Original Post 4/29/15 11:38 AM
Problem. I have a 16 month old nanny and a new nanny for one month. She seems wonderful to me. I noticed a lot of separation anxiety with my child in the beginning, which I assumed is normal. When it continued, I sent the nanny to the beach with the child during week three and had a friend observe her without her knowledge. The friend reports the nanny tried to interest my daughter in the sand toys, used a positive tone of voice, showed enthusiasm, smiled a lot, handled her gently, etc. This is week 4, day three and I don't know what else I can do to fix this. She screams and cries in the morning when the nanny arrives and when I leave. When I take her from the nanny in the evening, she looks back at her in a guarded way. I know some people just don't mesh, is this possible with the baby? When I first returned to work after maternity leave, I worked part time and had a part time nanny. When the part time nanny could not take on the full time schedule, I had to replace her with this new, highly recommended nanny. It is so bad that I really am thinking of going back to part time and bringing the part time nanny back. So my question to you all is, in addition to wondering why this mix isn't working, how do I let a nanny go after a month? She doesn't have a contract, but we did talk with her and ask for a long term committment. Is two weeks severance and a strong letter of recommendation enough?
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