Nanny V. Housekeeper
I will cite some examples, but I need some guidance. I am a working mother, so I am out of the home M-F, while they are working. The housekeeper cleans the house on a basic schedule, so as I understand it, she would be upstairs doing bedrooms at one time and doing the kitchen at another time. The housekeeper claims the nanny tries to "know her schedule" and cooks around it. The nanny makes dinner for the children and the housekeeper is mad that the nanny is doing meal prep while the children eat breakfast. This makes sense to me. The housekeeper sees it as intentional. I've also come home to a very clean house and then come across random things like crumbs on a counter by the toaster and the toaster not pushed back. My thought is that the nanny needs to clean up after herself, but she is also taking care of and feeding three kids. The counter had clearly been cleaned AROUND the crumbs, which to me is deliberate and petty.
The housekeeper is making complaints against the nanny that she is lazy, doesn't encourage the children to pick up, intentionally makes extra laundry and purposely doesn't flush the toilet and pees on the seat. (Really). The nanny responds more level headed, apologizes and suggests the housekeeper should communicate directly with her, that way, she could have the child pick up the offending mess then and there. When I suggested this to the housekeeper, the housekeeper said that she doesn't work for the nanny and she is not going to be ordered around by the nanny.
Last night when I came home, I was changing in my dressing area. The area seemed very clean, but I noticed some perfumes were out, there was mascara laying down, there were finger prints on the mirror and vanity, lipstick on a q-tip laying there and some clothing hangars on the floor. When I asked the housekeeper about it, she told me, "Look I can't control the nanny if she wants to dress up in your clothes and makeup." Is she trying to make me crazy? I was thinking that the solution was to find a new housekeeper. My gut tells me she created this mess on top of the cleaned dressing area, but what if I am wrong?
If I do let the housekeeper go, how do I set things up next time so we don't have these problems?