Received Friday, December 19, 2008
I have a question that is kind of strange. We recently inherited a nanny from a good friend of ours. They were moving from Boston and the nanny has family in CA and did not want to leave. My good friend recommended that she interview with us. She came to our house. We live in one of the developments that you might see on a show like Weeds, perfectly lovely, but our friends live on a hill with 2 acres overlooking everything spectacular. They have a full time housekeeper, we have a housekeeper that comes once every two weeks.
The nanny is great with the children. She's a great nanny, but she continually makes references to our lifestyle as if it is beneath her. As I said, our home is perfectly lovely. There are things we don't have that she is accustom to, namely the housekeeper, grocery delivery, a garbage compacter, etc. etc, etc.
The vehicle we provide for our nanny to drive is a 2003 Acura MDX. The nanny had been driving a 2007 Lexus SUV. She keeps complaining that the brakes feel like they are giving out or something is wrong with the steering or that she is afraid something is going to give out. Her other comments lead me to believe she wants a better nanny car. And there are people in our neighborhood who provide better nanny vehicles, but we aren't quite ready to turn it in, yet I cannot help feel like I am being pressured by the nanny.
There are other things she does too. She wants to shop only at stores like whole foods. She eats with the children and she says she doesn't want to eat chicken from a Safeway. Nevermind, I doubt she shops at whole foods for her brood.
If she weren't so consistently reliable and great with our children and I didn't fear how bad a nanny could really be, I would make a change. Has anyone else dealt with a nanny that previously worked for a family with a lot more money? And how did that go for you?