Received Sunday, February 8, 2009
I've been a nanny for the same family for over a year and a half now. Things have been great- the chemistry with both the children and the parents are better than I could hope for. I'm a live in, however, and after a year and a half of living at my workplace, I'm starting to need some more space and privacy. I'm confined to a really small room and bathroom, while on a separate floor from their bedrooms, doesn't offer a lot of privacy as they're consistently in this area of the house. I'm a student as well and don't have any space to study. The children I watch are good, but have some emotional issues and not a weekend goes by where I don't hear at least 2 total meltdowns including screaming and crying (note these kids are upper elementary age and usually do this for attention.) Essentially, I spend my "off" hours at work as well, even if I don't have the same responsibilities.
A few weeks ago I tried to gently approach the idea of my moving out and to say the least, it didn't sit well with my employer. We talked about it again today, and she said she wanted me to give it another go and she would try and work with me to give me a study space in another room in this house, which just so happens to be the girls' playroom. While I don't understand their need for a live in (I have set hours and am more than flexible when needed) I told her I don't mind giving it another shot, to see if we can work it out for their benefit. As I was thinking tonight, I came up with an idea that would please me enough to make me forget about ever moving out. The children rarely, and I mean maybe once a month or so, utilize this play room. There aren't many toys to speak of- most of it could be moved into their bedrooms or transferred to the room I currently live in. The mother herself admitted that they're never downstairs and said that would be great for me to study. The idea of putting my study space down there kind of worries me because one of the children has a very bad habit of being curious and getting into stuff they shouldn't, therefore the idea of leaving ANY of my school stuff down there really concerns me. Getting to the point- I was thinking I could move my entire room downstairs, and set up somewhat of a studio apartment. It's just one room, but could easily accomodate my study area and my sleeping area. I worry about bringing this up to my employer though because I don't want to push the envelope too far. Is it too much to ask her what she thinks of this idea? Should I just be content with her giving me a study space? And if I should ask her, how should I approach it??
Employers, how would you feel if your nanny asked to switch rooms in your house? I don't want to move out; it's obviously cheaper for me to stay here, and I don't mind living at the house, I just feel so confined. I feel with this new room, I would be much more comfortable and happier in my work situation.