Received Tuesday, August 12, 2008 - Rant
I'm a first time poster, but have become so fed up with my job that I need to vent, and make sure that I'm not the only one.
First, a little background information. I've been a nanny for this particular family since last September. Everything started out great, and all issues aside I love the family. Mom is a bit of a prima-dona though. She's is a WAHM who works for about 1 hour per day and has a 20 month old and 9 month old. I agree that because of the ages she needs help... occasionally. However I work a 50-60 hour work week, which I don't mind, but also don't think is completely necessary. I was hired as a nanny with light housekeeping duties, but over time I have slowly become a personal assistant and a hired best friend.
Today I came to work to find both babies in soiled diapers. I asked mom if she wanted me to change them, and she informed me that they were out of diapers. She then asked me what I thought we should do.... I just stared at her for a minute, seriously, what should we do. Um, how about go get some darn diapers? For the record, the house is literally 3 blocks away from a 24 hour grocery store. So, I asked mom if she wanted me to go to the store to get the diapers. No, she was going to run errands later today so that wouldn't make any sense. YOUR CHILDREN NEED DIAPERS! Then she told me I should just take the children out (naked) and let them play in the hose. This was at 8 in the morning, it was very chilly out and they are close to the lake which made it very windy. I told her I thought it was too cold for the hose, so she stepped outside fully dressed, and declared that it was not, and insisted that I take them out. I did take them out- wrapped in baby robes and did not turn the hose on. Finally right before lunch she told me that now I should run to the store and get the diapers, but could I take the babies with me? Mom wanted to take a nap. Fine. I get home and open the fridge it's almost bare, I have to search for something for the oldest, there is tons of adult food, or food with labels that say "for dinner." Mom knows specifically what the kids eat, as I log it every day at her request, even though she apparently never looks at it, or the grocery list of things we have run out of, which I forward to her blackberry because it's the only thing she actually looks at.
Babies watch way too much tv and mom and I have talked about it several times. She is always the one who says, there will be no tv today, so I enforce that. So when I say no to tv and little boy runs to mom and cries, she says oh it's ok you can turn it on for him. Um, ok? I start getting baby ready for nap, and go to make a bottle, no formula. Are you kidding me. I know it was on mom's list of IMPORTANT things to get. That's right, she didn't pick up baby formula, no, she went to the mall, and bought $3000 in clothes, because she "has nothing to wear". Mom comes down, and I inform her that we have no formula, she says,"can't you just give her milk"- no I tell her. We don't even have milk. Well, can you just run to the store and get some? I can, even though baby is screaming because she is hungry and tired. Mom tells me to take babies with me because they are being very loud, and she has a migraine. Babies are finally napping. Mom wants my advice on how to decorate the guest room and shows me the ridiculously priced chair she'd love to get. I want to say well you should probably pay me for the 3 weeks you owe me, and then buy the chair. I think she realizes this and says I mean later, when I can afford it. Ok mom.
We go downstairs and hang out, I've finished the laundry and dishes throughout the day and have nothing to do. So mom and I talk. We really do get along fairly well and I think she's a great person, but a sucky mom.
Another issue we have is time-outs. We have decided that it's necessary to start them, as little boy has begun throwing temper tantrums. Today little boy hit baby so mom put him on a time out (good job mom!) Little boy got off, mom didn't put him back, so I did, repeatedly. After the third or fourth time, mom told me to just let him be... okkkk (bad job mom!)
I'm leaving this job in September, mom isn't unhappy with me and says she understands, however when my new employer called to get a reference, mom decided not to call her back. I do everything for her and her kids, I am at their beck and call 24/7 and she can't even give me a reference.
Finally, and this is my favorite. Mom treats me like her servant around her uppity friends. No pleases, or thank yous, just, go get me this, go get me that, and surprise surprise when other mommy friends are around mom become mother of the year! I love the kids, but I just can't wait to leave... and never come back!