when the grandparents aren't able to do their regular ones. They recently moved into a different house and they have NOT HAD HOT WATER in nearly four weeks since the move. Apparently the hot water heater in shot. How does a family with a little guy ( 11 mo) and demanding jobs with 100 degree  heat not need to have hot water? I have made a comment here and there ( non judgmental ) to MB with little or no response . Would you say something? Family does not live very close by to go for showers
                                           


Tuesday

Corey Morgan - Boy Hits Nanny - Having None Of It

I am painting faces at my daughter's Back To School Night. I see a boy yelling at and hitting his Nanny ( no he is not on the spectrum, I asked), Nanny is trying to discipline him but he is verbally and physically attacking her. And now he is lying on the ground with his shoes off and refusing to get up.

Mr. Corey has had enough.

Me: hey GET UP!
Kid I need to put my shoes on
Me: I. Said. Get. Up. ( and yes you can hear the periods between each word)
Kid gets up with an expression of awe on his face. His Nanny has the same look too.
Me: I do not tolerate bad behavior at my table. ESPECIALLY IF YOU ARE BEING DISRESPECTFUL TO YOUR CAREGIVER Now, do you want to be painted this evening?
Kid:Yes
Me: Mr. Corey
Kid:Yes, Mr. Corey
Me: Then you will stop hitting your Nanny, stop talking back and BEHAVE yourself - are we clear?
Kid:Yes Mr. Corey

Sunday

MACKINAC ISLAND Trip - Please help Nanny with PAY!

I was in a conversation with my MB yesterday. We were talking about the annual MACKINAC Island trip that they take every year. Usually because it involves other couples-they usually bring along grandma and grandpa to stay in the hotel room with the kids in the hotel room. They can't go this year so I hinted the idea of going with them. I will have some time to myself but- there will be times when I am needed to work also, (dinner & party). How do I ask about pay?. This is my first time going on vacay with NF. I am excited. TU!

Thursday

Curtis Sliwa, ISYN Inspirational Speaker to Children, Guardian Angels Citizens Safety Patrol (next up Osteens/Burchfields)

Curtis Sliwa is the founder of the Guardian Angels Citizens Safety Patrol. He has been leading and counseling and rescuing children physically and young people and others since the 70's . This speaker not only inspires kids and young people but he requires their blood sweat and tears and they give it.

Two ISYN blog admins - SS and Leigh participated in Curtis' program in the 80's and witnessed the rescue of numerous kids and young people who were being robbed and attacked in dangerous situations. The feeling while giving a youngster BACK their money and property while handing the bad guy over to the police - it does not get any better than that if you love kids and young people.

Curtis has overcome naysayers,been accused of crazy conspiracies , survived attempts upon his life,without breaking stride in showing the young and the compassionate how to meet goals.He is now a successful radio talk show host for years.

One thing you can guarantee - if a bad guy is going to try to harm you, Curtis and his Angel youngsters will not stand by, they will jump in and save you no matter the cost.As we learn with inspirational families, their family business is always activism for the vulnerable.

As a role model specifically, Curtis is not your perfect Choir Boy but I do not think he wishes that thought. Google Curtis to learn about his creative journey in helping his fellow man. He is a good husband and father, his wife Nancy is an animal activist who helps animals and cats and more and his son Anthony is brilliant with computers and will running the show soon!

WEED Whacking! - (weeds are negative people and situations ) Curtis does not tolerate a weed- He wacks the weeds ! Follow the links and you will see - he does it every day verbally, he does not care about politics,gender,money,power, if he sees wrong, he says so, and if he sees wrong done in his presence, he will get physical, he will take the bad guy down, he has a black belt, and will use it to help any victim anywhere.

As written, SS and Leigh, 2 blog admins, participated in one of Curtis Texas Guardian Angel programs in the 80's and we witnessed his leadership of young people 1st hand. He would literally get no sleep. We little teens would call him from Texas to new York at 3am Texas time just to ask for little teen advice and he would counsel the little teens. In retrospect it's embarrassing but one night we called to bug Curtis and we were talking to him and then figured out it was not him it was his father Chester, who taught him everything and had the exact same voice. We said, "Mr. Sliwa is Curtis there?" Curtis' dad said " Yes my son is here but I am making him sleep, he is exhausted, but I am here, tell me anything you need." So we bugged Mr. Sliwa. That is where Curtis gets his patience.

HIDDEN TALENT: In the Texas Guardian Angel Chapter there was a young man named Audi, who had extreme shyness, maybe autism which was hard to diagnose in the 80's. When he 1st joined he would only look at the ground, and would not talk, he would stand still in one spot. Leaders such as Larry Jordan, SS, and Mike Porterfield painstakingly encouraged this young man to look people in the eye, talk to people, run here and there to help people, smile at them. Within six weeks he was a different young man or more accurately the Angel leaders followed Curtis Sliwa's example and extracted Audi's talents. The writer will never forget when he hugged and smiled at me.

Below is the Houston Guardian Angel Chapter in the 80's, Mike Porterfield is still leading and helping people in this position, SS and Leigh are here in this line - we are THE shortest people in the line.





Wednesday

Bad Nanny Does Evil To Child For --a Laugh. Stuyvesant Square New York Tues Aug 14 12:40 pm

Hi! I saw this nanny with a young boy, he may have been just shy of 1 year old, it's hard to tell how old they are when they are that small. Blonde hair, blue eyes, he was getting fussy and the nanny picked him up under his arms and was holding him up in the air shouting in his face "don't CRY". She would shout the word cry which would only upset the child more. She repeatedly did this over and over again as she laughed with the other nanny next to her (with another child) until they saw me staring at them and then she got up to leave. This is the best photo I could get as she walked away with the poor screaming boy who she never tried to console. If I was the parent of this child I would want to know if the nanny was screaming at him purposely making him cry to get a laugh

Second Thoughts About Money And Job

I know in the end it is my decision but I feel I am at a crossroads here. I have accepted a new job at the end of July. It does not start until the middle of September . I am having second thoughts. The hours are good and it is only 4 days. Parents are laid back and the kids sweet. Now the part I struggle with, It is $2 less than what I should make. No PTO or sick days, 1 week vacation. I have been asked not to take any days off jan-march. Mom will work from home 2 days a week, dad one. It's a Super Tiny Home so I feel I will have to keep it quiet. My job ended in May so I wonder if I jumped the gun on taking it.

One last thing when I got her to go up 75 c I said " sorry still too low" they said - maybe  in a year when we can give you a 25 cebnt raise. I still said no. then the call saying I am worth the 25 cent. If they are struggling this bad, How will I get a raise in the future.

Do I take it and hope for a better job in the future ( the contract says we end it whenever we want) not signed yet.
Jobs are hard to find! Need advice!

NAP CR-P

Today DB informs me that when 3y twins start preschool in September , they won't be taking naps since they will be getting up early (6:45a) and although put to bed by 8pm often do not get to sleep until 10pm. I work 6:45-5p M-F ( used to be 4/10 hr days - now 5) with a 10 mo infant added when the hours increased. I would drop them off at 8:30a bring baby home to nap and eat lunch and pick up twins by 1pm.

Then am expected to not let them nap " because the days are getting shorter anyways.." the days are getting longer for me ! Nice they leave at 7a and come home for dinner and a bath. MB is always saying how she misses them but just stepped back to her administrator position she has not been in since having the twins- more hours and responsibility than the 2 year position she had!

Boy Twin Has Anger

I am in a tough situation. Actually the mom I work for...twins 19 mo old boy and girl. Mom feels like she is at a constant battle with A. Every time mom sits and plays with his sister M he gets very demanding for her attention . A is a sensitive child and mom is afraid his feelings will be hurt, he does not speak a whole lot but turns to hurting his mom or sister when he does not get his way.

I do not allow this, I use TIME OUTS and RE-direction. Mom has admitted I have more patience than she does. The kids and I have a schedule we follow for the most part. Mom has told me A is so much more trouble than M,Mis very laid back. What can I say/do to help both A and Mom,as I am going on VAYCAY, she will alone with her kids !

Friday

International Inspirational Speaker/Child Activist and Talk Show Host MICHAEL BERRY ( Next Up - Curtis Sliwa)

INTRO:
Michael Berry's radio show

Redneck Country Club




Michael Berry is an international inspirational speaker, child activist, very popular radio talk show host,lawyer,politician,1/4 of a Power Family - Wife Nandy Berry and two sons Michael T and Crockett. He is a humanitarian and his major passion is helping U.S. veterans.

Michael Berry has a specific PHILOSOPHY regarding the inspiration of children and others. He wrote about this exclusively for the nannies and moms of the I Saw Your Nanny Blog.

" Words are the beautiful representation of their underlying foundation - actions. Things that inspire me are beauty,love,kindness,compassion,sacrifice,selflessness,and forgiveness. I find that we inspire others when we least intend to. It is by our demeanor. Life is what happens to you when you are making other plans -  John Lennon wrote that.

Inspiration is what you give when you are busy going through the routines of your day. "

Michael Berry exclusive to I Saw Your Nanny Blog  July 3 2018

SPECIAL NOTE : One of the tenets of the Inspirational Speakers in this series is the value of the INDIVIDUAL child/person as much as the 10,000 or 4 million. Mr. Berry emailed that quote to the blog 1 minute after being asked- while he was still ON the air speaking to millions of people all over the country and beyond. The man can multi-task, that's how it's done!

ROLE MODEL FUN - Michael Berry is a firm believer in family power, he has been married to his college sweetheart Nandita Berry for many years. He always makes himself available to his fans, and he donates time and money to many causes. he is fanatical about the value of community - which in his case grows larger by the day.

PERSONAL STORY: Our child consulting firm worked with Mr. and Mrs. Berry and his kids years ago at his house and we were all looking for his oldest son Michael for a project in the back yard. The staff shouts " MICHAEL!!"  The mother asks, " Michael?!!!" The father yells, " MICHAEL!!!"  No Michael.

The youngest son, Crockett his little brother whispers in a tiny voice "michael"   BOOM!! Here comes Michael running at a sprint to see what his brother needs. FAMILIES are the most important weapon for fighting for right and inspiring children and all others.This truth must be carefully taught.

WEED WHACKING ( weeds are negative people and situations) Michael Berry does not tolerate weeds. If he sees that someone is hurting others,acting wrong, no matter their gender or power level - he takes them on with ruthless articulate verbal mental responses no matter the consequences. This worries his fans but he does not care. I am not sure if Mr. Berry has utilized fisticuffs to protect the vulnerable, but if  were a bad guy I would not want to find out, because he is pretty tough . He will passionately defend people and situations - I have seen this regarding children- that the rest of the media is scared of, which gets him into trouble but - he does not care.

HIDDEN TALENTS: Michael Berry is an expert at this, just about every day on his radio show and elsewhere,he cannot stop asking his callers, kids at heart, about their TALENTS - what do they do for a living,their professional opinion, what are their hobbies.He did this with my child consultant firm and also one of my friends. I called him on his show to vent about politics and he let me briefly and then asked " What do you do?'" I told him about my work with kids and he booked me for his kids event right there on the air. Mr. Berry does this all the time no matter the callers profession, When you are working with kids and others - if you can find their hidden talent - and use it- the world will be better!


To Drive or Not to Drive - That is The Question

I am annoyed. I am the prime candidate for a nanny position right here in the town where I live. But - the job is being fulfilled thru an agency located 3 hours away from me. They are insisting on an in person interview before hiring me for the position 15 minutes away from me - is this reasonable? It's a six hour drive !

Thursday

Time to Read? Fun craft to make a bookmark !

here is a craft we found from the Craft Factory.  What a fun bookmark for your charges (or your) favorite book!

Kids Bookmark Craft by the Craft Factory


Show Me The Money!!!

I do not know if I should let this slide or not, but back in May my nanny's daughter flew in to visit and 3 times we have loaned them the money for the ticket, they pay us back within 2 weeks. When the daughter asked to borrow money for a return ticket I gently asked her when we might be payed back for the 1st ticket. She was shocked and said she had paid her mom months ago. After a few days the mom payed us back saying she had forgotten. The Nanny does not always do well with money, but is wonderful and good with my 2 year old son. Should I let this slide? If she would be this way about money there may be other ways to be untrustworthy, but - She is so great with my 2 year old daughter.