When the Baby Doesn't Like the Nanny

I am the OP of When the Baby Doesn't Like the Nanny. It was harder than it should be to arrange my husband to do the handoff in the morning, but he seperated from husband to nanny with no problem. Husband could not do the evenings. Last night, when I came home the nanny was holding the baby and the baby was upset. When passed to me, baby immediately soothed. I felt bad for her red face. Tonight, I asked nanny to put baby in the swing at 5:00. "Baby" was crying when I walked in, nanny said she hadn't wanted the swing. So I think we have a fussy baby on our hands, who is most happy in mommy's arms. I feel better for the suggestions, especially knowing that with husband handing off in the morning, she looked to the nanny and clasped on to her hard. Thanks everyone. I really didn't want to work part time!

Original Post 4/29/15 11:38 AM
 Problem. I have a 16 month old nanny and a new nanny for one month. She seems wonderful to me. I noticed a lot of separation anxiety with my child in the beginning, which I assumed is normal. When it continued, I sent the nanny to the beach with the child during week three and had a friend observe her without her knowledge. The friend reports the nanny tried to interest my daughter in the sand toys, used a positive tone of voice, showed enthusiasm, smiled a lot, handled her gently, etc. This is week 4, day three and I don't know what else I can do to fix this. She screams and cries in the morning when the nanny arrives and when I leave. When I take her from the nanny in the evening, she looks back at her in a guarded way.  I know some people just don't mesh, is this possible with the baby? When I first returned to work after maternity leave, I worked part time and had a part time nanny. When the part time nanny could not take on the full time schedule, I had to replace her with this new, highly recommended nanny. It is so bad that I really am thinking of going back to part time and bringing the part time nanny back. So my question to you all is, in addition to wondering why this mix isn't working, how do I let a nanny go after a month? She doesn't have a contract, but we did talk with her and ask for a long term committment. Is two weeks severance and a strong letter of recommendation enough?

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Baseball Fields in Central Park, NYC

Where: North Meadow Baseball Field, Central Park
When: 4/16 @  around 5:00PM
Description of the Nanny: I Saw Your Nanny, Haitian, I think by accent. Wearing a blouse that was two colors of purple in a floral design and a navy colored long skirt, dark colored socks and natural looking, "Jesus" style sandals.
Description of the Child: White Boy of about 2. Wearing an orange L/s shirt with Adidas logo on it and blue jeans. Wearing black tennis shoes with a teal sole.
Blanket: Looked like an old style bedspread, cream colored with fringe on the side
Stroller: Dark blue. Larger wheels in the back than front. Black and chrome.
Incident: I saw enough to know this nanny shouldn't be a nanny. For one thing, they weren't at a playground, they were on the blanket. The nanny was either sitting, laying or reclining and she tried to get what seemed like a very active two year old to do the same. The boy wanted to move and she kept pulling him back on to the blanket by his shirt, and not gently. The nanny was trying to read a small sized magazine that had to deal with soap operas. The nanny told him to "sit" and to "stay" and threatened to "lock him back up in his stroller". She eventually did strap him in the stroller with a bottle and told him to go to sleep. Then the nanny laid and tried to get in to her book. The kid was fussy and even threw the bottle. The were there when I arrived at 5 and looked to have been there awhile. When the kid refused to go to sleep, the nanny let him out of the stroller again. He wanted to wander off his 5 foot square are but she kept pulling him by his shirt, even pushing him at one point to fall down. Before they left, she got out a baby wipe, cleaned his face, combed his hair and used Q tips in his nose and ears. After she cleaned his ears, he screamed blood murder holding one of his ears and really crying like he was hurt. She kept telling, "You stop this, come on now, you don't want to be a dirty boy". After she cleaned his hands with the wet wipe she wiped her legs. Then she packed up and left. Sorry, but she doesn't seem to like your kid. He deserves better!

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16 Handles Ave J in Midwood Brooklyn

When: 4:30 pm on 3/11/15
Who: AA Nanny (see photo)
Child: Boy of about age 2, wearing a striped shirt.
Location: 16 Handles Ave J in Midwood Brooklyn.
Incident: Was with a boy about aged 2 at . Little boy was  running around. Nanny is in between the glass doors standing up shown here. Nanny was on her phone and threatening to punish the boy while she pushed the stroller, he ran around the store and continued to get caught in between the doors while she is still on her phone. When they walked outside he ran up onto a snow bank near the stree
t on Ave J and almost ran into the road. She is still on her phone talking and pushing the carriage while the boy runs out of her sight. About 2 minutes later she loads him onto the back of the stroller and he is standing on the back of the stroller instead of sitting in the stroller while she is still on her phone pushing him on the stroller with 1 hand. If you Enlarge the photo you can see the nanny's clothing. I hope that someone in this close knit orthodox neighborhood can identify the nanny and the boy.

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Sprinkles Cupcakes on Lexington in NYC

When: 2/24/2015 approx 12:15 PM
Where: Sprinkles Cupcakes on Lexington in NYC
Child: White boy with reddish/blond hair, Sweater striped with three different greens, jeans, tan and navy hiking boots on a gluten free diet. Aidan or Evan.
Nanny: Large white nanny wearing yoga pants. Yoga pants were once black, but very fades to a soft black, there was a fold down, striped waist band. The nanny had short, bobbed brown hair and looked to be in her early 20's. She had a short, faded denim jacket on too.
Tweeker: Tall ugz, fleece pants,  blue and grey NorthFace jacket, darker brown hair, stringy, very thin, looked in her 30's.
Situation: Nanny arrived with child. Nanny had an envelope clearly marked "NANNY" with money inside, so their is no question that she is the nanny and that she was using house funds for this event. Nanny ordered two cupcakes. She sat down and things seemed fine. Then about five minutes later a third person joined them. She was a little older, skinny, looked like a tweeker. I say this because she kept scratching her forearms. She asked the nanny to get her something. The nanny handed her a $20 and the tweeker went to the counter and got a cupcake and a coffee and sat back down. I noticed she didn't return the change, but that isn't the crux. The boy was obviously very verbal. He kept himself engaged with his cupcake and a tractor trailer hot-wheel car, but the nanny and her friend began having a conversation about a rape, including graphic details and while the boy did seem content where he was, he was also one foot away from their mouths. The tweeker chick had a horrible vocabulary and not the best grasp of grammar either. Then when talk of the rape was finally over the tweeker was talking about needing a place to stay and the two of them concocted a plan of how she (your nanny) was going to sneak the tweeker in in the evenings to sleep there. They went over how they would work it. This is obviously not my business, but this is a character you don't want meeting up for cupcakes with your child and you certainly don't want SNUCK IN YOUR HOME!

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Galleria Mall Food Court in White Plains, NY

Received Wednesday, July 16, 2010
I saw your nanny. (Tuesday at approximately 1:10 PM) I don't know why you would hire her. She's clearly judgmental, clueless and lazy. Maybe you LIKE that kind of combo. Me. I don't. Especially when your nanny approaches MY daughter whilst sitting enjoying some fried rice and tells her that her shorts are too short for a young girl and "your momma can't know you're wearing heels THAT high". That is when I approached, carrying my own fare. I looked at my daughter who looked shocked and said, "what, what?". The nanny walks away and rejoins YOUR child. Who is YOUR child? The toddler sitting by himself 3 tables away in a big navy blue stroller, the sort that looks very heavy and has lots of pads and bells and whistles. Yes, YOUR nanny left YOUR charge alone while she came over and berated my daughter (and me). After your busy body, imposing and intruding nanny left my daughter, she told me exactly what she said. For the readers at home, my daughter was wearing NORMAL jean shorts that every girl her age wears. Jean shorts that are sold in TWEEN stores. Her heels are 2 inch wedges. She is 13. She is going to be okay. Your nanny, however, will not be okay if I ever see her again-without your child-. I would love to have a minute alone with her in a dark elevator. Who in the hell does she think she is? And why wasn't a nanny watcher watching her abandon her charge to accost my own? When I looked at the nanny, I was seething, but out of respect for your child, I said and did nothing. Just the same, you should KNOW that your NANNY is overstepping her bounds and terrorizing tweens while on the clock. Your child is a blonde boy of about 2. Your nanny is a Black woman of about 38-42, 5"6" wearing a green polo with white collar and jeans.

Food Court at the Galleria Mall in White Plains