Received Thursday, April 12, 2007
This occurred on the TODDLER playground (for small children) on Tuesday afternoon, 4/10, around 5:30 pm. Your nanny allowed your son, "Sam", who appeared to be 6-7 years old (sorry, I'm not good with these ages) to pee in the playground. The pee (and there was a lot) ran down a 2-ft. wall onto the ground where lots of young toddlers walk, put their hands, etc. I think your daughter,who was younger, maybe 5 y.o., also peed, but I didn't see it. I just saw the girl and the nanny straightening up her pants. I went over to your nanny and asked if she had allowed the boy to pee, and she said, yes, because it was late and he couldn't hold it. I asked her to take him to a restroom next time, and she asked where? I told her there are plenty of restaurants on Atlantic Ave.where she can take him.Your nanny was 5'2-4", Hispanic, dark hair pulled back. I think she may have had agold crown on one of her front teeth. She seemed quiet and nice and was apologetic when I addressed it with her. Your son has dark hair and was wearing a mostly light blue jacket, with an orange stripe and white hood. Your daughter had short brown hair and was wearing a mauve jacket and mauve socks.I doubt if you know that your nanny is allowing your children to pee in the playground. Please advise her where she can take your kids so they can pee in privacy, and the rest of our children can play pee-free. Thank you.
Thursday
Harrison Avenue School Playground in Harrison, NY
Received Thursday, April 12, 2007
I just had to send this in. I saw a super nanny late this afternoon (4/11) at the playground by the Harrison Avenue School. She was supervising two boys who may have been twins or may have been very close in age. Both boys had very light hair and light coloring. One boy wore a black and blue nylon jacket and the other boy wore a solid navy jacket. The boys were probably between 4-6, but the nanny was still on her feet the whole time. The nanny was timing the children. How long could they hang. How long would it take them to run in the grass from point A to point B. You could just tell this nanny loved those boys and they loved her. There was a little girl at the playground, I believe with an older sibling who was kind of left to her own devices and every time she went down the slide and the nanny was anywhere near, she stood at the bottom of the slide to watch out for this kid. A stranger's child! The nanny was an attractive, heavy set African American with bright eyes and a huge smile. She had a short style of medium colored brown hair and was wearing a cream and peach colored jacket with mesh style pockets and was probably between 25-35.
I just had to send this in. I saw a super nanny late this afternoon (4/11) at the playground by the Harrison Avenue School. She was supervising two boys who may have been twins or may have been very close in age. Both boys had very light hair and light coloring. One boy wore a black and blue nylon jacket and the other boy wore a solid navy jacket. The boys were probably between 4-6, but the nanny was still on her feet the whole time. The nanny was timing the children. How long could they hang. How long would it take them to run in the grass from point A to point B. You could just tell this nanny loved those boys and they loved her. There was a little girl at the playground, I believe with an older sibling who was kind of left to her own devices and every time she went down the slide and the nanny was anywhere near, she stood at the bottom of the slide to watch out for this kid. A stranger's child! The nanny was an attractive, heavy set African American with bright eyes and a huge smile. She had a short style of medium colored brown hair and was wearing a cream and peach colored jacket with mesh style pockets and was probably between 25-35.
Wednesday
In Connecticut (quick rant)
Received Wednesday, April 11, 2007
Dear Stay at Home Mother with Nanny,
You seem to wear your nanny with the same amour propre and gusto as you do those hideous Valentino bow ballet flats. Why, just why do you bring your nanny with you to our baby class? One ordinary child does not need two caretakers. Perhaps you think this is a sign of social status and your dominance; but it truly is something you might wish to rethink. And preferably before next week.
Dear Stay at Home Mother with Nanny,
You seem to wear your nanny with the same amour propre and gusto as you do those hideous Valentino bow ballet flats. Why, just why do you bring your nanny with you to our baby class? One ordinary child does not need two caretakers. Perhaps you think this is a sign of social status and your dominance; but it truly is something you might wish to rethink. And preferably before next week.
Am I overstepping my boundaries? Nanny seeks advice....
Received Wednesday, April 11, 2007
I am a live-in nanny for a family and their wonderful 19-month old toddler. I have been with the family for about 6 months and am wondering whether or how to bring up some concerns I have. Their child is generally a happy kid, she plays well and is well-tempered almost all the time she is with me. However, I am starting to worry about her development. At 19 months, she has no words that she uses consistently. She occasionally tells the family dog to "sit", but it is literally once or twice in a month. She also has a fascination with anything that has wheels, and would spend all day rolling the same barbie car back and forth if I didn't guide her to another activity. Sometimes when I am talking to her, it's like I am not even in the same room, and in order to get her attention, I have to literally take her by the hand and lead her to another activity. The last odd thing is that she doesn't make eye contact. She will briefly, for a second, and only when you call her name and she actually looks, but she looks away right away.
What is strange is that different parts of her behavior are always present, but sometimes she will be very vocal and affectionate, sometimes she will want to involve herself with whatever I am trying to get her to play with, and she definitely plays with her parents and the dog. It's just strange, something feels "off", but I don't want to bring up to the parents what I think she may have. I have done research in college and plenty more research lately about autism and I keep thinking that she has very autistic tendencies. The only thing is that autism sounds like a scary thing, because it has such a wide spectrum. I want to definitely see if her parents are interested in doing tests to see if she does autism that way we can start therapy now, but I don't want to step on their toes or scare them about this. What should I do? I love this family so much and I don't want them to feel like I betrayed their trust, but I do want to help their daughter developmentally get on track. I would love any advice other parents or nannies have to offer. Am I overstepping my boundaries?
I am a live-in nanny for a family and their wonderful 19-month old toddler. I have been with the family for about 6 months and am wondering whether or how to bring up some concerns I have. Their child is generally a happy kid, she plays well and is well-tempered almost all the time she is with me. However, I am starting to worry about her development. At 19 months, she has no words that she uses consistently. She occasionally tells the family dog to "sit", but it is literally once or twice in a month. She also has a fascination with anything that has wheels, and would spend all day rolling the same barbie car back and forth if I didn't guide her to another activity. Sometimes when I am talking to her, it's like I am not even in the same room, and in order to get her attention, I have to literally take her by the hand and lead her to another activity. The last odd thing is that she doesn't make eye contact. She will briefly, for a second, and only when you call her name and she actually looks, but she looks away right away.
What is strange is that different parts of her behavior are always present, but sometimes she will be very vocal and affectionate, sometimes she will want to involve herself with whatever I am trying to get her to play with, and she definitely plays with her parents and the dog. It's just strange, something feels "off", but I don't want to bring up to the parents what I think she may have. I have done research in college and plenty more research lately about autism and I keep thinking that she has very autistic tendencies. The only thing is that autism sounds like a scary thing, because it has such a wide spectrum. I want to definitely see if her parents are interested in doing tests to see if she does autism that way we can start therapy now, but I don't want to step on their toes or scare them about this. What should I do? I love this family so much and I don't want them to feel like I betrayed their trust, but I do want to help their daughter developmentally get on track. I would love any advice other parents or nannies have to offer. Am I overstepping my boundaries?
Tuesday
Starbucks in Brooklyn Heights, NY
Received Tuesday, April 10, 2007
I saw a nanny in Brooklyn Heights on Montague Street in front of Starbucks yesterday. She was very caring and nice to the child she was charged with. "Steven you are such a good boy," she said. Little Steven was very calm and well behaved with her. That was until a woman, clearly the child's mother, came around. He started crying and hiding from the woman. Then she began to scream, "Steven you little horror! Be nice to Mommy or I'll smack you." I looked over and saw a tear forming in the nanny's eye.
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I saw a nanny in Brooklyn Heights on Montague Street in front of Starbucks yesterday. She was very caring and nice to the child she was charged with. "Steven you are such a good boy," she said. Little Steven was very calm and well behaved with her. That was until a woman, clearly the child's mother, came around. He started crying and hiding from the woman. Then she began to scream, "Steven you little horror! Be nice to Mommy or I'll smack you." I looked over and saw a tear forming in the nanny's eye.Reminder, please include as much detail as possible in your submission. Click here to review the preferred information.
Barnes & Noble in Brooklyn Heights, NY
Received Tuesday, April 10, 2007
I witnessed a nanny yesterday who lost her temper with a little boy. She was not watching him that closely and I don't think his behavior was good. But if she had been minding him more carefully, he would not have had the opportunity to pick up a book and hold it over the ledge and drop it from the second floor down to the first floor. He was only about two years old. A fury rose to the nanny's face and she smacked the crap out of his hand. She slammed him in the stroller and looked at him with this evil face. I think that had this nanny been watching this approximate two year old more closely, this never would have happened. Her harsh reaction to such a small child caused myself and the people in our party to be a bit speechless.
Monday
JJ Byrne Park in Brooklyn, New York
Received Monday April 9, 2007
This happened at JJ Byrne Park in Brooklyn on Easter. The occasion was an Easter Egg Hunt and most of the people there were families. A few families brought their nannies. Most of the nannies are the great nannies, but one nanny was completely out of line in her reprimanding of the older child in her care. I had originally assumed she accompanied a parent but she left with both kids by herself so perhaps the family she works for was out of town. The children were a little girl of about two and a boy of about 5. The girl had on reddish hair, a ski style headband over her ears and a pinkish jacket. The boy was wearing a grey sweatshirt hooded blue jacket. (Two materials-one jacket). He had brown hair, brown eyes. Both children were Caucasian. The nanny was about 50 years of age. She had on a long red coat (knee length) and wore ballerina flats with a leopard print and had a hair style that I would imagine an older woman gets done once a week at a salon. Her hair was dark, she had a medium complexion and I am unsure of her ethnicity. This is what troubled me. The little boy was so excited to be hunting for eggs. He wanted to help his little sister find eggs. He had the sweetest smile and you could tell he loved this little girl but nanny didn't want the boy anywhere near him. She kept pushing him off. He wanted to take her hand and lead her away, she literally "karate chopped" his hand away. She was very ornery to this little boy. She picked up the little girl in a huff and carried her away from the little boy. The little boy wasn't even looking at or for eggs. He was just by himself. He slumped to the ground and just watched nanny dote on his sister wistfully. I felt so bad for him. I tried to get my son to go over and play with the child, but the boy buried his face in his jacket sleeve. Unfortunately, I think he perceived the pity I was feeling for him. To the parents of these children- you have two beautiful children, please know how great your little boy is to his sister and how awful your nanny is to him! It was heartbreaking!
This happened at JJ Byrne Park in Brooklyn on Easter. The occasion was an Easter Egg Hunt and most of the people there were families. A few families brought their nannies. Most of the nannies are the great nannies, but one nanny was completely out of line in her reprimanding of the older child in her care. I had originally assumed she accompanied a parent but she left with both kids by herself so perhaps the family she works for was out of town. The children were a little girl of about two and a boy of about 5. The girl had on reddish hair, a ski style headband over her ears and a pinkish jacket. The boy was wearing a grey sweatshirt hooded blue jacket. (Two materials-one jacket). He had brown hair, brown eyes. Both children were Caucasian. The nanny was about 50 years of age. She had on a long red coat (knee length) and wore ballerina flats with a leopard print and had a hair style that I would imagine an older woman gets done once a week at a salon. Her hair was dark, she had a medium complexion and I am unsure of her ethnicity. This is what troubled me. The little boy was so excited to be hunting for eggs. He wanted to help his little sister find eggs. He had the sweetest smile and you could tell he loved this little girl but nanny didn't want the boy anywhere near him. She kept pushing him off. He wanted to take her hand and lead her away, she literally "karate chopped" his hand away. She was very ornery to this little boy. She picked up the little girl in a huff and carried her away from the little boy. The little boy wasn't even looking at or for eggs. He was just by himself. He slumped to the ground and just watched nanny dote on his sister wistfully. I felt so bad for him. I tried to get my son to go over and play with the child, but the boy buried his face in his jacket sleeve. Unfortunately, I think he perceived the pity I was feeling for him. To the parents of these children- you have two beautiful children, please know how great your little boy is to his sister and how awful your nanny is to him! It was heartbreaking!
One Nanny's Happy Ending
Received Monday, April 9, 2007
Hi. I am a nanny and have worked as a nanny for four years. About ten months ago, I was working as a nanny on The UWS (Upper West Side, NYC) for a family that never kept to the agreed to schedule. At the end of the week, they would hand me my check and it never reflected the overtime I worked. Never. I had to figure it out for them, break it down, sort it out, graph it, etc. I hated that! I met a mother on maternity leave at a park and to make a long story short, I ended up going to work for her. It was tough at the beginning because my old boss went totally crazy when I gave her notice. She called the building manager and told him I was a thief and not to be aware of me hanging around the building. She called the older child's preschool and warned the school that I might try and pick up the child but that I had been FIRED for STEALING and the police should be called if I came to the school. After a solid two months of stress and repairing my reputation, I settled in to my new position. Now as a nanny for three children, the oldest of whom is 5. I am writing this because I just returned from Spring Break with the family. I won't say where but I just feel so grateful for the family I have ended up working for. We went to a very nice destination where I had a beautiful room on the beach with the youngest child. At 8 in the morning, the mother had a sitter arrive at my room to watch the baby so I could join the rest of the family for breakfast. A leisurely breakfast. After this I would usually take the oldest child swimming in the pool while the parents readied themselves for our daily plans. This included packing lunches, beach gear, etc. I was always invited to come and did participate in many activities with the family. I would get the baby from the hotel babysitter and take her to play on the beach with me (if the family was elsewhere) or with the family if they were beach side. The baby spent about 60-90 minutes on the beach a day. In the late afternoon, I would also take the baby swimming in the pool. Aside from that there was a babysitter in the hotel room all day long for the baby (and on a few occasions for the second youngest). They made the vacation so much fun- for me. So much so that I was in shock! I found a family that I work with as a partner and it is truly a two way street. They are so great with their children, it was only at my suggestion that they take a night for themselves for a romantic dinner. "This is our family vacation" the mother would say. I stayed in such a beautiful room. They paid for everything for me. Not just meals, but things like sunblock. They bought me hats and t-shirts. I "worked" less on this vacation than I did on a normal day, but I did "work" two Saturdays and one Sunday. We returned home early this afternoon. We were all beat so I helped them unpack the children and get the baby down for a nap. The mother kept shooing me away, "you deserve a break" she said repeatedly. After lunch, I went downstairs to my room. I am a live in nanny. I was so tired that I fell asleep. I woke up and there was an envelope under my door. I nearly passed out when I saw what they paid me for "travel". This is on top of treating me like a member of their family and making the vacation so much fun for me. I am so lucky to have found this family. They are so great with their children and such happy people that I look forward to going to work everyday! For all you nannies who are dealing with inconsiderate people, always keep your eyes open. You never know what opportunity is right around the corner!
Hi. I am a nanny and have worked as a nanny for four years. About ten months ago, I was working as a nanny on The UWS (Upper West Side, NYC) for a family that never kept to the agreed to schedule. At the end of the week, they would hand me my check and it never reflected the overtime I worked. Never. I had to figure it out for them, break it down, sort it out, graph it, etc. I hated that! I met a mother on maternity leave at a park and to make a long story short, I ended up going to work for her. It was tough at the beginning because my old boss went totally crazy when I gave her notice. She called the building manager and told him I was a thief and not to be aware of me hanging around the building. She called the older child's preschool and warned the school that I might try and pick up the child but that I had been FIRED for STEALING and the police should be called if I came to the school. After a solid two months of stress and repairing my reputation, I settled in to my new position. Now as a nanny for three children, the oldest of whom is 5. I am writing this because I just returned from Spring Break with the family. I won't say where but I just feel so grateful for the family I have ended up working for. We went to a very nice destination where I had a beautiful room on the beach with the youngest child. At 8 in the morning, the mother had a sitter arrive at my room to watch the baby so I could join the rest of the family for breakfast. A leisurely breakfast. After this I would usually take the oldest child swimming in the pool while the parents readied themselves for our daily plans. This included packing lunches, beach gear, etc. I was always invited to come and did participate in many activities with the family. I would get the baby from the hotel babysitter and take her to play on the beach with me (if the family was elsewhere) or with the family if they were beach side. The baby spent about 60-90 minutes on the beach a day. In the late afternoon, I would also take the baby swimming in the pool. Aside from that there was a babysitter in the hotel room all day long for the baby (and on a few occasions for the second youngest). They made the vacation so much fun- for me. So much so that I was in shock! I found a family that I work with as a partner and it is truly a two way street. They are so great with their children, it was only at my suggestion that they take a night for themselves for a romantic dinner. "This is our family vacation" the mother would say. I stayed in such a beautiful room. They paid for everything for me. Not just meals, but things like sunblock. They bought me hats and t-shirts. I "worked" less on this vacation than I did on a normal day, but I did "work" two Saturdays and one Sunday. We returned home early this afternoon. We were all beat so I helped them unpack the children and get the baby down for a nap. The mother kept shooing me away, "you deserve a break" she said repeatedly. After lunch, I went downstairs to my room. I am a live in nanny. I was so tired that I fell asleep. I woke up and there was an envelope under my door. I nearly passed out when I saw what they paid me for "travel". This is on top of treating me like a member of their family and making the vacation so much fun for me. I am so lucky to have found this family. They are so great with their children and such happy people that I look forward to going to work everyday! For all you nannies who are dealing with inconsiderate people, always keep your eyes open. You never know what opportunity is right around the corner!
Reminder-Drop in on your daycare providers
Received Monday, April 9, 2007
I am writing to make parents that use 'in home providers' aware that you need to know what type of care your kids are in, just as much as if you were to hire a nanny. there is a home in my neighborhood, that provides such "care" if you can call it that. during the summer, the woman is outside all day long, washing her car, weeding her garden, planting flowers, mowing her lawn. During the school year she has a 5 year old boy that walks himself to the bus stop for kindergarten, I would bet that his parents think he is being taken to the bus stop, but the woman doesn't even WATCH OUT THE WINDOW! He walked right out in front of my car one day crossing the street! I looked around trying to figure out who he was with, and he was all alone! How SAD! Just an eye opener, if you pay an in home provider, consider dropping by from time to time unannounced, you may learn something!
I am writing to make parents that use 'in home providers' aware that you need to know what type of care your kids are in, just as much as if you were to hire a nanny. there is a home in my neighborhood, that provides such "care" if you can call it that. during the summer, the woman is outside all day long, washing her car, weeding her garden, planting flowers, mowing her lawn. During the school year she has a 5 year old boy that walks himself to the bus stop for kindergarten, I would bet that his parents think he is being taken to the bus stop, but the woman doesn't even WATCH OUT THE WINDOW! He walked right out in front of my car one day crossing the street! I looked around trying to figure out who he was with, and he was all alone! How SAD! Just an eye opener, if you pay an in home provider, consider dropping by from time to time unannounced, you may learn something!
Calavera Hills Park in Carlsbad, California
Received Monday, April 9, 2007
I saw a very impatient nanny dealing with a small child at Calevera Hills Community Park on Saturday, April 7 at about 11 Am in the morning. The child was a little girl between 24-36 months with a dark brown,short hairstyle. The girl had dark eyes, long lashes and light skin. She was wearing a yellow windbreaker with two blue stripes on the sleeves. She was on the merry go round with a two other children. One of the children got off and then the male ( 5'9-5'11, short shaved style hair, with Boston B baseball cap and nice build) asked a little girl who I think was his daughter if she wanted to 'go fast'. That little girl affirmed that she indeed did and he started spinning both girls around. The nanny's little girl then asked for it to stop so she could get off. The male stopped the merry go round and she got off but fell and conked her head. The male bent down and asked the girl if she was okay, he apologized. The nanny stormed over and said "You need to get tougher, you are so weak". With this the little girl burst in to tears as the nanny took her away from the play area all together. I heard the nanny say to the child, "stop your crying or I'll give you something to cry about". The nanny was about 30-35, overweight with acne scars. She had medium length black hair and appeared to be Hispanic. I honestly think this nanny treated the little girl so badly because she was crushing the young dad. The nanny acted like she was embarrassed by the little girl's very normal behavior. Honestly, what kind of person is impressed by another person mistreating a child???
No one I know.
I saw a very impatient nanny dealing with a small child at Calevera Hills Community Park on Saturday, April 7 at about 11 Am in the morning. The child was a little girl between 24-36 months with a dark brown,short hairstyle. The girl had dark eyes, long lashes and light skin. She was wearing a yellow windbreaker with two blue stripes on the sleeves. She was on the merry go round with a two other children. One of the children got off and then the male ( 5'9-5'11, short shaved style hair, with Boston B baseball cap and nice build) asked a little girl who I think was his daughter if she wanted to 'go fast'. That little girl affirmed that she indeed did and he started spinning both girls around. The nanny's little girl then asked for it to stop so she could get off. The male stopped the merry go round and she got off but fell and conked her head. The male bent down and asked the girl if she was okay, he apologized. The nanny stormed over and said "You need to get tougher, you are so weak". With this the little girl burst in to tears as the nanny took her away from the play area all together. I heard the nanny say to the child, "stop your crying or I'll give you something to cry about". The nanny was about 30-35, overweight with acne scars. She had medium length black hair and appeared to be Hispanic. I honestly think this nanny treated the little girl so badly because she was crushing the young dad. The nanny acted like she was embarrassed by the little girl's very normal behavior. Honestly, what kind of person is impressed by another person mistreating a child???
No one I know.
Thursday
Manny at Harbor Park in Mamaroneck, NY
I just returned from Mamaroneck's Harbor Park where I witnessed a wonderful "Manny" in action. This Manny very closely resembled Tucker Carlson, puffy hair, slight build, fair skin. He had two boys with him that were about 5 and 7. The boys were white with dark, short hair and strong builds. The Manny had them playing soccer and Frisbee, relishing in the wet grass. The more times they fell, the messier they got and the more fun they had. I don't know if this is a temporary Manny while school is out for Spring Break or what but this is the kind of caregiver I would love to hire. Older boy had on nautical looking windbreaker and younger boy had red jacket tied around his waist and Nike swoosh sweatshirt on. Swoosh across middle of chest, sweatshirt in black. It was nice to hear the laughter and the tone with which this person talked to your kids. He was having as good a time as your boys!
Cove Island Park in Stamford, Connecticut
Received Thursday, April 5, 2007
Everything was wrong with this sight (4/4, 10 AM-ish). The nanny was on her phone. I could not help observe her VERY long red fingernails. Nanny was wearing tight black jeans, very tight fitting shirt, lots of jewelry and straight or straightened black hair. Her hair was shoulder length and she was pushing a little boy on a bike toy with a hand held pole. The little boy needed to be pushed because he certainly could not have driven it. He was not that very steady on the bike and she kept getting annoyed with him. Why? Because she had to stop and use both of her hands (gasp!) to recenter the little boy on the bike. This causes her to struggle with continuing on her animated phone call. And just for the record, I have no problem with a nanny being on the phone, under normal circumstances this might be an opportune time for a cell phone call, but this child was young and SMALL. This nanny gave off a vibe that said to me "I don't even like this kid". The little boy had on muddy white tennis shoes with black stripes, blue jeans and a brown jacket. He had curly/wavy hair and was probably about 2. The child was white and the caregiver was Black. She spoke with a very loud voice on her phone and I think I detected an accent but I could not place it.
It wasn't the best day to be in the park with a child. Kind of on the cold side. Very wet. Even sprinkling now and again, but more rain imminent. That is why I say everything was wrong with this sighting! I was there walking. One last thought, the little boy might have been able to hold on his handles more but he kept rubbing his ears. Isn't that still the textbook sign for an earache? And did the parent know he was out on such a cold, wet and windy day? I certainly hope this is not a case of a mother ordering her nanny to take the child to the park! But even so, I would never hire a nanny with such dramatically long fingernails! There, I've put my two cents in!-VL, Stamford
Everything was wrong with this sight (4/4, 10 AM-ish). The nanny was on her phone. I could not help observe her VERY long red fingernails. Nanny was wearing tight black jeans, very tight fitting shirt, lots of jewelry and straight or straightened black hair. Her hair was shoulder length and she was pushing a little boy on a bike toy with a hand held pole. The little boy needed to be pushed because he certainly could not have driven it. He was not that very steady on the bike and she kept getting annoyed with him. Why? Because she had to stop and use both of her hands (gasp!) to recenter the little boy on the bike. This causes her to struggle with continuing on her animated phone call. And just for the record, I have no problem with a nanny being on the phone, under normal circumstances this might be an opportune time for a cell phone call, but this child was young and SMALL. This nanny gave off a vibe that said to me "I don't even like this kid". The little boy had on muddy white tennis shoes with black stripes, blue jeans and a brown jacket. He had curly/wavy hair and was probably about 2. The child was white and the caregiver was Black. She spoke with a very loud voice on her phone and I think I detected an accent but I could not place it.
It wasn't the best day to be in the park with a child. Kind of on the cold side. Very wet. Even sprinkling now and again, but more rain imminent. That is why I say everything was wrong with this sighting! I was there walking. One last thought, the little boy might have been able to hold on his handles more but he kept rubbing his ears. Isn't that still the textbook sign for an earache? And did the parent know he was out on such a cold, wet and windy day? I certainly hope this is not a case of a mother ordering her nanny to take the child to the park! But even so, I would never hire a nanny with such dramatically long fingernails! There, I've put my two cents in!-VL, Stamford
Wednesday
78th Street and York Avenue in NYC
Received Wednesday, April 4, 2007A great nanny sighting! This morning (Wed) in NYC - waiting on 78th and York for the 78th street crosstown bus - Your nanny was with your little boy (Braden? Grayden? maybe) who is adorable - wearing an orange and blue winter coat and a blue fleece hat with brown shoes. She was wearing green pants, brown shoes and a black? coat - holding a small Nike backpack. She was so engaging with your son - talking and laughing and just keeping him totally occupied and entertained. He was clearly happy to be with her and she with him. What struck me most was that she spoke to him with respect - she asked him questions - if he would rather take the bus or walk, and called it a 'silly bus' cause it was late - he kept laughing and saying "silly bus" - just a lovely site to start the morning. I know some people will say that is 'normal' and doesn't need to be pointed out - but I was really struck by how lovely the two were together
Easter Gift Ideas?
Received Wednesday, April 4, 2007
Couldn't help but note there aren't that many nanny "spottings" this week. Have a quick question. I have a great nanny. She has been with us just about two months, with Easter coming up- would getting her something for Easter be an appopriate gesture of appreciation? If so, any ideas? We do not celebrate Easter, but I know she does. Also, she is a live-in nanny.
Couldn't help but note there aren't that many nanny "spottings" this week. Have a quick question. I have a great nanny. She has been with us just about two months, with Easter coming up- would getting her something for Easter be an appopriate gesture of appreciation? If so, any ideas? We do not celebrate Easter, but I know she does. Also, she is a live-in nanny.
Tuesday
Ignorant Nanny at Ancient Park Playground in NYC
Received Tuesday, April 3, 2007
This really started to bother me after the fact. Your nanny struck up a conversation with me today at the playground (Ancient). Your daughter wearing denim overalls and a long sleeved white shirt with hearts on it was playing with my daughter. Your daughter is biracial. I and my child are African American. The nanny was harmless but ignorant. My daughter had two tight pony tails in her hair and the nanny commented that she wished she could do something like that with your daughter's hair but you would "sh-t" because you don't like anything "ethnic". Your daughter has short kinky hair and the nanny says she tries everything to keep it under control but it is just "the worst hair-impossible". She asked me for tips. That was a very offensive conversation to have, but it bothered me more after the fact! Please consider the message you and your nanny are showing your bi racial African American daughter by referring to her hair as "horrible". She seemed to be about my daughter's age (3). Realize that your daughter can understand what you are talking about! And if not your daughter, than other little girl's around her with the same beautiful hair!
This really started to bother me after the fact. Your nanny struck up a conversation with me today at the playground (Ancient). Your daughter wearing denim overalls and a long sleeved white shirt with hearts on it was playing with my daughter. Your daughter is biracial. I and my child are African American. The nanny was harmless but ignorant. My daughter had two tight pony tails in her hair and the nanny commented that she wished she could do something like that with your daughter's hair but you would "sh-t" because you don't like anything "ethnic". Your daughter has short kinky hair and the nanny says she tries everything to keep it under control but it is just "the worst hair-impossible". She asked me for tips. That was a very offensive conversation to have, but it bothered me more after the fact! Please consider the message you and your nanny are showing your bi racial African American daughter by referring to her hair as "horrible". She seemed to be about my daughter's age (3). Realize that your daughter can understand what you are talking about! And if not your daughter, than other little girl's around her with the same beautiful hair!
Monday
Nanny for SAHM needs advice
Received Monday, April 2, 2007
Perspective & Opinion
I took a job working as a live-in nanny for a stay at home mom a month ago. I don't see her husband excepting the end of the day when our paths cross for about 10 minutes. He seems great. The pay is great. great perks and the little boy is a doll! The only problem is, and it really isn't a problem so much as a situation I am not used to- the mother follows me everywhere. I have friends that work for stay at home mothers so I assumed she would be out to lunch with the girls or playing bridge or playing tennis or doing charity work but she doesn't do any of that. She is home all of the time. If I am playing the farm toy set with the child on the floor, she will come in and just watch us. I don't have anything to hide, but it's hard to keep doing the farmer and pig's voices when someone is just watching you. What makes it worse is the child will always ask Mommy to play and she always says no. This makes it very hard to keep the child interested in what we are playing as the little boy then wants to follow her when she leaves. Mommy is also there when I get him ready for his preschool and he always wants mommy to take him. Her answer is always, "no. that is what X is for". This makes me feel terrible! There have also been times when we are knee deep in finger paint and mommy uses the home PA system to call us to come downstairs saying she needs X (the child) right away. So I clean him up and take him downstairs and she says something ridiculous like, "I need to know if you think you want to take karate next term". The child is not quite 4! Is she doing this on purpose? Is there any point in talking to her? I feel I will just offend her. I passed on 3 jobs with working mothers to take this one and my mistake thinking it would be easier. I also feel that despite the fact that mommy is home all of the time, the little boy is getting very attached to me. In which case, isn't it best to leave before he gets more attached? It couldn't be more difficult, harder, more awkward. etc. etc. etc. Any advice??
Perspective & Opinion
I took a job working as a live-in nanny for a stay at home mom a month ago. I don't see her husband excepting the end of the day when our paths cross for about 10 minutes. He seems great. The pay is great. great perks and the little boy is a doll! The only problem is, and it really isn't a problem so much as a situation I am not used to- the mother follows me everywhere. I have friends that work for stay at home mothers so I assumed she would be out to lunch with the girls or playing bridge or playing tennis or doing charity work but she doesn't do any of that. She is home all of the time. If I am playing the farm toy set with the child on the floor, she will come in and just watch us. I don't have anything to hide, but it's hard to keep doing the farmer and pig's voices when someone is just watching you. What makes it worse is the child will always ask Mommy to play and she always says no. This makes it very hard to keep the child interested in what we are playing as the little boy then wants to follow her when she leaves. Mommy is also there when I get him ready for his preschool and he always wants mommy to take him. Her answer is always, "no. that is what X is for". This makes me feel terrible! There have also been times when we are knee deep in finger paint and mommy uses the home PA system to call us to come downstairs saying she needs X (the child) right away. So I clean him up and take him downstairs and she says something ridiculous like, "I need to know if you think you want to take karate next term". The child is not quite 4! Is she doing this on purpose? Is there any point in talking to her? I feel I will just offend her. I passed on 3 jobs with working mothers to take this one and my mistake thinking it would be easier. I also feel that despite the fact that mommy is home all of the time, the little boy is getting very attached to me. In which case, isn't it best to leave before he gets more attached? It couldn't be more difficult, harder, more awkward. etc. etc. etc. Any advice??
FYE at Edgewater Commons in Edgewater, NJ
Received Monday, April 2, 2007
Nanny: 5'2"-5'4", 140-160 lbs, brown wavy hair, maroon cloth headband, olive skin, light eyes. At one point nanny was shopping in the CW section and had a Tim McGraw CD in her hand, but nanny left without buying anything. Her music taste might help identify her as your nanny. She was wearing converse old style tennis shoes and had a Lt weight, brown athletic jacket on with fila written on it.
Child: 2-3 yrs. old, medium build, carrying small doll with yarn style hair. Child had dark, straight hair, brown eyes, fair skin. She was wearing a mint colored jacket that had other colors in a pattern on the front in a diamond shaped pattern.
What happened: Nanny was trying to look for Cd's and child was being whiny and wanted to be picked up. Nanny used her hand to push child away (the same way I push my dog away so she doesn't jump up). The nanny did this repeatedly. The little girl had red cheeks like she might have been sick. The nanny was very focused on her CD needs and was very rude to the little girl. The little girl followed her up and down the aisle. While some sitters have to call out for the kids they are watching, this nanny seemed annoyed that the child was too close to her. And I have to repeat, she could have been as young as 2. The child really looked like she needed to be picked up. If I had to guess, she was running a fever. But nanny did not care! I didn't say anything to the nanny but I did look at her with an expression on my face that I hope conveyed "what is wrong with you". This may be one reason why nanny left the store without making a purchase.
Where: At FYE in Edgewater Commons in NJ.
When: Between 12:30-1:00 today.
Nanny: 5'2"-5'4", 140-160 lbs, brown wavy hair, maroon cloth headband, olive skin, light eyes. At one point nanny was shopping in the CW section and had a Tim McGraw CD in her hand, but nanny left without buying anything. Her music taste might help identify her as your nanny. She was wearing converse old style tennis shoes and had a Lt weight, brown athletic jacket on with fila written on it.
Child: 2-3 yrs. old, medium build, carrying small doll with yarn style hair. Child had dark, straight hair, brown eyes, fair skin. She was wearing a mint colored jacket that had other colors in a pattern on the front in a diamond shaped pattern.
What happened: Nanny was trying to look for Cd's and child was being whiny and wanted to be picked up. Nanny used her hand to push child away (the same way I push my dog away so she doesn't jump up). The nanny did this repeatedly. The little girl had red cheeks like she might have been sick. The nanny was very focused on her CD needs and was very rude to the little girl. The little girl followed her up and down the aisle. While some sitters have to call out for the kids they are watching, this nanny seemed annoyed that the child was too close to her. And I have to repeat, she could have been as young as 2. The child really looked like she needed to be picked up. If I had to guess, she was running a fever. But nanny did not care! I didn't say anything to the nanny but I did look at her with an expression on my face that I hope conveyed "what is wrong with you". This may be one reason why nanny left the store without making a purchase.
Where: At FYE in Edgewater Commons in NJ.
When: Between 12:30-1:00 today.
Sunday
Greenwich Park in Bethesda, Maryland
Received Sunday, April 1, 2007
Friday afternoon between 4 and 5 pm I saw a couple of caregivers in the park, both of them African American, one between 20-30 and the other 35-45.. The older caregiver was with and infant in a stroller, I don't know the brand o model because I don't know about baby gear but it said "Universal" in it. The boys we both 1-2 years old, both of them dark blond, they might be siblings, maybe twins, but it seemed to me that each caregiver was looking after each child (or at least supposed to). One of the boys was wearing a plaid shirt and the other a fleece sleeveless jacket and I am not sure but I think one of the boy's name was Andrew and they were playing with trucks.
What I saw and bothered me was this two caregivers talking to each other nonstop paying barely attention to the little boys they were supposed to be looking for, they were talking in a different language I couldn't recognize. In one moment both of them went into the basketball courts where older kids were playing. The little boys were playing in one end of the court while the caregivers where standing up chatting far away in the other side of the court.They could had gotten hurt with the heavy balls
After this the kids went back to the playground playing by themselves all the time and the only interaction with this women was when one of them start yelling NO NO NO because one of the little boys was trying to get the toy from other kid, but then she went back to her conversation.From time to time they looked at them but I don't think that was enough.
This boys were really small and they shouldn't be unsupervised like that, this went for more than the hour we stayed in the park.
I am sorry I can't describe better but I was with 3 kids myself so I couldn't pay to much attention to details.
Friday afternoon between 4 and 5 pm I saw a couple of caregivers in the park, both of them African American, one between 20-30 and the other 35-45.. The older caregiver was with and infant in a stroller, I don't know the brand o model because I don't know about baby gear but it said "Universal" in it. The boys we both 1-2 years old, both of them dark blond, they might be siblings, maybe twins, but it seemed to me that each caregiver was looking after each child (or at least supposed to). One of the boys was wearing a plaid shirt and the other a fleece sleeveless jacket and I am not sure but I think one of the boy's name was Andrew and they were playing with trucks.
What I saw and bothered me was this two caregivers talking to each other nonstop paying barely attention to the little boys they were supposed to be looking for, they were talking in a different language I couldn't recognize. In one moment both of them went into the basketball courts where older kids were playing. The little boys were playing in one end of the court while the caregivers where standing up chatting far away in the other side of the court.They could had gotten hurt with the heavy balls
After this the kids went back to the playground playing by themselves all the time and the only interaction with this women was when one of them start yelling NO NO NO because one of the little boys was trying to get the toy from other kid, but then she went back to her conversation.From time to time they looked at them but I don't think that was enough.
This boys were really small and they shouldn't be unsupervised like that, this went for more than the hour we stayed in the park.
I am sorry I can't describe better but I was with 3 kids myself so I couldn't pay to much attention to details.
Beatley Library in Alexandria,Virginia
Received Sunday, April 1, 2007
Not a specific sighting, but rather a few observations over a period of time. I've seen your nanny a number of times at the Beatley Library in Alexandria Virginia. She's got to be a nanny or a full time babysitter - WAY too young to be these kid's mother - she cannot be older than 17. She's great with your kids. She seems to have a great routine with them, settling the two older ones (possibly 7-9?) down for homework and reading to or listening to the younger one (4?) read. She always sets aside 15 minutes to look for "checking out" books, and is positively full of suggestions for them to read. She also interacts with other kids in the children's section, and once it ended up reading not only to your daughter but four or five other little ones who were around. I'm at the library all the time with my two youngest ones, and I can hope that when I look for a nanny I can find somebody as fun as she is.
Not a specific sighting, but rather a few observations over a period of time. I've seen your nanny a number of times at the Beatley Library in Alexandria Virginia. She's got to be a nanny or a full time babysitter - WAY too young to be these kid's mother - she cannot be older than 17. She's great with your kids. She seems to have a great routine with them, settling the two older ones (possibly 7-9?) down for homework and reading to or listening to the younger one (4?) read. She always sets aside 15 minutes to look for "checking out" books, and is positively full of suggestions for them to read. She also interacts with other kids in the children's section, and once it ended up reading not only to your daughter but four or five other little ones who were around. I'm at the library all the time with my two youngest ones, and I can hope that when I look for a nanny I can find somebody as fun as she is.
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