Great Nanny Sighting! Nannies and Librarians Saving the World, One Lunch At a Time !

Took my NK, Boy 3y to the library on the bus one day and rain into a mom and child we used to see during storytime when the kids were smaller. When we got up for our stop after theirs I noticed her daughter's lunch bag on the seat as they were in a rush. I grabbed the lunch bag and brought it into the library. The librarian knew who the mom and girl were but not the last name. the librarian called 3 preschools and found the right one where her mom was looking for her girl's lost lunch bag. The mom just had to run up the street and retrieve it for her girl. She was going to give her girl her own lunch and go hungry. When I thanked the librarian she just shrugged and said " It's my job".

{ From ISYN }: The only thing missing on the Nanny and the Librarian are red capes !


Who Is REALLY The A%^-hole? Acquaintance Wants To Know How To Handle DANGEROUS NANNY in Virginia beach and Mount Trashmore Area

I am wondering what I should do, I know of a bad nanny/sitter who recently abandoned the children under her care. I feel I should report this person as she is still actively watching after other children while she is severely unable to provide safe and and adequate care as well as being reliable. I am  an acquaintance of one of the families, I own a childcare facility and have heard of and wirnessed some of this.

She was hired by a family tp pick up their 2 elementary school age kids from the bus stop and then take them home and be with them until the parents got home,2 hours total M-F as long as school was open. One day she simply never picked them up, no call no show. The kids were new to the area, military family,the kids did not know how to get home safely so they wandered around. The school bus driver saw them and brought them back to the school where the father had to come in from work and pick them up.She had no excuse except the kids were " a%^-holes" and they treated her poorly.

Now she is working with a 1 and 1/2 year old named brayden. Her disregard for his safety is concerning and also she will not engage him him for development but worse is unhealthy aspects - leaving him in a dirty diaper, sleeping with him napping in the same bed which is dangerous, I have not included everything.  Should I make the parents aware? If this child dies I will never forgive myself.


DEALBREAKERS!!! – Invasion of Privacy - By April Beck ( A Nanny With Many Years Experience)

Nannies do not just care for children, they also must navigate the fears and anxieties of the parents who employ them. Nannies know most parents are nervous when they first leave their child in their care but they also know that as time goes on, the parents they work for will relax and in the end be happy they found someone they trust and whom their child loves.

But there are some parents who just don’t ever relax. They don’t develop trust with their nanny, or else they don't believe their nanny is going to do the job they say they will. There are some parents who miss their child so much during the day they just want to see them at home, playing happily or see where they go during the day. Whatever the motivation, parents have a lot of options if they want to know what goes on when they are away but some actions parents take can cross the line into a violation of privacy and sometimes a violation of their nanny’s civil rights.

Nanny cams are a common way for parents to peek in on their little one and while some nannies are perfectly fine being on camera, some may feel anxious knowing they are being watched all the time and prefer to work for a family that offers more privacy, so it would be best to let them know during the interviewing process so they can make an informed decision. Surprisingly, a lot of parents wonder whether they should tell the nanny about the cameras at all or keep them hidden. This sort of action, though technically legal (check your states laws!) is highly questionable, as there is no real purpose in hiding cameras from a nanny who has already proven themselves through an interview, background check, and a reference check. There is no reason to lie about cameras if all you want to do is look in on your child at play. IF you suspect abuse then why would you continue to leave your child in that person’s care at all? You would basically be using your child as bait for a suspected predator. While there are exceptions, of course, there is no reason I’ve heard from a parent, typically, that would justify taping their nanny without her consent.

Some nannies have had parents assure them there are no cameras in the home, only to discover a hidden camera while cleaning up after months of believing they were not being watched. Needless to say, that is a huge betrayal of trust and an extremely difficult position to be. Nannies love the children the look after but if they don’t feel comfortable in the house or in dealing with the parents any longer, how can she continue working for them? It is not possible to trust parents who will lie about hidden cameras.

Another common way privacy is violated is when parents suggest—or demand in some cases—that their nanny install a GPS tracking app on her phone. This gives parents’ access to her comings and goings at all times, even during her personal time. Parents will always assure they won’t check her location during their nanny’s days off, but how does she know if this is true? Parents insist that this is about wanting to see where the child is during the day because they miss them so much but it seems that it is more about monitoring the number of outings their nanny goes on, to where, when and for how long. The underlying implication is that their nanny cannot be trusted to do the job she has committed to do without intense pressure and supervision. An overstepping of personal boundaries like this, demanding the use of her personal phone which she pays for, and the subtle insult of distrust can all add up and that may be reason enough for a great nanny to find another position.

Parents who do insist on tracking their nanny’s movements during the day but want to be respectful of their nanny’s privacy would simply purchase the GPS device for her to take with her when she leaves the house with her charge. This could be a separate phone she can use while at work or a simple GPS tracking unit she can keep in the diaper bag. This way parents can see where their baby is during the day and leave their nanny’s personal time alone.

For Live-In nannies, violations of privacy can be an almost daily reality. Some parents will come into their space without permission or notice and without knocking. Some parents will come in a search through the nanny’s things when she isn’t there, looking for something to be wrong even if their nanny has done an exemplary job. I’ve heard stories of mothers looking through their nanny’s laundry and even their medicine cabinet to monitor what medicines she takes. Invariably these moms use “concern for their child” as an excuse for this egregious violation of trust and privacy—they “just want to ensure their nanny is trustworthy and able to care for their child properly.” How can a person reconcile violating their nanny’s trust with the excuse of wanting to prove she’s trustworthy? The irony is laughable, really. There is no reason that is justification enough for violating the privacy of a trusted nanny to such an extent. It may not be possible for a relationship to recover a from a violation that extreme.

When you hire and take in a live-in nanny or Au Pair, you agree that she will have a space of her own in your home. You are asking her to put not just her livelihood in your hands but her living situation, as well. For Au Pairs it is even more difficult because they are in a foreign country, thousands of miles from their friends and family and extremely vulnerable. Considerate parents understand this sacrifice and try to make as much room for their live-in nanny as they can. They maintain firm boundaries with their children about their nanny’s personal time and space. This is the best way to show your nanny her contributions are valued and that her basic civil rights are respected. Live-In nannies and Au Pairs are not another piece of property and they can always leave and find a respectful family to work for.

A nanny will be your child’s best friend and trusted companion and the next best thing to their mother. Children love their nannies and when that relationship abruptly ends, they can’t understand why and it is very hard on them. Some children whose families have gone through several nannies have a very hard time bonding with their caregivers and it is a problem that can persist in their relationships throughout their life. When parents mistreat their child’s caregiver, they are impacting their children, too.

It is understandable to have a certain level of anxiety but when raising children there will come a point when they will need to be in someone else’s care. When you hire a nanny and you have a background check done, you’ve talked to her references and you’ve met with her, then you have done your due diligence and can rely on her. Hiding cameras, demanding 24/7 access to their location, sifting through her belongings or any sort of violation of privacy boundaries is never the right way to deal with your fears, it will only spoil an otherwise wonderful relationship. No-one wants to be a revolving door for caregivers and no nanny wants to be next in a long line of unhappy nannies.

If you are a nanny that has experienced a violation of privacy by a parent, we’d love to hear from you about it—did you quit or did you work it out?


What is wrong with parents today? Shared by Award Winning Teacher Cindy Clark Craft (from an online group of which she is a member)

I left work early today after an incident with a parent left me unable emotionally to continue for the day. I have already made the decision to leave teaching at the end of this year, and today, I don't know if I will make it even that long. Parents have become far too disrespectful, and their children are even worse. Administration always seems to err on the side of keeping the parent happy, which leaves me with no way to do the job I was hired to do...teach kids.

I am including photos that I took in my classroom over the past two days. This is how my classroom regularly looks after my students spend all day there. Keep in mind that many of the items damaged or destroyed by my students are my personal possessions or I purchased myself, because I have NO classroom budget. I have finally had enough of the disregard for personal and school property and am drawing a line in the sand on a myriad of behaviors that I am through tolerating. Unfortunately, one parent today thought it was wrong of me to hold her son accountable for his behavior and decided to very rudely tell me so, in front of her son.

Report cards come out later this week, and I have nearly half of my students failing due to multiple (8-10) missing assignments. Most of these students and their parents haven't seemed to care about this over the past three months, though weekly reports go out, emails have been sent and phone calls have been attempted. But now I'm probably going to spend my entire week next week fielding calls and emails from irate parents, wanting to know why I failed their kid. My administrator will demand an explanation of why I let so many fail without giving them support, even though I've done practically everything short of doing the work for them. And behavior in my class will deteriorate even more. I am expecting this, because it is what has happened at the end of every other term thus far.

I have never heard of a profession where people put so much of their heart and soul into their job, taking time and resources from their home and family, and getting paid such an insultingly measly amount. Teachers are some of the most kind and giving people I have ever met, yet they get treated so disrespectfully from all sides. Most parents can't stand to spend more than a couple hours a day with their kid, but we spend 8 with yours and 140 others just like him. Is it too much to ask for a little common courtesy and civil conversation?

It has been a dream of mine for as long as I can remember to have a classroom of my own, and now my heart is broken to have become so disillusioned in these short two years. This is almost all I hear from other teachers as well, and they are leaving the profession in droves. There is going to be a teacher crisis in this country before too many more years has passed unless the abuse of teachers stops.

People absolutely HAVE to stop coddling and enabling their children. It's a problem that's going to spread through our society like wildfire. It's not fair to society, and more importantly, is not fair to the children to teach them this is okay. It will not serve them towards a successful and happy life.

Many will say I shouldn't be posting such things on social media...that I should promote education and be positive. But I don't care anymore. Any passion for this work I once had has been wrung completely out of me. Maybe I can be the voice of reason. THIS HAS TO STOP.

UPDATE: Thank you, everyone for your words of support! I'm feeling a little shell-shocked over the attention I have gotten, to say the least. This is something I had no way of anticipating and have taken a few days to come to terms with.

I never intended to be a spokesperson for anything. I'm not the most qualified to do so, and I'm certainly not the best teacher out there, by far. But obviously my words, spoken in desperation that day, have struck a chord with many people. My Facebook Messenger inbox has been inundated with comments from teachers and others worldwide in agreement and support of my post.

If I could have the moment back, I might have said some things differently. For one, I would have pointed out that I have many amazing, hard-working, respectful students who show up every day and give their best and also many supportive, loving parents. For them I am thankful and hope I haven't offended. But my frustration was also in their behalf. Because the actions of some are hindering their educational experience.

I believe this post resounded with so many because it speaks to three main issues we must address as a society:

First, the education system as we know it needs reform. It is broken and inadequate for our children.

Second, we absolutely have to hold our children to a higher standard of accountability in all areas. Inflating their success doesn't raise self-esteem. If it did, we wouldn't have the highest teen suicide rates in history right now.

Third, we as a society have to get back to treating one another with manners and respect. We are only going downhill with hatred and name-calling. No one wins when kindness dies.

I am a woman of faith and have been quite reflective this week on the good that I can bring to this world because of this experience. I have decided to (as soon as feasible) start blogging my feelings on all of the above and hope many of you will join me in the discussion. If we all work together, we can make the changes we need for our collective success.

Don't Shoot! And Hypocrisy Much?

This is a rant but also I would like to know if anyone  has something like this happen, parents who act like this. My NG is almost 5 years, she is a tomboy and her dad treats her like a son, which is no prob. The family is big on gun owning and my charge is crazy obsessed with guns. Her parents have bought her many kinds of toy guns that have various projectiles. She shoots every one and everything, terrorizes the dog and cat, and some of the hard sponge balls actually hurt. I put all the weapons away and work hard to distract her but she winds up throwing a tantrum and going to work at home dad to get the weapons back. They say, oh it's ok, they are just toys. She starts to make everything in to a gun- cheese and cookies, she "shoots" people at the store. I have at numerous times tried to talk to the parents and they pooh-pooh me. So - here is how the problem started to be solved - NG started doing this in kindergarten . The teachers and principal and other parents called a meeting laying down the law and - BOOM! All gun toys put away and the start of making her stop the behavior. I just feel disrepected that my professional opinion was not enough to be listened to!


Infantophobia - Ever Heard Of This Before?

Feb 6th 2019

Dear Abby:

I have a really bad fear of babies and toddlers. My brother's wife just had a second child, and I can't stand being around them. I get really bad anxiety so I avoid them. His first child is 8 but she is like a toddler being disabled. I get freaked out around her too. When they come over, I go outside or into my room and hide. On top of that, my sister is pregnant and living here with me and my parents. I'm only 17, so I can't move out. It's hard enough when my brother visits with his kids, but if one lives with me, I know I'm going to lose it. I'm too afraid to talk about my parents about this. --(Losing It In The West)

Dear Losing It:

You are NOT going to lose it. You ARE going to talk with your parents about this because you cannot keep hiding inyour room forever. The longer you do,the higher your level of anxiety will become. Have you any idea why you feel the way you do? Is it their size,their fragility,the sound of their voices? You may need help from a licensed therapist to get past this. It is important for you to find out what is driving this panic because, if you don't, you will find yourself increasingly isolated as your friends and families start families.


From - MB Says Nanny Must Do What She Wants

I am firm on this - we love our nanny, she is wonderful with my son, but of course we worry all day where he is and if he is alright. We give our nanny much leeway in taking him places, we trust her, but we want to be able to know as much as possible about where they are - we both must work but he is our life. We asked her to let us upload a tracking device on her phone so we can just know where he is. This does not mean we do not trust her we just want to see where he is, you never know what could happen, not the nanny's fault. We really want this and she says no, she will not leave the house with him because she will not link to the app. Are we being unreasonable?

Rant: Bribery - I Don't Like It !

Rant: The MB undoes all my work trying to teach NB 7 to do for himself and be independent. She texted me yesterday to bake and decorate cookies for his birthday party. And she tells me she did not finish the laundry or get the meal prep done. He is old enough to be a helper with these extra family tasks but they never ever require him to do anything. He will ask me to get him juice, I will encourage him to get it for himself and graciously bring me some too but he does not, he just does not want to do for himself.

He manipulated MB and DB into buying him a $400 gift for his birthday along with a big party - they wanted him to pick one ofr the other but he got his way as always. For the holidays the parents tried to keep the spending equal between him and his sister, 6 years, but he of course got more out of them.

NB and NG won't sleep in their beds - they were bribed to stay in their beds for a month for an expensive game each. They did it for one month on the nose, got the game and now go back to sleeping on their parents floor. This is only a small bit!

DB From Hell Part THREE - He Is Back At It, Never Seen One This Looney On This Blog!

UPDATE -  from the nanny whose DB will not let her take a break and gave her a list of 14 house cleaning activities to do which are not related to the children. This not good news, he came up with MORE house cleaning requirements





Seriously, the nanny has expressed how this situation really is making her sick physically and emotionally but jobs are hard to find in her area. At ISYN we are sending good thoughts that this nanny's dream job will happen ASAP - she is committed to getting out of this toxic DBs world

UPDATE - Feb 1 --After YET ANOTHER To-Do  list, the nanny calmly said " I'm sorry but that is not in my contract"  the dad let her go immediately for " not bonding with the 3 year old". But the nanny was smart and had 8 weeks of severance coming and the dad paid it. She feeld like a boulder is off her back, all the knots are out of her tummy and she can breathe.


War of the Words! Nanny Owns Cheap Mom in Text War. A Nanny is a Luxury - Who Knew?

{ The nanny has given the mother a reasonable rate, the mother is arguing because she just cannot afford it ;(  }  This is from a text

NANNY : Pay for a live in nanny should not be less than live out. The hourly rate I am requiring is $545 per week. I have been a nanny in Ohio as well and have never been paid under $500 a  week here for part time. I apologize if my rates are not acceptable to you, not everybody can afford a nanny. Having a nanny isn't a right it's a luxury which is why most people do not have one. There is nothing wrong with that. That's why there are home day cares,day care centers and such. I apologize if you were underpaid when you were a nanny but I have never accepted less than what I am asking now and have been a full time nanny now for over half a decade with multiple families who have never had a problem with my price.

All the nannies I have talked to in this area have said my price is on the low side of average and all the families I have worked for have been financially stable enough to meet my requirements. I wish you the best in your search and hope you can find a wonderful nanny to work within your budget. have a great day.

THE MOTHER : Can I be honest with you

NANNY: I am not interested in speaking further speaking, we have different needs and that's ok, Good luck on your search

THE MOTHER : You are the rudest nanny I have ever spoken to.

NANNY: I apologize you feel that way, I am not trying to be rude. You asked my rate, I told you. You were not satisfied. I verified with a group of nannies that my rate is reasonable even though my lengthy previous experience told me so. You disagree and think I am charging too much. That's ok. You have the right to your opinion and I respect that.

THE MOTHER  And for the future. Telling me a nanny is a luxury is extremely insulting.

NANNY : I apologize you feel that way, my family could not afford a nanny and they made good money. It's ok not to be able to afford a nanny

THE MOTHER:  You are insulting and rude. i hope every one sees your true colors before hiring you

NANNY:  Asking someone into your home, give your children one on one attention, be responsible for the physical and emotional needs of your children, put your child 1st, clean after them and devote your time to your children only is not a service most people have0


Nanny Wonders How To Negotiate

There is this family that I have babysat for a few times, but the mother mentioned keeping her kids, twin 16 month olds and 1 4 year old at least twice a week every week for the summer as a nanny type job. When we work out the details what kind of questions should I ask?


DB From Hell Part Deaux - Things For Nanny To Do Instead Of A Break ( We Are Not Making This Up)

The mean DB left this list for the nanny - what a guy!

ASK Anna Minter And Friends ! Nanny For 20 years, Owner " GRACIOUS ME ACADEMY " - HOW DO I WAKE MY NK UP??? IT'S SO HARD!!!!

Question For ANNA MINTER : My NK is dead to the world when I try to wake him up in the morning to get to school. MB works and while she could have time to do this she sticks me with it as it is such a problem. NK is so groggy and in outer space, are there any suggestions on how to make this better?

ANNA MINTER SAYS -- There are many tools and actions which can make the wake up part of the morning go smoothly.

For example - get everything done the night before so you can concentrate on waking the child - back packs ready, lunch ready in the fridge, etc. Make sure all activities possible can be made into a routine with a rhythm.

Use ALL nanny tools for positive enforcement when NK wakes up helpfully - charts and stars, rewards, lavish praise etc.

From MICHAEL BERRY, Talk Show Host and Father - He says when his son Michael T would have trouble waking up he would gently carry him out of the bed, take him to the shower, make sure the water was nice, turn it on to gently cascade on Michael T sitting on the shower floor, and the dad would talk to him, encourage him to wake up and he could see his son slowly come out of dreamland and then become an articulate energetic whirlwind.

Nanny SUSAN S.  - I don't put up with this stuff - I set the timer for their alarm really early, earlier than we have to, and if they are taking too long I give countdown warnings - 10 minutes to breakfast! 5 minutes to shower before I throw you in!

Nanny TALEIA  says - 30 minutes or so before they have to get up start playing music, there are play lists where the music can start gentle and gain tempo from there.

{From the Editor -- ATTN. NANNIES -  If YOU wish to participate and give advice to a needed nanny question, like Anna Minter, let us know .}


RANT: Loser DB - You REALLY do not want to be running over me, I will send you LIMPING BACK!

Ok, DB, your days messing with me are going to be numbered one way or another. Specifically, when I work hard to get all my duties done and usually more, and have 15 minutes downtime while beautiful NK is napping and it P's { actual word redacted, ED.} you off to see me checking my messages or making a call to family, or even reading a book or paper. So you - unemployed loser that you are while MB brings home the bacon say " We pay you too much to just sit there doing nothing" so since all my duties are caught up you come up with things not in my contract like taking out the trash, doing all your dishes, not NK's, putting away your dry cleaning and more.

When I gently remind you that the previous day I stayed 20 minutes extra past my contracted time, worked extra diligently to get all done, and it should all come out in the wash, you LOSER look at me condescendingly and say " Oh really"

Yeah really unemployed delusional lose bully.

I absolutely do extra things beyond my contract such as teaching NK another language, espanol, even though not being paid extra, I frequently use my own gas to run trips, and do extra dishes of my own decision and more. But going the extra mile is MY choice to decide not yours to demand. I refuse to do a worse job and dawdle based on a fear of you taking advantage - that is a page out of YOUR LOSER book.

I have not decided how I am going to handle this yet, I see you treat MB the same way and she takes it. If I decide to quit the main person hhurt will be NK as he and I have a good time together but I will not sacrifice my self esteem and stress health for anyone!

So beware loser DB, You can continue to bully me but it will not end well for your family- that is IF you care about them. UGH!


Bad Babysitter- Check Fraud - No Excuse For This

In the south Tx area a childcare provider and cleaning lady named Elva D Olviedo has abrogated the trust of her family by stealing checks from her employer. The amount is considerable, she did this over a multiple year period being very clever. She would take checks from the middle of her employers  checkbook and using her employers signature , write checks here and there for the exact amount of her pay amount - very premeditated . Also - the employer admits to not paying strict attention the the bank account so it was clever to not notice an unusual amount of a check. So- beware.

info sent from M. D. from Nextdoor.com

Update on Text War! From Buzzfeed-Kristen gets paid!

Kristen is the name of the child care provider who the mother refused to pay. She and her brother received so much positive  feedback it gave them the courage to talk to the father, let him know they were planning small claims court and the man paid. I think we can bet that guy is a patient dad and probably has to deal with fallout from his wife !


Text War - An A---ole Mom and Vortex's Hardworking Nanny Sister

From - Bored Panda and VortexThing on FB--

Being a mother is a tough job but it's no excuse to scam your child care provider. I am sure no parents reading now would do this, but any who do, even worse than stealing from your nanny wouls be letting your children see and learn this behavior


Vortex's Sister:  It was great watching J and S today. Do you mind if I swing by tomorrow at 2pm and pick up the money?

The A---ole Mother:  I wasn't aware payment was involved. You got free ice cream and a fun day, I am sorry for the misinterpretation.

VS: Uhm..we discussed payment of $16 an hour beforehand. Over text.

AM: I'm sorry could you show me those texts?

________________________________Texts Before The Job_________________

AM:  Great, see you then, $16 an hour sounds fair

VS: Perfect! I am looking forward to working with them, I'm excited !

AM: J seems to have a knack for you, go easy on him!

VS: haha I will! Thank you for the opportunity!

AM: Of course, call or text with any questions

_______________________________End texts before the job______________

AM: I delete my messages often.

VS: I'm sorry but as much as I love seeing your kids I am doing this for payment. Exclusively

AM: Well, you are acting kind of stuck up. Can we compromise at $20

VS:No, I watched your kids for 8 hours, our agreement was $16 per hour, the total is $128

AM I am not paying you $128 for a single day! They're easy kids!

VS : It's not a discussion of that. You promised and I have textbooks to pay for. Please i will accept $100

AM: Absolutely not. I wish i didn't have such a stuck up { really bad uncalled for C-word} watching my kids. I am going to block you now, do not contact me again.


Show Us The Money!!

Please feel free to email us your Bonus/ Other Gifts this year from your NF, or TO your Nanny, or from the Nanny to the NF
- all submissions are anonymous

K.S.  9 years and nothing

K.L.  1  1/2 year and nothing

JSY  2 years, $3000 Bonus and $500 for Christmas

SF  1 weeks pay

SG  expecting 1-3 weeks pay at my current job, at my job before this - nothing

MJR  Previous 4 year NF  $600, 2 weeks off with pay. Been with new NF for 3 weeks and got homemade baklava - it was very good lol

AC  3 years, 1 week of pay plus a small gift, and my NKs draw me pictures. My former job I was there 9 years and they would give me $200 each year - btw they made 4 times the money my present
NF makes.

DG   10 years, 1 and 1/2 month of pay plus several other special, thoughtful gifts

TRS 8 years, a few hundred $ for Christmas and another larger bonus at the end of the school year


Make FUN Designs With Crayon Pieces For Holidays and More!

Little crayon pieces are officially valuable! They can be used to create larger crayon themes. This post shows multi colored Christmas tree crayons but - the sky is the limit - you can make only one color,two colors etc. These can be just fun for your littles or Holiday gifts for friends. Melting crayons gets stinky, so be ready to open a window lol.

You will need - Crayon pieces, an old knife, silicone, holiday molds, baking sheet

heat the oven to 250, remove all the paper on the crayons, cut up the crayons with the old knife, fill the silicone molds with the crayon pieces, place the silicon molds on the baking sheet, bake 10-20 minutes, but watch everything very carefully because the crayons are different depending on color and different kinds etc, watch carefully to see when the wax melts and then remove and cool in the fridge - then pop out the crayon molds!!  from Heather Sawyers Marinkovic, pics and activity!


TIME to Rant and Vent!!!!!

Dear Biatch MB

I have just about had it with you! Today I was 5 minutes late, which I never am, because of a major traffic accident on the freeway and you gave me heck! While YOU are 30 min to an hour late almost every day! You do not even care when I have important time appointments - like a meeting with my doctor and my mother's birthday dinner as she is sick and may not be around much longer! When I discuss this with you, you either ignore me, change the subject, or give me a blank look like I am not even a human. I am about ready to smack that blank wide eyed stare off your face! The one saving grace is how cute and good hearted my charge NG,4 is. It's probably a lie she is related to you -- uggghh!!! I am not going to take this much longer!