Wednesday

Dealing with dads immature behavior...

When you start to realize how much of a immature jerk your boss is and as much as you hate to leave your precious nanny child, you know you don't deserve to be treated that way.

This past Week, I had Got a stomach bug that started in the middle of the night. I notified my bosses as soon as I realized I was unable to work. The one boss was able to get home to be able to cover in this situation. The immature boss decided to be mad at me for several days deliberately avoiding me and not speaking to me. I was told by my other boss just how mad he was tonight. My response was this was something that just happened not deliberate. His response was well you know how he does not handle stress and I should basically accept his behavior. He is the one who is married to this immature jerk, so he chooses to live his life with this jerk. But for me, I've never dealt with this type of behavior before and I'm not married to him, so why should I have to? What would you all do? Keep in mind, this is not the first time I've had to deal with his immature behavior.

7 comments:

Anonymous said...

What?! I don't understand what this says. If this is real, both of your bosses are morons. Why would the "mature" one even tell you the other was mad? Do you nanny for 12 year olds??? This is another gem.
If you don't like it and can't handle it, then leave. But then again, I'm not really sure what you'd be leaving about. You'd be just as immature. Grow up. If only we could all quit our jobs because we didn't like our boss...

Anonymous said...

Wow that's rude!! Ignore the immature commenter. If you can't understand what she wrote then your the 12 yr old . Although I'm pretty sure my son who is 12 would understand. You are definitely working for someone who doesn't value you and as a human being there will be days where you are well, human . So either ignore his passive aggressive behavior and just deal with the other boss, or you could move on. Make sure you find something first before you quit lol. Most of the time it's the annoying parents you have to deal with. The kids are great haha! Honestly though, you can find a family that values you. They are out there. I speak from experience, I've had good bosses and bad bosses. I have great bosses right now and I've never been happier!! Good luck and ignore the immature turd.

Anonymous said...

You're just as bad as the first anon by calling names...
I see what both of you are saying.
On the one hand OP, sure, suck it up and deal with it, but on the other, if you're uncomfortable, then move on. You have to decide where the line is.
But seriously, I don't think one boss is better than the other. If one is telling you that the other is mad at you... well, that's a problem too.

Leigh said...

Leigh here, the above advice is very good and well received. Name calling simply does not help and maybe our wise commenters can try to be more supportive. When an OP takes the time to write they are looking up to the readers as authorities and advice givers - making them feel small is not the role of a professional.

On the other hand - if someone hurts a child, that is different.

In this case, the Op is in a rough situation - this couple are both negative and to a degree emotionally abusive. Unfortunately these situations usually are either / or - you just have to take it to keep the job, or leave. However - I did have a situation once where the MB had outbursts due to stress and I confronted her saying words to the effect that I was sensitive to it blah and I would have to sadly quit and --she stopped! They needed me. So - you could enlist someone - a teacher, a pastor, a family member, YOU could encourage an update meeting to discuss it. But- it's just a part of life to have a boss or supervisor who has a personality problem. It usually boils down to - can you aford to quit? Or not? keep us posted if you can

Unknown said...

Um...they sound like heavily dramatic gay folks. A gay man can take a hormonal woman BEYOND the top for drama. Listen I'm not being racist. I KNOW what I'm talking about. And, as lovers of gossip, of course the mate WOULD tell you. This situation will not get better. Any little slight will get him miffed. But in reading your post again, I see you know that already. I'd be thanking my stars I'm not married to EITHER sex that acts like that. Seriously, get another job. Because that person is going to end up treating his kid that way too. Silent treatments or just nasty lashing out. Before you get too caught up in THAT drama, and it's even harder to leave.

Esther said...

I like the fact that you have written about this. we all need to be a little more understanding and we should each give the other the benefit of doubt.

Amos said...

True Esther. We all need to give each other the benefit of doubt