I am writing to understand from your nannies if this is a situation that can be improved, or if I need to just find a way out, and if so, how. My husband of four months has recently hired the nanny that worked for he and his first wife. The nanny has a bond (too close if you ask me) with the children which puts me at a disadvantage. I wonder if she's as smart as everyone thinks she is, does that mean, she is intentionally ensuring there is no room for me to grow in to my role as stepmother? The children's mother is a contemptable character which gives me great range to hone my mothering techniques. My husbands has hired the nanny for weekends Friday-Monday Monring to get the children off to school. This is incredibly helpful. The children all have activities. It isn't that I don't want childcare help, I do. This nanny is just to much. She also has a very chippy relationship with my husband, and while it isn't sexual in nature, it does sometime feel more personal than our own.
The Good Heart
(Lost in Scarsdale)