Tuesday

International Inspirational Speaker/ Child Activist - GLENN MORSHOWER ( next up: Michael Berry)

INTRO:Glenn Morshower is an international inspirational speaker. activist and humanitarian. He teaches THE EXTRA MILE as a life philosophy. Many people know him for his lengthy acting accomplishments over a 40 year period such as Aaron Pierce on 24, Supergirl, Transformers,etc.
PHILOSOPHY: The Power Of One- one of Glenn's most passionate tenets is that teaching one child is as important as teaching 10 or 4 million. He makes the point that each person is supposed to be here and the proof is that at conception each one of us beat out 500 million (!) other contestants to be here. So you are here for a reason, there is something you want, a reason YOU swam so fast, something is your goal, and you must not let even ONE day go by without doing at least one thing to achieve your purpose and win your goal. No matter what it is - helping kids, acting, being a doctor or lawyer. Learn to speak something called " Fluent Them-ness" When you speak this to children and others - showing they are loved and understood and valued - you will create in them the reality of being the best they can be for themselves, you and others.
ROLE MODELS : Glenn has been married to his high school sweetheart Carolyn Morshower for going on 40 years, they have 2 children and all the family teaches others in many ways. The Morshowers produced a film named FLUTTER that teaches about children overcoming poverty and illness and much more. A personal note - in the 80's my TEAM BUILDING company hired Glenn to team build with kids in parks and in each case his wife and kids came too and helped the kids learn - when a family works together to help people there is no limit.
WEEDS- ( Dealing with negative people and situations) Glenn does not cater to the weeds - he WHACKS them. He will not tolerate someone doing wrong to kids and others, he confronts them verbally and mentally and spiritually, he makes sure the victims see it so they can learn, and the poor weed never knows what hits until it's over and Glenn and the good people march on by. Do not coddle a weed, do not run away from the weed and DO NOT apologize to the weed, WHACK the weed and move on! " WEED _ You are old, I am new - GOODBYE!"
FINDING THE HIDDEN TALENT - Glenn Morshower teaches in his classes the importance of finding the hidden talents of our charges. he scrutinizes like a laser beam to ascertain what his targets are good at and then he magnifies it and uses it. If you tell him you are a bad cook but you make a great Hungarian Goulash he will show up at your door with his wife and kids and a bag of groceries and demand the soup, you will have no choice and he'll probably eat 3 bowls.
Personal Story: In the 80's I worked with Glenn at a restaurant. He made the management unlock the COMMENT card box so he could just see what was happening.He comes up to me and says " Leigh, right? You know the comment box had 20 cards in it and 1 out of 3 are about you how your clients really enjoy your work! I am coming in with my family tomorrow to eat here, so reserve me a table for 4 in your section at 8pm!" So learning from this - when you find your charges hidden talent - use it !

Links Coming

Anna Minter, Inspirational Speaker Part Two

Remember when we feel unqualified, we ALL have genius in our DNA. No barriers allowed! Excuse me! I AM a genius! As a child you were excited, what areas or strengths do you possess that people call on you for help? What hidden talents do you have that others "see" about you - there is your power! With children and all others we need to listen to their solutions, and talk to them with respect. My most effective conversation with children will include a dialogue to figure out how to resolve problems. EMPOWER them and the solutions will be found and behavior will change.

As an example, it was my second year of teaching, and a argument ensued in the play area with sides taken and one side did seem to have an element of bullying. How to avoid tension and bad feelings? We had a court session with the defendant, plaintiff, grandpas being the judges complete with top hat and black cape. The kids called their witnesses and everyone learned the others view with higs given at the end. i was glad I did not give in to lecturing or punishment - and 20 years later the parents and kids remember the lessons learned ! The End of Anna's text.

As a role model , Anna Minters family - Husband Bob and children are all teachers and child activists, they have been married since the 70's as high school sweethearts.

WEEDS - are negative people and situations and Anna is unique in this group - she will hug a weed, counsel the weed. No matter how long it takes to teach the weed - do it. Show love to the weed, set up a court and help the weed learn it is a weed and how not to be one. Readers - be aware all our other Inspirational speakers will not be this nice to the weed.
FINDING THE HIDDEN TALENT - I can personally say that Anna showed me how to develop talent with puppets to help kids learn, she taught me how to make them, create dialogue and overcome fear and shyness. To Anna - one child or person is just as important as thousands!
PERSONAL WITNESS OF THE MINTER FAMILY AS TEACHERS: Teaching is a family mission for the Minters, I and some other kids were having dinner at Anna's house She and her husband Bob Minter have rule at the dinner table - before you get the food you have to verbally present your accomplishments for the day. When this was demanded of me I froze - "uh, uh..." so their son BOBBY jumped in presented his goals for the day - What have you learned? How have you helped people? So Bobby looks over at me like - you can do it! So I copied him and his dad was satisfied,at one time I was looking down at the table and Bob said - " Look at us all when speaking!" The meal was great. The study of Inspirational Speaking shows that the results grow exponentially when a family does it together!

International INSPIRATIONAL Speakers and Child Activists ANNA MARTINEZ MINTER - Next Up - Glenn Morshower

Intro--
Anna  M. Minter is a national inspirational speaker,enthusiastic child activist,entertainer and puppeteer, founder of GRACIOUS ME ACADEMY, published author. She is the proud mother of four children and five grandchildren.

With all our speakers in the series ( Anna Minter, Glenn Morshower, Michael Berry,Curtis Sliwa, Lisa Evers Rachel and Tommy Burchfield,Joel Osteen, and Mike Warnke) we will be looking at 1.an overview of their accomplishments for children and others. 2. their personal philosophy 3. their effectiveness as a role model 4. the way they deal with WEEDS ( negative people/situations) 5. eye witness presentations of their success, 6. FINDING THE KID'S HIDDEN TALENTS  and finally 7. Links to learn more about them.

Philosophy of ANNA MINTER in her own words for this article --

"Life's most persistent and urgent question is - What are you doing for others? " MLK JR.

Imagination:  " I AM..." How you finish that sentence is the seed that sprouts within your belief system. "I am a star student" was my sentence as a little girl. I loved school! ( Well, except for the second day of kindergarten, where I bolted out of my classroom hoping to find my way home, but that is another story!) I excelled at learning. My siblings and cousins thought I was crazy, always wanting to be at school or playing teacher. That is, until I entered the 4th grade.

With 39 other 4th graders in my catholic school, I met our overwhelmed, already-burnt-out teacher Sister Katie. Suffering at the hands of this "caped crusader" ( apologies to Batman) I learned to DISLIKE school!. The following summer we found out she was moving up to the fifth grade with us and would be my teacher once again. Oh, the dread! I endured another year of not only emotional but physical abuse at the hands of this nun. School lost it's wonderful appeal for me.

Fast forward to my sixth grade teacher, Mrs Chaki, an angel sent from heaven. She opened doors of imagination by inspiring once again my love of learning. In her class I made my 1st diorama for a book report. These dioramas were little 3-D shoe boxes that represented each of the stories the class had read. Each one was so different. She also instructed us early on that we would have a science project that would encompass the entire year. We would become an expert in our field of study. "Any subject?" we all asked. "Yes, just add 'ology' and come prepared with a project and ready to answer any questions" was her response. Because of Mrs. Chaki, I was an "eye doctor" for my science project.

It was an election year, and for Civics we were to gather information on our favorite candidate and be prepared to debate the issues. For History we re-enacted a famous speech. I dressed as Patrick Henry - " Give me liberty or give me death!"

This is the teacher who inspired my passion to teach by flaming the fire of my imagination. I was a civic-minded activist when I debated for my candidate. With the diorama, i was the book, working like a miniature movie set. Yes, i was Patrick Henry! What am I now? I AM an educator. Words have power. Imagination combined with words is essential, and ACTION must become inevitable.

to be continued... IMAGINATION AND GENIUS DNA!!



Saturday

Call Me MR OR MISS OR MS. - take your pick! And do not forget PLEASE! Corey Morgan! Straight Outa Cosplay

I was in a line waiting for my charge, a 7 year old to get face painted like a girl HERO by a hero guy painter named Corey, excuse me I mean Mr. Corey. I had a ringside seat for an encounter with him and a parent and child ahead of me and my charge.


Parent: Honey, tell Corey you want Spiderman!
Child: Corey, I want Spiderman!
Corey: Just a minute, son, do we work together?
Child: No
Corey: Are you over 21 years old?
Child: No
Corey: Do I owe you money?
Child : No
Corey: Then I am Mr. Corey
Child: I want Spiderman Mr. Corey
Corey...........................
Child: Please may I please have Spiderman Mr. Corey?

Corey Morgan gave an interesting lesson about how in the past many members of society did not get the respect they deserved - for example African Americans - people were able to call them "boy and girl" etc - an inexcusable part of the past. Corey Morgan's child entertainment co is located in the Maryland area.

PS: I am glad i was forearmed - Of COURSE my charge says please and thank you but she learned a good lesson and certainly called him Mr. Cory, but my charge is a very brilliant kid!

Wednesday

The Neighborhood Babysitter!

I am a nanny to a 5 year old little girl ( my love), I am having issues with the neighbors and their children. The neighbors seem to not watch or care about their kids. Of course I watch every movement of my girl, they are all about 5. Every time I take my charge outside the 2 neighbors run over to play with her. So - then am I responsible for them? There is a road! And they run towards it! Of course my girl does not as I watch her every move and she is my joy! At the neighbor's house they have a pool, but who would be watching every kid in the pool - yes you guessed it me!! So I do not let her go there. It goes further ! When ever we let these kids come over they play rough with her toys and make her cry. Her parents want her to get to know the neighbors but they are not here very much, they are in big positions. I know I am doing my best for my little love, but any advice would help me - Thank you in advance !!!

Tuesday

Bait and Switch!! Ugh!!! Unfair!!!

What  would you do?
I'm a nanny and I've been working as a child care provider for 12 plus years. Recently I was offered a position as a nanny and began working a few days here and there to help out. I was asked if $20 per hour was alright and I said yes because that is my rate for 1 child. After I put in my notice at the preschool I was working at they gave me my nanny agreement and it said $600 p/week which was not discussed prior!  I was making $20 per hour and working a 40 hour week which equals $800. I've addressed this with the family as bait and switch because that's how I feel! They are not making it right, but they want to do a nanny share now which means I would be taking care of 2 children. I asked for $900 and was only offered 861. They also started buying Tiles (trackers ) and have purchased multiple cameras since I've started, making me feel bad! What should I do at this point?

$$$

Do you charge the same rate when you are nannying with your MB and when it is random - with someone who wants you to babysit?

Sunday

To Be Or Not To Be --ON CALL? ( No My Bills Are Not On Call)

I am a career nanny and have found myself in a situation never before experienced and I am a bit confused and stressed about how to handle it. My NF is great and I watch and I watch a 4 and 9 year old. I work 40 hours a week and I have been with them a year and a half ( all other families I have worked for for over 2 years). The youngest starts kindergarten in the fall which will cut my hours dramatically. We have discussed filling the childless hours with organization,errands,housework, I am completely fine with that.

My question is I have been asked to stay exclusively with this family and not seek out any additional work in case they need or want me. On call so-to-speak. I knew this was coming but I don't know how I can go backwards financially, I have not received a raise in 1.5 years. I do much housework now as it stands, it would just be more efficient since the children would be at school full time. I am also a nanny who walks 5-6 miles a day and is extremely active with the kids, never sitting down, never on the phone, I live in NYC

Nanny Needs Job Advice

I am trying to decide if i want to change jobs. The one I have now is being a nanny for an infant. The one I am thinking about is very little nannying, it is being the House Manager. But after the second interview and meeting them at their house, I am thinking they want a house keeper. MB wants things kept clean and organized, but when I was there it was a total wreck. They are both lawyers and work long hours with 2 boys, 7 and 3 and the wife is trying to get pregnant again. So my question is - is this what house managers do? I can see me coming in on a daily basis and see all my work undone. Especially on Monday. She also wants me to drive her and the kids around. Is this a job you would want? It's only for 6 months which is fine with me.

Wednesday

Coming Soon -The Country's Top Inspirational Speakers On Child Activism

Anna Minter, Curtis Sliwa, Glenn Morshower, Rachel Burchfield,Tommy Burchfield, Joel Osteen and Mike Warnke and Lisa Evers ( Sliwa as she was)


Disconnection ;(

I babysit for 2 siblings. One is 15 months old and has been with me since 9 months. Mom had another baby and he is now almost 4 months old. Truth is there is no connection between the 4 month old and me. I don't know what to do. Idon't want to quit since I love the 15 month old. I just can't seem to connect with the younger one. He doesn't do anything but there is something about him, I just can't.

Thursday

Heroes Save Kids- As Should be Usual! Negligent Nanny in Aids Memorial Park

In May, I was sitting in the AIDS MEMORIAL PARK with my friend, we saw 3 cute kids, 2 boys and 1 girl who all looked to be the same age,I believe they were 5, but could have been 4-7. They all had light brown hair/dark blond, possibly triplets? They were running around wild and trying to play with a woman's Pomeranian Dog. They were cute kids, energetic and wild. they were playing tag together before they saw the dog. I think the nanny called one of these kids GEORGE but I am not sure,

When they were playing with the woman's dog, a creepy older man tried to talk to her and the kids. The woman ignored the man but eventually became overwhelmed with him bothering her and the kids trying to pick up the dog. So she left. Once she was gone, the older man, in his 50's with a beard began talking to the children. I couldn't hear what they were saying but he began offering them food and trying to lure them somewhere else with him,

Obviously, I began watching closely because that is horrifyingly dangerous. I did not see anyone around who might be the parent, so I just watched the kids.

Thank goodness a very muscular man was sitting beside the creepy guy and heard everything. The man told off the CREEPY guy and told the kids to go back to whoever was watching them. They went back to an overweight AA nanny who was in her 30/s 40/s. She had been texting the entire time, not watching at all her charges who were in danger of kidnap!


The muscular guy and other bystanders made the CREEPY guy leave, all the while he was screaming profanities and saying  "I DI NOT ASK THEM FOR SEX" and telling the muscular guy who happened to be Hispanic to go back to where he came from.

Here is the Kicker - after all this occurred - the "Nanny" let the kids run around again and went back to her phone. A bystander teen who was babysitting kids a little older than the triplets ended up watching them and having them play with their kids so they did not get into any more trouble.l

If this is your nanny please be careful - your kids can be kidnapped!!

This Really P's Me Off - Bad As It Gets For A Kid And Nanny

I am a nanny for a child with semi well off parents who are both manipulative and controlling of each other and their child. Since I have started working for them they have gone from one extreme to another. They are now divorcing and going thru a custody battle with each other. I am caught in the middle with both trying to get me on their side, when I stay neutral
they trash talk me to each other.

Funny that while they fight over the kid I have more time than both of them, They often come home late, sometimes "forgetting" to pick the child up.Happy hour and parties with friends take precedent. They use the pictures I take of our fun activities to brag about the child on Facebook, but actually spending time with the child is too much work. Both "Parents" have taken vacations without their child with their new love interests. I take care of the child while they are on their cruises and relaxing on the beach.

No extra pay for me when it's warranted. Their latest trick is to delay paying me when they are mad at each other,both claiming it's the other's turn. One of them eventually caves and pays me. They would crap their pants if they knew that during one of their stints I had no money to feed the child and I had to go to a food bank! At least the child ate. This child deserves PARENTS - not just me, I wish one of them gave a crap!

Wednesday

Scary Nanny

It's box populi, this nanny left this little girl unattended this day in June and was confronted by other nannies about not doing her job. The little girl was acting out trying ti hit the other babies and children. The bad nanny kept getting into a big mouth loaded rant. I would like to contact the girl's parents because this nanny is bragging about putting Tylenol into the girl's food to make her sleep. The nanny sits and eats while the little girl runs around hitting the other nannies and children. I also have a video of this

View From A Grandmother

OK, so nannies are overworked and exploited? Welcome to the world of employment. I am a grandmother and am appalled at the way some nannies treat their charges! I have seen these children walking around playgrounds completely on their own, I have seen nannies screaming at the babies! If your child has a nanny the responsibility is on you to be sure they are well taken care of. My apologies to the many wonderful nannies who do an excellent job, you are not included in my comments.

{Comment from Leigh,owner: The nannies, mothers, and readers here are amazing in their love for kids and professionalism }

NEW YORK CITY? - Get a rope !! Bad nanny in NYC

I witnessed an alarming incident at a park in Lower Manhattan in the morning in which I believe a woman was maltreating the small child she was looking after, it's not clear to me if she was the mother or a nanny but I believe it was a nanny. I phoned CPS but because I could not give her name address,plate number etc, they could not investigate the incident, they told me to try to get more info and see if it happens again. Does this blog be specific to NYC? I have taken pictures if that will help

Monday

Florida Nanny tries to protect kids - is a good human compared to the mom and dad ;(

The mom was home on psychotropic drugs {the view of the writer,ISYN} drinking and yelling at kids and me- just a very unstable mother. The dad would complain to me about his wife and I would feel uncomfortable. So when I did try to call cps she has since tried to sue me - they are rich and ruined my rep on care.com with lies and false crazy accusations which forced me to give up my livelihood and passion to help kids, What is wrong with some parents today? It's saddening and appalling, I could not rate the family and wish I could have seen reviews from other nannies that quit before me.  Who protects the nannies from harm, retaliation , public slander,or lawsuits from these mentally ill parents?  Not sitters websites, Praying for this situation for me !

Sunday

Ageism in the NANNY world - it sucks!

I'm overwhelmed working in a childcare center so I have been applying for nanny positions. Working with children does not overwhelm me it's the low turnover my center has and the fact that I have no time to work on my classroom. I have to come in early, stay late and work off the clock. I have written before that this a little college town. The director knows, tries her best but staff is lacking and with high turnover.
I keep running into ageism. I am middle aged and I keep running into parents who are not happy with their young 20 year old nannies who do not follow instructions and don't care about safety. But parents want the young nannies, yet I being older and more experienced know so much more AND have overcome a learning disability.  I live in a college town and run into the 20 y nannies all the time in ads etc. How can I change how the parents view me? To be 20 again...lol

17 Reasons Why NANNY is a BETTER PARENT!!!!!

I am worried about my charges while I am at work and especially while I am away. My charges are 17 months ( twins) and as you can imagine it's hard to have them contained in one spot for long. They have a huge house that has some safety locks on the cabinets. Mainly on bottom floor in the kitchen area bedroom and playroom, but only very few.  My main issue is the 17 steps stairways, there are no gates on these stairs. MB has told me A and M have made it all the way up the stairs without her knowledge . MB does not want to put up the gates and "drill holes in the walls" to put the gates in. I love the twins and am worried about getting a phone call that one of them is hurt. The parents seem to be very sarcastic every time the issue is brought up. How can I protect Aand M?

Tuesday

Should I call CPS? YES YOU SHOULD!



I recently met a family that moved from Ohio to the mountains of Northern California that have elementary aged home-schooled children and a toddler. After a few days of working for them, I was overwhelmed with anxiety due to the children crying to me about their feelings of neglect, their mother being stressed out not giving them attention, not having clean dishes to eat off of. Overall I could see that the emotional state that they were in was concerning.  Their mother hired me so that she could have a "sanity day" and do some work outside of the home. Needless to say, she "turned it on" for me to appear to be a healthy functioning family and lit a candle to cover the stench of her repulsively unclean home.  I tried not to judge a busy mom with a big family at first, so I agreed to help.  However, it did not take long for me to notice many red flags, (and an even dirtier condition than when I first met them), that prompted me, as a professional caregiver and teacher, to wonder if I should report this family to CPS.  Here is the list of concerns:

Extremely unsanitary house.  The floor in the kitchen, the counter-tops and inside the cabinets are covered with dirt, old crusted food, bugs, candy, and a variety of questionable substances.  There was always food left out from days before with flies and gnats hovering.  The sink and surrounding area had dirty dishes with rancid milk stains in cups and baby bottles, mold growing in water that had been sitting for days with food left in them,  dishes in the cupboards were still dirty or greasy, dirty dishes and food left in every area of the house, attracting bugs, and the bathrooms were so horrendous that I didn't feel comfortable using the restroom (these boys would pee all over and never wash their hands). The house reeked a horrible smell, dirty wipes for the toddler scattered throughout the house and the children couldn't even see the floor in their rooms. Overall, every area in the house was a health hazard. Likewise, I saw no clean clothes or bottles for the toddler.

There appears to be a huge lack of structure.  These kids are all home-schooled due to not having vaccinations.  The oldest boy (12) was allowed to sleep-in every day that I was there, and I only saw the 10 year-old sitting at the computer once for school (while he was on the phone in front of his mother playing video games). They appear not to have much discipline or respect for an authoritative figure and did not want to read books or study; they wanted to play video games or watch TV. They defied every attempt of me to provide structure.  The children would be defensive saying "we are home-schooled and can do what we want to".  The kids would fight and the youngest of the three boys would try to "handle" the toddler girl to the point that she would consistently push him away and hit him.  She did not appear to understand boundaries.They had lack of educational balance.The 10 year-old can only read at a 1st grade level (barely), has a speech impediment, emotional issues, and expresses his frustration openly. He is overly aggressive with his siblings. They all express their dissatisfaction with him (as well as, expressing that their mother ignores their needs).

The mother did not pay me for my services and harassed me on a caregiver website giving false ratings and information due to projection, embarrassment and spite.

Now, this is only a few days and I probably did not capture everything.  However, it was enough for me to question the situation and if I should report this mother to protect the children living in filth, have a lack of education, and no real structure that will help them form as they grow up.  Does any of this sound like grounds for contacting CPS officials to look into the situation? I am worried for the children but not sure if this is enough to make a report. I have NEVER seen a family this filthy and deprived, I am so concerned for the educational, emotional and overall health of these children.

HELP!

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