have observed an incompetent baby nurse doing the following things at her current job:
1)Washes baby's clothes and linens using a highly perfumed detergent when infant has extreme eczema.
2) First purees foods given at 5 months included broccoli, spinach, carrots, mangoes, and strawberries. (These foods are known to cause allergic reactions, nitrate poisoning, gas, and diarrhea).
3) Baby was constantly kept in "containers" like bumbo seats, swings, and exasaucers preventing them from reaching milestones. Baby was not sitting independently by 8.5 months, and not crawling by 10 months.
4)Baby placed in car seat with with large puffy jacket on.
5) Baby Nurse confessed to only taking in 300 calories a day; while drinking up to 9 cups of coffee a day, while not sleeping more than a couple hours a day, while going on long walks with baby( in major city) in the heat.
6) Baby Nurse disrespects Kosher Household and employers by bringing in pork, unkosher meats, and eating off the wrong plates.
7) Practices in-home medical care illegally without required state license.
8) Infant sometime rides on lap of Baby Nurse in car (without car seat) on icy and snowy roads in busy major city.
9)Baby Nurse leaves baby ALONE in crib in a high rise apartment to do laundry in the basement of building.
10) Baby Nurse breaches confidentiality of current and future employers by gossiping to friends about them.
11) Doesn’t feed the baby anything but formula and puree foods past babies first birthday, Occasionally will feed baby Cheerios, but will claim baby doesn’t have teeth to eat table food. Baby is never allowed to self feed food, except cheerios in order not to get dirty.
12) Baby's room is always messy and disorganized- to a dangerous degree for the crawling and curious baby.
13) Baby Nurse never cuddles, sings to, or rocks young infant. Baby never gets hardly ever gets nurturing tactile love in it's early life.
14) Baby Nurse snitches (mostly lies and sensitive topics) to employers and to other household staff, about other household staff. Since BN has been employed in home, ALL the household staff have admitted to being lied about, or snitched too by BN. Household is in turmoil, and Baby Nurse is HATED by most of the staff. At least one other staff members has fallen into clinical depression since the hiring of the Baby Nurse.
15) Baby nurse microwaves baby purees in plastic containers, as well as serves baby with plastic bowels and utensils. She often puts hot baby food straight into fridge without it cooling down first.
16) Has completely stocked baby nursery with soft plastic toys, mostly those that are loud and flashy. This clearly demonstrates no knowledge on infant cognitive and physical development.
17) Baby Nurse keeps nursery and other areas freezing. Baby's lips often turn blue and seems extremely uncomfortable.
18)Baby was put in a high chair months before he was able to sit unassisted. Baby was slouching into pelvis while fed.
19) Baby Nurse will only play or pay attention to baby when someone "important" is present or near. Baby is often ignored being put to play in crib, exasaucer, or playpen while baby nurse drinks coffee and surfs the internet.
20) The only time the baby is out is during self serving errands and calorie burning walks. Often sibling is told not to touch baby.
This Baby Nurse often works in a US major city. She claimes she earns up to $ 700-1000 a day for expert skills.
Sunday
Responding to nannys that are moms
I think Leigh has a great idea with this and I would
like to hear from other moms who are nannys as well.I could use the support for sure.
I am a mother and a nanny and I really love my job but I know a lot of family's that won't hire a nanny that is a mother too bc they are afraid their nanny will be too exhausted or most are women who are only doing it bc they need money and watching kids is all they know. I've been on many interviews where I wasn't sure how they would react once I told them I had children of my own. They seem confused..."why would you leave your kids with someone else to watch my kids and get paid?" Well bc it's like any job really? If I went to work at an office I would be doing the same thing? I really enjoy children, yes it's exhausting and it seems like its all I do from the time I wake up to the time I fall asleep. Yes I prepare 2 dinners each night....give your kids baths and my kids when I get home. I have felt guilty and conflicted at times when I am cuddling your child at the time and not mine, or while I'm taking yours to the park and a picnic while my kids are not with me. but at the end of the day I have to remember it's my job.
like to hear from other moms who are nannys as well.I could use the support for sure.
I am a mother and a nanny and I really love my job but I know a lot of family's that won't hire a nanny that is a mother too bc they are afraid their nanny will be too exhausted or most are women who are only doing it bc they need money and watching kids is all they know. I've been on many interviews where I wasn't sure how they would react once I told them I had children of my own. They seem confused..."why would you leave your kids with someone else to watch my kids and get paid?" Well bc it's like any job really? If I went to work at an office I would be doing the same thing? I really enjoy children, yes it's exhausting and it seems like its all I do from the time I wake up to the time I fall asleep. Yes I prepare 2 dinners each night....give your kids baths and my kids when I get home. I have felt guilty and conflicted at times when I am cuddling your child at the time and not mine, or while I'm taking yours to the park and a picnic while my kids are not with me. but at the end of the day I have to remember it's my job.
I always make sure my weekends are reserved for my family and if my boss wants a date night on a weekend it cannot conflict which my kids schedule. I honestly know I'm lucky bc I have read some stories about Women from other countries that are nannies here in America, who have had to leave their children behind. Only to send them money to survive.One woman said "I feel so guilty when I'm eating,bc I don't know if my child will eat today." that broke my heart. I hope employers read this and realize hiring a nanny is a big responsibility. Someones livelihood is in your hands. Think before you hire or let someone go. I am a mother, a nanny, a hard working woman.
Saturday
The Best Mother In The World
A recent post from a NANNY who is also a MOTHER hit home recently - how very difficult it is for them - the potential for criticism while working to their bones for not only their own children but their charges - we will have Ops from both sides of the coin chiming in over the weekend
Friday
Different Stages of Different Ages - Ideas!
Looking for ideas to help a 2 year old who is somewhat behind the other 2 year olds in my class. I know that every child develops at a different pace, however, this child is clearly not as advanced as the other 2 year olds, and I'd like suggestions on how to help him.
The other 2 year olds:
Are able to put on their own snow pants and boots
Can pull up and down their pants for the most part during diaper/potty time
Are trying to put on their own shoes
Are able to follow simple directions, along with two step directions : "when I say your name, go find your name at the table", "please take off your things and bring them to the closet when you are done" (we do this after we come in from outside and have one teacher in the closet showing them where their cubbies are), "go to the sink and wash your face and hands". They even understand getting a paper towel, turning on the water, and wiping their face with wet paper towel.
Can use their words if someone is bothering them, and can verbalize how they feel for the most part
Can understand, for the most part, if a friend doesn't like something they are doing, etc.
Of course they are two, and still learning, and they are so stinking cute. It's a work in progress, and everyday they are growing and learning.
What has been observed with this child:
Takes 20 minutes to put on and take off snow pants. We have up to 11 other kids depending on the day, and everyone else can dress themselves for the most part. This child sits there and doesn't move. By the time everyone else is dressed, this child is getting started, and needs someone to dress him.
Cannot even put on shoes, doesn't even try; just sits there, like he is waiting for someone to help him
Is very sidetracked by what is going on around him when attempting self help skills, such as getting dressed, washing hands and face, etc.
Has difficulty following simple directions: a few weeks ago, children were asked to find their names at the table, and sit down for lunch. Everyone was sitting down eating. This child was wandering around the tables for fifteen minutes like he didn't know what was going on, after being told what he needed to do several times. One of us had to guide him to his spot, which was the only one left at the table with a plate of food. We were surprised that he couldn't figure out what was going on, and what everyone else was doing.
Lack of social skills: he will go up to another child and take whatever they are playing with, or reading. Last week an older child (almost three) asked this child to please move out of her way so she could get through. This child just stood there and didn't move. The other child repeated what she asked again, a little bit louder this time, and he still didn't move. Finally, I walked over to them and gently moved him over so she could get through. Yesterday this child took a book from someone and kept holding on to it, before I explained to him he couldn't do that, as it was her choice of book. I asked him to give it back, and he couldn't grasp what I was asking him. I encouraged the child to use her words and take the book back, which she did with my help.
When I do hand over hand for self help skills, he jerks his hands away. I'm wondering if he has no fine motor skills, such as grasping and dexterity. Today after snack time, I told him to go to the sink and wash his face. He went over to the sink, then walked away. I explained the process: get a paper towel, run it under water and wipe the face. He got a paper towel and threw it in the garbage. I reminded him again how to wash his face. Finally, after the fourth time, I did hand over hand through the entire process, and he stiffened his hands and arms like he doesn't want to learn, and wants me to do it for him.
It's almost as if he wants everything done for him, and we are thinking that's the case at home. From what my director said, this child has always been like this, even in the 1 year old room. I started counting to ten, stating "let's see if you can get dressed before I get to ten". It seems to work, yet I also wonder if there could be a speech and comprehension delay that is preventing him from trying and understanding.
He is a mid-November birthday, hitting two and a half in mid-may. My director wants to wait until he is in our room for a few months before she says anything to the parents. I want to try a few things before that happens. Any ideas?
The other 2 year olds:
Are able to put on their own snow pants and boots
Can pull up and down their pants for the most part during diaper/potty time
Are trying to put on their own shoes
Are able to follow simple directions, along with two step directions : "when I say your name, go find your name at the table", "please take off your things and bring them to the closet when you are done" (we do this after we come in from outside and have one teacher in the closet showing them where their cubbies are), "go to the sink and wash your face and hands". They even understand getting a paper towel, turning on the water, and wiping their face with wet paper towel.
Can use their words if someone is bothering them, and can verbalize how they feel for the most part
Can understand, for the most part, if a friend doesn't like something they are doing, etc.
Of course they are two, and still learning, and they are so stinking cute. It's a work in progress, and everyday they are growing and learning.
What has been observed with this child:
Takes 20 minutes to put on and take off snow pants. We have up to 11 other kids depending on the day, and everyone else can dress themselves for the most part. This child sits there and doesn't move. By the time everyone else is dressed, this child is getting started, and needs someone to dress him.
Cannot even put on shoes, doesn't even try; just sits there, like he is waiting for someone to help him
Is very sidetracked by what is going on around him when attempting self help skills, such as getting dressed, washing hands and face, etc.
Has difficulty following simple directions: a few weeks ago, children were asked to find their names at the table, and sit down for lunch. Everyone was sitting down eating. This child was wandering around the tables for fifteen minutes like he didn't know what was going on, after being told what he needed to do several times. One of us had to guide him to his spot, which was the only one left at the table with a plate of food. We were surprised that he couldn't figure out what was going on, and what everyone else was doing.
Lack of social skills: he will go up to another child and take whatever they are playing with, or reading. Last week an older child (almost three) asked this child to please move out of her way so she could get through. This child just stood there and didn't move. The other child repeated what she asked again, a little bit louder this time, and he still didn't move. Finally, I walked over to them and gently moved him over so she could get through. Yesterday this child took a book from someone and kept holding on to it, before I explained to him he couldn't do that, as it was her choice of book. I asked him to give it back, and he couldn't grasp what I was asking him. I encouraged the child to use her words and take the book back, which she did with my help.
When I do hand over hand for self help skills, he jerks his hands away. I'm wondering if he has no fine motor skills, such as grasping and dexterity. Today after snack time, I told him to go to the sink and wash his face. He went over to the sink, then walked away. I explained the process: get a paper towel, run it under water and wipe the face. He got a paper towel and threw it in the garbage. I reminded him again how to wash his face. Finally, after the fourth time, I did hand over hand through the entire process, and he stiffened his hands and arms like he doesn't want to learn, and wants me to do it for him.
It's almost as if he wants everything done for him, and we are thinking that's the case at home. From what my director said, this child has always been like this, even in the 1 year old room. I started counting to ten, stating "let's see if you can get dressed before I get to ten". It seems to work, yet I also wonder if there could be a speech and comprehension delay that is preventing him from trying and understanding.
He is a mid-November birthday, hitting two and a half in mid-may. My director wants to wait until he is in our room for a few months before she says anything to the parents. I want to try a few things before that happens. Any ideas?
Thursday
Miss Annie's Etitquette Hour
We have a new reader! We welcome Miss Annie!!
Miss Annie has graciously agreed to answer our etiquette/manners questions.
Do you have a question for Miss Annie?
We will post questions as they come in, or you can ask in the comments!
Here is a link to her site!!
Gracious Me Academy - Miss Annie Presents Etiquette Books - AnnaMarie Martinez Minter - GraciousMeAcademy.com
Miss Annie has graciously agreed to answer our etiquette/manners questions.
Do you have a question for Miss Annie?
We will post questions as they come in, or you can ask in the comments!
Here is a link to her site!!
Gracious Me Academy - Miss Annie Presents Etiquette Books - AnnaMarie Martinez Minter - GraciousMeAcademy.com
A Prize Puzzle...
This weeks prize - calming hibiscus tea and SCORE!! Nanny reader Mishaun just donated a TON of mardi gras beads for our Nannies Love Kids Club - a special prize to the 1st person who tells us what land mass these beads form
A mom needs advice from our readers
Sunday
SALUTE - " COMMON SENSE MEDIA!" google it
This is a great resource suggested by great nanny madison to judge the appropriateness of movies books and much more for every age group. Any more suggestions on tools to know age appropriate activities?
Ears Covered !!!!!
From Nanny Kristen!! (A Featured Good Nanny)
I love to take my charges to the movies and my MB approves so we have much fun! We just saw "Daddy's Home " and I have good and bad news - it was hilarious from an adult point of view, but from a kid point of view the movie had too much adult content - curse words and content that will take away their innocence. I had to cover their ears more than once, I needed four hands !! The website said pg but it was really pg13. I would not take any child under 15 years to see it.
I also was not completely happy with the new STAR WARS movie either - it was bloody and scared my younger charge.
Any advice on movies - good or bad would be very helpful!
I love to take my charges to the movies and my MB approves so we have much fun! We just saw "Daddy's Home " and I have good and bad news - it was hilarious from an adult point of view, but from a kid point of view the movie had too much adult content - curse words and content that will take away their innocence. I had to cover their ears more than once, I needed four hands !! The website said pg but it was really pg13. I would not take any child under 15 years to see it.
I also was not completely happy with the new STAR WARS movie either - it was bloody and scared my younger charge.
Any advice on movies - good or bad would be very helpful!
Friday
More Nanny advice please
I work Mon-Fri hourly. my boss decides she didn't need me Monday. shouldn't I still get paid my normal 8 hours for that day? She pays me for holidays, she didn't need me Martin Luther king day. I assume I'm getting paid for that holiday even though it's not a major holiday. she insists we agreed on major holidays. well it's Friday and my boss said no pay for Monday. they have never not needed me. what to do in this situation? I feel like if I take off I don't get paid,if they don't need me I still should get paid.they know this is my only income. please I need advice. I feel like either it was a miscommunication or a manipulation to not have to pay me for a day since the whole family was home and they didn't want anyone else there. I've been here a year,no contract. ugh that was my mistake.
Nanny seeking advice
Hello. Nanny here.. Seeking advice from other nannies out there. So the family I nanny for, the mom will always ask me to do things for her(understandable, I have no problem) but she keeps adding more and more on. And her excuse is always "I have no time". I'm usually here 8:30-5:30. When I get here she goes to the gym from 8:30-10. She is married and the husband works from home sometimes.. As does the mom. Anyway, it's really starting to bother me when she asks me to do X amount of things and uses the excuse of not having time.
Do you think I should bring up to her, I don't understand how she doesn't have time to errands when she CHOOSES to workout? She puts working out a priority over things she should instead be getting done.
Please let me know! :) thank you all.
Do you think I should bring up to her, I don't understand how she doesn't have time to errands when she CHOOSES to workout? She puts working out a priority over things she should instead be getting done.
Please let me know! :) thank you all.
Am I being jacked? ( Socializing with NF)
I have been with this family for 8 months and I am really happy, I think I love the kids so much I am letting myself be taken advantage of ! The boy is 7 and the little girl is 5. There have been 4 times where the parents invite me to an event of the kids as a "guest" but it does not always turn out that way. One event was a birthday party where many of the kids knew me and I could not rest for a moment - I thought I would get to just hang out with the little girl, no pressure, and kick back, but no, the other parents were constantly asking me to help with the little girl's friends.
I was proud to come and see the boy receive an award, as I feel I help teach him but it took an hour to get to the ceremony and parking was not cheap, and my own family members were needing me for things.
I went to a wedding with their posse and --- I was somehow maneuvered into the kids room!!
But it makes me worry - if I turn down these invitations will it risk my job, will the kids be sad, and If I have a convo about money - do I charge my same nanny rate? I charge them $15 p/h per day for 30 per week in Dallas suburb area. I am very happy with them otherwise.
I was proud to come and see the boy receive an award, as I feel I help teach him but it took an hour to get to the ceremony and parking was not cheap, and my own family members were needing me for things.
I went to a wedding with their posse and --- I was somehow maneuvered into the kids room!!
But it makes me worry - if I turn down these invitations will it risk my job, will the kids be sad, and If I have a convo about money - do I charge my same nanny rate? I charge them $15 p/h per day for 30 per week in Dallas suburb area. I am very happy with them otherwise.
Not A Bad Idea - My Charge and I Have Fun Journal
While getting craft ideas from fellow nannies, one nanny - Amanda- gave the following idea - buying a cheap notebook and then decorate it with all sorts of things - ribbons, stickers and more - and then keep a creative journal of all the fun things you do with your charges on a daily basis. Wow, that is not a bad idea - not only will you have fun and teach your charges but - the notebook should be a constant witness about how fun you are with the kids. Join our ISYN Nannies Love Kids Club - we send out fun free things/crafts/stickers etc - next on the list will be "calming" hibiscus tea and mardi gras beads ! - just email us at ISYN with an address, while supplies last ;)
Does anyone do a journal like this already? send a pic!
What similar idea gets the kids having fun but ALSO makes YOU look good?
Does anyone do a journal like this already? send a pic!
What similar idea gets the kids having fun but ALSO makes YOU look good?
Thursday
Featured Comment !
Lynette Weiss said...
I think we've all seen enough requests/"shout outs" from parents who want everything a parent would/should do, all from that ONE person whom they seem to refer to as a "nanny," and all for 10.00 or 12.00 an hour: Full-time housekeeper, cook, laundress, chauffeur, errand runner, dog walker, pooper scooper, bed maker and linen changer, closet organizer, refrigerator cleaner and, ooops, almost forgot-- child care duties, i.e. teacher, playmate, toy washer and cleaner-upper, snack-maker, bath-giver, diaper changer, play-date hostess, etc etc etc.
And, while the above type of "job description" seems to be popping up all over the place, there are other requests that baffle the mind, just the same. For example, look at this one posted recently on one of the usual places; I am posting it just as it was printed:
$10.00 per hour
4 children (Preschool, Elementary)
I am a mother of 4 kids it can be hectic i need someone who is patient,very responsible, ten years of experience and over, caring and understanding , i want reassurance that my kids are in good and safe hands because i am a crazy mother and i will react in a very hostile way!!!!!
Want to apply to this job?
And then, there is this other one that was also posted on one of those usual places:
$6.00-10.00/hr.
Luna Just turned one. All I need is someone to tend to her basic needs. She will Entertain Herself and Put herself to sleep.
The first one is scary; the second one is just, well, sad.
I think we've all seen enough requests/"shout outs" from parents who want everything a parent would/should do, all from that ONE person whom they seem to refer to as a "nanny," and all for 10.00 or 12.00 an hour: Full-time housekeeper, cook, laundress, chauffeur, errand runner, dog walker, pooper scooper, bed maker and linen changer, closet organizer, refrigerator cleaner and, ooops, almost forgot-- child care duties, i.e. teacher, playmate, toy washer and cleaner-upper, snack-maker, bath-giver, diaper changer, play-date hostess, etc etc etc.
And, while the above type of "job description" seems to be popping up all over the place, there are other requests that baffle the mind, just the same. For example, look at this one posted recently on one of the usual places; I am posting it just as it was printed:
$10.00 per hour
4 children (Preschool, Elementary)
I am a mother of 4 kids it can be hectic i need someone who is patient,very responsible, ten years of experience and over, caring and understanding , i want reassurance that my kids are in good and safe hands because i am a crazy mother and i will react in a very hostile way!!!!!
Want to apply to this job?
And then, there is this other one that was also posted on one of those usual places:
$6.00-10.00/hr.
Luna Just turned one. All I need is someone to tend to her basic needs. She will Entertain Herself and Put herself to sleep.
The first one is scary; the second one is just, well, sad.
Wednesday
Need Advice on a new family.
I need some advice on a new family.
First a behavior question. I am nannying for a fairly new family. I began working for them last October, and I have been dealing with new/odd behavior from the two year old ever since.
The main part of my job is caring for a one year old girl twice a week. However, the last 3-4 hours of the day the two year old girl is also there. Ever since I arrived, she has been very sensitive to me being around.
For example, the first day I worked for the family, I was playing kitchen with the 2YO. She was making some pretend cookies for her dolls, and I asked her if she would make some for me. She just stared at me. So trying to play around, I did a poochie lip and sad face while saying “puweeese.” She started bawling… She seemed to not understand that I was just playing around. It look me 5 minutes to calm her down and make her understand that I was “pretend sad.” This is a completely new situation for me. I have never nannied such a sensitive child.
Since the 2YO is so sensitive, I have a hard time knowing how to deal with her behavior problems. I have tried doing fun things with her, such as decorating cookies or doing projects. These seem to help her warm up to me temporarily. However, she will just randomly seem to snap and get really sad and refuse to obey me or even look at me. For example, a couple of days ago I was making her dinner, and I asked her if she wanted some milk. She just looked at me and yelled “don’t say my name!” It was so weird and out of the blue.
She is also dealing with mommy issues right now. Once in a while she will refuse to let me put on her bib, give her milk, or something similar. Instead, she will run away and yell “No! I want mommy to (whatever it is).” I have no idea how to deal with this. I want to be sensitive to her feelings, and help her feel comfortable around me, but I also want her to know that it is not okay to yell at me. I have tried sitting down with her and explaining that I want her to tell me how she feels, but that she needs to say it in a kind way. But she just stares at me… And completely disregards what I’m saying. The mother is supportive and corrects the 2YO if she is disrespectful to me, but the mom also doesn’t believe in giving many time-outs (The 2YO has only had 2-3 in her life despite tantrums). Thus I do not feel like I can discipline the 2YO.
The other questions I have are about the job in general.
In the initial interview, when talking about wage, the mom offered $15 an hour for one child + light housecleaning. When I asked what the wage would be whenever the 2YO was around, the mom assured me that her oldest would not be around unless she was sick. But that she would pay around $20 an hour. That is more than I usually charge for two children, so I was ecstatic and surprised. The problem is that when babysitting, or when the 2YO has been around all day, the mom doesn’t consistently pay me $20 an hour.
The mom pays me at the end of each week, and has always just paid me $15 an hour no matter how much the 2YO was around. The only time she has paid me $20 an hour is twice (out of 10 times) when babysitting. Sometimes she will give me $20 an hour, and sometimes $15 an hour. There doesn’t seem to be any pattern or anything that decides which wage she pays me. I am really confused about the whole situation and I don’t know if I should mention something, or just be thankful for what I do make.
Another odd thing that I have noticed is with my paychecks. The mom normally pays me exactly what she owes. However, once in a while she will be $5-10 under what she owes. I have never mentioned it to her because I don’t view it as a huge deal, but IDK if I should.
Also, I need some advice about how to bring up a raise. In the interview the mom mentioned that since I usually charge $16 an hour for one child (+ some light housework), I could bring up a raise for discussion in a couple months. How long should I wait before bringing it up? And what is the best way to bring it up? I tend to be a more quiet non-confrontive person. So I have a really hard time bringing up issues or raises to my employers.
The last thing is that the mom recently cut my hours. I used to work Monday’s7:30-4 and Thursday 7:30-3. But after the holidays, she cut it to Monday’s 7:30-3:30 and Thursday 12:00-4:00. I am a college student, so I really count on all the funds I make to pay for rent and everything else. Because of that, I am going to have to find a job for someone else that is once a week. I don’t know if I should bring it up with her, or just keep on searching for another family that only needs me once a week.
First a behavior question. I am nannying for a fairly new family. I began working for them last October, and I have been dealing with new/odd behavior from the two year old ever since.
The main part of my job is caring for a one year old girl twice a week. However, the last 3-4 hours of the day the two year old girl is also there. Ever since I arrived, she has been very sensitive to me being around.
For example, the first day I worked for the family, I was playing kitchen with the 2YO. She was making some pretend cookies for her dolls, and I asked her if she would make some for me. She just stared at me. So trying to play around, I did a poochie lip and sad face while saying “puweeese.” She started bawling… She seemed to not understand that I was just playing around. It look me 5 minutes to calm her down and make her understand that I was “pretend sad.” This is a completely new situation for me. I have never nannied such a sensitive child.
Since the 2YO is so sensitive, I have a hard time knowing how to deal with her behavior problems. I have tried doing fun things with her, such as decorating cookies or doing projects. These seem to help her warm up to me temporarily. However, she will just randomly seem to snap and get really sad and refuse to obey me or even look at me. For example, a couple of days ago I was making her dinner, and I asked her if she wanted some milk. She just looked at me and yelled “don’t say my name!” It was so weird and out of the blue.
She is also dealing with mommy issues right now. Once in a while she will refuse to let me put on her bib, give her milk, or something similar. Instead, she will run away and yell “No! I want mommy to (whatever it is).” I have no idea how to deal with this. I want to be sensitive to her feelings, and help her feel comfortable around me, but I also want her to know that it is not okay to yell at me. I have tried sitting down with her and explaining that I want her to tell me how she feels, but that she needs to say it in a kind way. But she just stares at me… And completely disregards what I’m saying. The mother is supportive and corrects the 2YO if she is disrespectful to me, but the mom also doesn’t believe in giving many time-outs (The 2YO has only had 2-3 in her life despite tantrums). Thus I do not feel like I can discipline the 2YO.
The other questions I have are about the job in general.
In the initial interview, when talking about wage, the mom offered $15 an hour for one child + light housecleaning. When I asked what the wage would be whenever the 2YO was around, the mom assured me that her oldest would not be around unless she was sick. But that she would pay around $20 an hour. That is more than I usually charge for two children, so I was ecstatic and surprised. The problem is that when babysitting, or when the 2YO has been around all day, the mom doesn’t consistently pay me $20 an hour.
The mom pays me at the end of each week, and has always just paid me $15 an hour no matter how much the 2YO was around. The only time she has paid me $20 an hour is twice (out of 10 times) when babysitting. Sometimes she will give me $20 an hour, and sometimes $15 an hour. There doesn’t seem to be any pattern or anything that decides which wage she pays me. I am really confused about the whole situation and I don’t know if I should mention something, or just be thankful for what I do make.
Another odd thing that I have noticed is with my paychecks. The mom normally pays me exactly what she owes. However, once in a while she will be $5-10 under what she owes. I have never mentioned it to her because I don’t view it as a huge deal, but IDK if I should.
Also, I need some advice about how to bring up a raise. In the interview the mom mentioned that since I usually charge $16 an hour for one child (+ some light housework), I could bring up a raise for discussion in a couple months. How long should I wait before bringing it up? And what is the best way to bring it up? I tend to be a more quiet non-confrontive person. So I have a really hard time bringing up issues or raises to my employers.
The last thing is that the mom recently cut my hours. I used to work Monday’s7:30-4 and Thursday 7:30-3. But after the holidays, she cut it to Monday’s 7:30-3:30 and Thursday 12:00-4:00. I am a college student, so I really count on all the funds I make to pay for rent and everything else. Because of that, I am going to have to find a job for someone else that is once a week. I don’t know if I should bring it up with her, or just keep on searching for another family that only needs me once a week.
Tuesday
Bad Nanny Sighting - Kidville UES
I am reporting a nanny from the UES Kidville caring for a blonde 18-24 month boy named Alexander. They had a horrible dynamic from the start; he kept hitting her and screaming for nothing and she never calmed him down or spoke gently to him. Instead, she threatened him repeatedly, telling him she would put him in time-out and confiscating his playdough etc, which only made him scream more and become more aggressive. He screamed on and off for basically the entire class and then the nanny, two minutes before end of class - and most likely to deflect any blame from herself - announced that his tantrums were probably the result of his ear infection that hadn’t been treated yet.
There was a pregnant mom in the class who was not happy to be sitting next to a sick child and, when she moved seats, the nanny even mocked her publicly to anyone who would listen.
Aside from the fact that this little boy was sick and should have been kept home, this nanny handled the situation so terribly and only aggravated this poor little boy’s upset and frustration.
This nanny had no business being anywhere near kids.
This was posted on http://nannysightings.com/
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New York Nanny Question...
Hello & Good morning! I am a nanny to a precious little boy who is 11.5 months old in New York City , it's been getting very cold outside and I don't feel too comfortable taking him outside to his classes ( we have to take a bus to his classes , there are none in our neighborhood ) ... The mother suggested and said she'll pay for the cab rides... would you still go outside with your charges?
I used to be a infant teacher in a daycare , we weren't permitted to take out our little ones if it was below 33° * ( if I'm not mistaken )
Just curious! It's going to be in the low 30s and High 20s this week .
Would love the feedback
Sunday
Crappy Dad Sighting in The Hollywood Hills (RANT)
by anonymous nanny
You and your little girl really charmed me and MB at 1st, you in your nice Sunday suit and your pretty 3 year old blond daughter with her pink ribbon in her hair and pretty pink dress with flowers. You were visiting my charge's neighbors and said how she had grown antsy in church and could you visit for a few minutes seeing my charge's awesome swing set, sandbox, jungle jim and many other toys in his big yard.
My little 2 year old guy tried a couple of times to join in play with your daughter but she would roughly push him down on the ground away from which ever toy she was borrowing. He got the message and would go play on other things away from her so she started following my guy around pushing him away from his OWN toys in his OWN back yard!
Your response to this was to gaze lovingly at her as if she was Mother Teresa. My guy broke my heart a few times looking right at me with a hurt quizzical look as if to say " now that's not right is it nanny?" because he has been raised correctly. Finally he only felt safe in my lap for 40 minutes until you took your pretty yet terrible girl away and I could find his mom, tell her what happened and we praised him for a long time for being such a good and patient boy! I am lucky to work with a good hearted little guy!!!
You and your little girl really charmed me and MB at 1st, you in your nice Sunday suit and your pretty 3 year old blond daughter with her pink ribbon in her hair and pretty pink dress with flowers. You were visiting my charge's neighbors and said how she had grown antsy in church and could you visit for a few minutes seeing my charge's awesome swing set, sandbox, jungle jim and many other toys in his big yard.
My little 2 year old guy tried a couple of times to join in play with your daughter but she would roughly push him down on the ground away from which ever toy she was borrowing. He got the message and would go play on other things away from her so she started following my guy around pushing him away from his OWN toys in his OWN back yard!
Your response to this was to gaze lovingly at her as if she was Mother Teresa. My guy broke my heart a few times looking right at me with a hurt quizzical look as if to say " now that's not right is it nanny?" because he has been raised correctly. Finally he only felt safe in my lap for 40 minutes until you took your pretty yet terrible girl away and I could find his mom, tell her what happened and we praised him for a long time for being such a good and patient boy! I am lucky to work with a good hearted little guy!!!
Friday
A Club 4 U!
A Club 4 U!
We have received an enthusiastic response to our give-a-way nanny fun (so far - emergen-c packets and sticker books) so we now will form a club - ISYN's Nannies <3 Kids Club , no you do not have to be a nanny, just love kids and want the best for them. We will be giving away fun things on a regular basis - we buy crazy kid stuff on sale ALL the time - and we want to thank our loyal professional posters - just email us here at ISYN with any address, personal or business, how many charges you have - 1000% private. 1st come 1st served while supplies last lol!
We have received an enthusiastic response to our give-a-way nanny fun (so far - emergen-c packets and sticker books) so we now will form a club - ISYN's Nannies <3 Kids Club , no you do not have to be a nanny, just love kids and want the best for them. We will be giving away fun things on a regular basis - we buy crazy kid stuff on sale ALL the time - and we want to thank our loyal professional posters - just email us here at ISYN with any address, personal or business, how many charges you have - 1000% private. 1st come 1st served while supplies last lol!
another Craigslist WTF!?? !?!?!
******Seeking Sitter for our little Bubba **** (lakewood)
Childcare Needed Start Immediately
Seeking a nanny near Lakewood for 1 child. We are searching for a full work day (Tuesday 7:20am-4:30pm) and a half day of (Wednesday 7:20am-12:30pm) as well as occasional potential additional days a month based on mom's work schedule. Our little baby is our world and we love our baby so very much thus please know you will be taking care of first time parents baby. Hence very protective, caring, and extremely attentive to baby and everything and everyone in his world. Our little baby just turned 1 year and he will need to be taken care at our home. We are looking for someone that can commit to spending time with our son and give him the best care possible. This will require of nanny/sitter to be involved with him and playing during waking hours. Must be CPR certified. We will ask for proof. If not must be willing to get this done before start date.
Preference given to those who love reading to kids. An interest in musical instruments. We'd like someone who enjoys arts & crafts. Some light tidying up would be part of our caregiver's responsibilities; I will leave list of task to be done during sleeping time of baby. Nanny/babysitter will not be sitting down watching TV during paid time. In fact baby does not watch any TV or Netflix etc. thus no television or devices viewing of any kind. Schedule Details: We need guarantee days. We (mom and dad) are not flexible with our dates and times we must be in office thus, our child's care needs to be committed and consistent.
Note please do NOT apply if any of the following apply to you:
1) Do not have your own transportation or guarantee reliable source of transportation
3) You are allergic to dogs (we have two small yorkies)
4) If you have children you plan to bring with you; we ONLY want your attention to be for our baby
5) You do not have references (we will be asking for references)
6) You live outside of the Lakewood/Tacoma/Puyallup (within 20minutes) area (we do not want to hire someone that lives outside the city limits)
7) You do not have a Valid ID; you must be able to provide an ID
8) You are under 18 years of age; you must be at least 18 years old.
Pay: hourly pay negotiable ($5-$7) based on experience
Days: Tuesday 7:20am-4:30pm & Wednesday 7:20am-12:30pm
Hours: 14-16 hours a week plus possibly additional hours as needed
Apply:
1) Reply to the email above
2) Resume/Experience/ description of your self (we need to know a bit about you)
3) Your full name
4) Number
5) Age
6) Availability (when can you begin)
7) Are you local to our city limits
8) Do you have reliable transportation
We will only contact perspective child care that is professional and is able to reply with all that is required.
We thank you in advance and look forward to hearing from you.
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