I have two kids a girl 8, and a boy 4. We live across the street from a community college so I have been using college students as after school babysitters. In the past year I have had three babysitters. The first one quit when my son hit her. The second one quit with no notice - she said it was because of a family emergency. But based on the communication I had with her after, I suspect it may have had something to do with my children's behavior. The third one already had a full time summer job - so I knew she was going to quit. However I emailed her about coming back in the fall a couple of times and got no response.
My daughter was recently diagnosed with ADHD and Oppositional Defiant Disorder. I don't think she is that bad, she doesn't have any behavior problems at school. She is a sweet girl and is normally happy, but she does get hyper when she's excited, she talks alot and she has a temper. She doesn't always listen the first time. She does get angry and slam doors. She does hit her brother. I clearly define the rules of our house for my kids and the babysitters - I tell the babysitters how to discipline them. Basically time outs - time to cool down. I also use a rewards system for good behavior. I tell the kids clearly that the babysitter is in charge when I"m not there. The babysitters I have hired had experience with kids with this age group and with siblings. So now I'm looking for a new babysitter for fall. What do I tell her about ADHD and ODD? Would anyone willingly take this job if I disclose the information? Would I need to hire someone who has experience with Special Needs. Is this something a college student can handle? How can I better support the babysitter? I would love to hear some of your opinions.