I just finished reading about a nanny that spends a lot of time with the mother, complained by the mother's sister. Now everyone of the comments says to FIRE THE NANNY. Are you kidding me?? Sounds like the mother wants the nanny there, it's none of your business. Why should the nanny suffer because you're insecure? Do you realize that this is someone's livelihood you're playing with? Nannies put a huge amount of trust in families to work for you. Take that responsibility seriously like they do with your children. If you have an actual bad nanny, one you've given many chances to, go ahead and get rid of her. You have one that is great but did something that kind of bugged you or had a bad day? GIVE THEM A CHANCE. If you can't trust someone to work or live in your house with your family, don't work with them.
I've worked with Manhattan moms and not only am I taking on the responsibility of their child's life, health, and wellness, but I'm always worried that I'm going to trip up. That the baby will cry for no reason and they'll send nasty messages about me. That's actually happened. I had the responsibility of taking the baby to a school, baby hit someone, I removed baby, sat her in my lap and let her play in another area, and then took her back over after she calmed down to apologize to the other baby. I got in trouble for that. The moms said it was 'aggressive' and 'would hurt the baby's ego' that she 'shouldn't feel badly about herself after a mistake'. Sometimes you moms are insane. If a baby hurts someone else, they should know what they did was wrong and apologize when they realize it. If you coddle your baby too much and worry about their self esteem too much, you're going to raise a sociopath. Give them a chance to learn from their mistakes. Also, kids need some space to play and explore on their own. I'm not saying that you should completely neglect them, but I always felt that the parents that are always hovering over their kids crying over every bump and scrape were obscene. Kids need some independance. Safe independence, but distance yourself a little. It'll help you and the baby. I say baby, because I think kids under 10 are all babies. End rant.
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