I Saw Your Nanny...in the park..breastfeeding...

The nanny for the nicest family in the building is someone I rarely see out. She has a 6 year old girl. I recently saw her at the park during the day with a child of about 8 months. I noticed that she was breastfeeding her. I didn't think any thing of it, until I realized that the 8 month old is not her child but a child that was adopted by the family she works for from another country. Do you think the mother knows the nanny is breastfeeding this child? If she doesn't know, should she know? Why would she be doing this? I know it isn't my business. 

And that's why no one wants to hire you...

Stanisław Wyspiański

I have an experience to share. I recently interviewed for my first nanny. I went through two agencies, so in essence, candidates were pre screened. I had a strange encounter with one and it unnerved me as a new mom. The nanny had worked as a doula, baby nurse and lactation consultant. She asked me if I intended to breastfeed. I said yes. She asked me for how long. I told her I didn't know I was new to the whole thing. She told me I was going in to the whole thing with the wrong mentality, that breastfeeding through age one was preferential and the only reason to stop early is if the child self weaned dramatically early. This was of course, enough for me to realize she wasn't the nanny I wanted. I sought to wrap up the interview, politely. I let her know we still had other candidates to interview and we were in the very early stages of interviewing. The interview was on Saturday. I received an email from her Tuesday night with no less than 30 breast feeding links and addresses of lactation consultants in my area. She suggested she hoped she wasn't overstepping (really?) but that many new mothers failed to appreciate the benefits of breastfeeding until their second or third child and she didn't want me to suffer that guilt. Then she helpfully added that if I was not medically able to breastfeed that she had connections to breast milk suppliers who sell and donate their breastmilk to unable mothers. I'm in Scarsdale, NY. This all felt REALLY strange to me. I contacted the agency to let the nanny know we had no intention of hiring her and she should not call or email me again. I just wanted to share this. I know I am emotional, but isn't this really invasive and presumptious?? And this candidate had never even been a mother!!

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No Words...(I have)

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     I'm kind of concerned what to do. First, I went snooping in my nanny's room. She had not done anything on the job to cause me curiosity, I just wondered where she went at night. She seemed to talk to a lot of different males and have a lot of time specific plans. Don't slam me, I know I shouldn't have went in her room. For the record, she has been our live-in nanny since January 17.
      Well to make a long story short, I found fetish porn that has to do with breast feeding, two breast pumps, nipple clamps and breast bondage video and porn. It was very hardcore stuff. I am uncomfortable having ANY porn in the house. I am specifically uncomfortable with this sort of fetish porn, perhaps even more so since I am still nursing my 7 month old.
     I don't know what to do but I know I want her out of my house. I know you might find this inexcusable, but doesn't this justify why we should snoop...it is MY house. I don't even know how to fire her. My husband thinks we should say the three year old went in her room looking for her, we went after the three year old and she had pulled open a drawer (revealing a trough of fetish materials).
Somebody please help. We reside in a right to work state, so I believe we can fire her at will.

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