When To Tell

I've been having trouble with my current nanny job for some time now. I watch twin 2 year old boys and their 4 year old brother, it is a lot of work and a lot of running around all day. This is not the problem, the problem is that the parents refuse to give me car seats or lend me a car I can drive. I have been working with them for over a year and the only places I have taken them have been the library once and the zoo once. It is very hard to be in a house with three hyper boys all day. I'm bored and they are bored.

The other issue is that they cut my hours from 50 to 20 when the boys started pre school in September I picked up another part time nanny job but I'm still really not making enough to pay my bills. I think I need one full time job instead of two part time jobs. I am actively looking for a new full time job and have secured two interviews. My question is when should I tell the families I work for in looking for a new job? I would still give them two weeks notice but j would like to write them down as references and give them plenty of time to find a new nanny.

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Firing a mediocre nanny..

I have decided our nanny is just not a good fit. She doesn't do anything abusive that I am aware of, she just rubs me the wrong way. I have tried to make this work for the better part of three months. It is getting to the point now that when I come home, I am pained to make small talk with her. I imagine she might pick up on this? What is my obligation to this girl? She came from the Ithaca area to our home in Westchester and she live-in. Being honest seems practical, but unkind. I don't like her. My children seem to like her just fine. I was thinking of giving her three weeks severance pay.

How long do I have to go on feeling something isn't right?

I switched from using a top notch daycare to a nanny when my child turned three and a half so that the nanny could take my child to attend gymnastics and swimming classes. I don't think I was ready for that step myself. I feel like I have a stranger in my house. The nanny has only been with us since Valentine's Day. My husband insists that I give her a chance. How long do I have to go on feeling something isn't right? I don't feel my child is in danger. I just feel something is off. In the beginning of March, we suddenly had a bed bug infestation. I don't really know if I blame the nanny for the bedbugs and can't get past it. I don't know. My daughter likes the nanny but not the way I thought she would. I wanted her to leap up and run to her. I feel like so much of my daily life is not about keeping the nanny comfortable. When it was too cold to walk, making sure there was money for a cab, money for lunch out, responsibility to get her to and from my house in inclement weather. Did I just make a bad pick? How do I know if a nanny is just not right for me?