tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-32916951.post9130137315461469089..comments2024-03-19T03:27:24.068-04:00Comments on I SAW YOUR NANNY: Nannying for a Sucky Mom...Leigh Raymerhttp://www.blogger.com/profile/18210572527823459842noreply@blogger.comBlogger50125tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-32916951.post-74561827673368815322008-08-14T02:21:00.000-04:002008-08-14T02:21:00.000-04:00The pay doesn't surprise me... often the mom is ju...The pay doesn't surprise me... often the mom is just too busy to get cash, and then it builds and builds until she never has enough cash to pay you all at once, but its nothing to get legal over, because they usually pay eventually.<BR/>And call authorities? Record phone calls? Take her to court? I would guess that the people making these suggestions have never been a nanny. You form a bond with the family and you're not going to do any of that, unless its really bad.<BR/>And its also hard to confront her directly, because she might just become offended that you're telling her how to raise her children, and not take any of it at all! Much better to be subtle and hope she learns from your actions.Anonymousnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-32916951.post-3980108670536669582008-08-14T00:57:00.000-04:002008-08-14T00:57:00.000-04:00Be strong OP. You are doing your best!Be strong OP. You are doing your best!Anonymousnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-32916951.post-81844007426316818112008-08-14T00:54:00.000-04:002008-08-14T00:54:00.000-04:00op hereto frmrnanny, I am working with mom to find...op here<BR/><BR/>to frmrnanny, I am working with mom to find my replacement, not that I wish this job on any other nanny, but I love the babies and want to make sure someone responsible is there for them.<BR/><BR/>to notimpressed: you're absolutely right, I have nothing better to do with my time off then make up fake rants.<BR/><BR/>to fo rilly real: believe what you want.Remaining Anonymoushttps://www.blogger.com/profile/15683318739069701862noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-32916951.post-25349920711812703062008-08-14T00:27:00.000-04:002008-08-14T00:27:00.000-04:00did she really ask you to feed the nine month old ...did she really ask you to feed the nine month old milk? i don't believe that because everyone knows not to give milk to babies under one year old.Anonymousnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-32916951.post-37265972226100252712008-08-13T23:47:00.000-04:002008-08-13T23:47:00.000-04:00notimpressedwitmomsornannies,THIS IS NOTHING compa...notimpressedwitmomsornannies,<BR/>THIS IS NOTHING compared to some of the stories I have seen and been a part of FIRST HAND. If you doubt this, then you don't know the half of how awful these enitled bitches are who have children as accessories, and never ever spend one night up with a crying baby (baby nurse) never potty train, teach a child to walk, switch to a botal or feed the child her first solids (nanny).<BR/><BR/>You have NO idea!Anonymousnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-32916951.post-23396910017545484362008-08-13T23:44:00.000-04:002008-08-13T23:44:00.000-04:00Good catch, Umass!! LOLGood catch, Umass!! LOLMaryPoppin'Pillshttps://www.blogger.com/profile/01493804863551764605noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-32916951.post-35285319012985268262008-08-13T23:38:00.000-04:002008-08-13T23:38:00.000-04:00Umass...I got ya! heheheheUmass...I got ya! heheheheAnonymousnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-32916951.post-10854585845792800802008-08-13T23:14:00.000-04:002008-08-13T23:14:00.000-04:00She sounds like one of those awful moms you hear a...She sounds like one of those awful moms you hear about that live on Park Ave in NYC. <BR/>Actually when I was reading this, my mind kept saying "Britney Spears, Britney Spears" even though I know that it couldn't have been her, but it sounds like her. <BR/>I feel bad for you OP, good job on quitting!Kelseyhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/14757942067951645910noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-32916951.post-17768136563679322472008-08-13T22:22:00.000-04:002008-08-13T22:22:00.000-04:00Huh?? Umass?Huh?? Umass?Anonymousnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-32916951.post-70540123364888210012008-08-13T21:47:00.000-04:002008-08-13T21:47:00.000-04:00notimpressedwithmomsornannies:Yes. You're right: y...notimpressedwithmomsornannies:<BR/><BR/>Yes. You're right: you do "sounds like that." <BR/><BR/>:)hehe.<BR/><BR/>hehe<BR/><BR/>hehehehehehe.UmassSlytherinhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/15647516080217006351noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-32916951.post-52631470622351107762008-08-13T21:07:00.000-04:002008-08-13T21:07:00.000-04:00I just cannot believe that any of this is real. I...I just cannot believe that any of this is real. I sounds like someone who was bored and had nothing to post. If it is real, you should have quit long ago, or called CPS, either is acceptable.Anonymousnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-32916951.post-18724631358832673262008-08-13T17:24:00.000-04:002008-08-13T17:24:00.000-04:00sydney white,your post reminds me of something. my...sydney white,<BR/>your post reminds me of something. my mom used to always like to imply that I was not a very good mom...so every time she would come over, she would immediately go to my refrigerator,assess the milk situation, and virtually always deemed it insufficient, no matter how much I had. (If I had lots, she thought I needed new, fresher milk, despite the not yet reached expiration date.)If I had half a carton left, she would say, in a whiny, desperate voice, as thought they hadn't eaten a bite for three days..."Pleeeeease, let me go to the store and buy you some milk for these children!" <BR/><BR/>I'd say, "No. We're fine." <BR/><BR/>She'd say, "What will they have for breakfast tomorrow? <BR/><BR/>I'd say, "The milk in the refirgerator."<BR/><BR/>She'd say, "Well then, what will they drink before bedtime?" <BR/><BR/>I'd say, "There's plenty for both times." <BR/><BR/>She'd whimper painfully and say,<BR/>"I'll pay for it." (This was a clear dig because I have plenty of money and she does not...and I was never cheap about food for my kids.)<BR/><BR/>I'd say, "No. We can handle our own kids."<BR/><BR/>She'd scowl disapprovingly at me...almost with the degree of scorn one would expect to find from a preson who suddenly found themselves face to face with Alolph Hitler...I'm not kidding.<BR/><BR/>Once, God forbid, I really was out of milk (It having happened just that day, and I planned to shop the next day anyway.) She completely freaked out. (Imagine the validation to find my milk supply actually gone! Christmas for Mom in July!)<BR/><BR/>She comepetely freaked out and demanded in a loud wail, "What will these chiiiillllldddrrreeeennnn eat for breakfast tomorrow!!!?"<BR/><BR/>I said, "Eggs, toast and juice, probably."<BR/><BR/>She begged umpteen times to let her go buy milk...offering to pay for it herself...as usual.<BR/><BR/>I declined.<BR/><BR/>So she left, and about an hour later my phone rang and it was my mom. She said, "There is a gallon of milk on your front doorstep. I couldn't sleep thinking of those childreeeeennnnnn without milk."Anonymousnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-32916951.post-85730262727669966582008-08-13T17:07:00.000-04:002008-08-13T17:07:00.000-04:00This is very sad.I do have to agree that it sounds...This is very sad.<BR/>I do have to agree that it sounds like a situation on the borderline of abuse. From what I gathered, the two children were in dirty diapers for hours, (think about the condition their bottoms were in after that, most kids will get a rash after ten minutes or so of sitting in a dirty diaper) wanted them to be hosed down in the driveway in the cold and left naked rather than buy diapers, not only did she not have formula in the house for the baby, but was not even aware that milk can not be used as a substitute at that age. That may not be abuse, but Id rather say, thats not abuse, yet.<BR/>OP, i dont blame you for getting out, but if you have a way to do so, find out who is taking your place!!! You said she's a stay at home mom, there are some who will just do what she says and could endanger the children.Anonymousnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-32916951.post-42026463290174098712008-08-13T12:53:00.000-04:002008-08-13T12:53:00.000-04:00TC ..whoa,slow down there tiger. I agree with you ...TC ..whoa,slow down there tiger. I agree with you that this mom is doing an injustice to her children and making her nanny's life a living hell. I do not however think that being a lazy sloth and buying diapers at the last minute is worthy of a phone call to CPS.(They would laugh us right off the phone)<BR/>She is simply self absorbed and narcissistic. A phone call to a grandma or grandpa or perhaps a siter or brother or even a close friend would be much more appropriate at this time.<BR/>(they may even laugh at us) She is not being abusive to her children.<BR/>Running around without a diaper while the nanny runs to get them at the store is lazy, at best. And milk for an infant? Many babies are fed breastmilk,whole milk or goatsmilk from day one. Not everybody follows the same feeding guidelines. An occasional bottle of whole milk for an infant is not harmful...not reccomended but by no means abuse.(At 9 months a baby could be fed a scrambled egg or toast,yogurt or oatmeal until formula arrives)<BR/>Let me assure you TC, I do not condone her behavior but calling it abuse is overreacting.<BR/>She is lazy and does not have her priorities straight.<BR/>The nicest thing this OP/Nanny could do is talk to "the prima-Donna's" mom or such as suggested above. If that does not work, she could always resort to getting the MIL involved..we all know that would take care of things right then and there.Anonymousnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-32916951.post-8812835888172179712008-08-13T00:59:00.001-04:002008-08-13T00:59:00.001-04:00oops. I meant to direct that to lovesthegirls!oops. I meant to direct that to lovesthegirls!Anonymousnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-32916951.post-77950590562568134692008-08-13T00:59:00.000-04:002008-08-13T00:59:00.000-04:00I would consider what she's doing as abuse. Diape...I would consider what she's doing as abuse. Diapers are a necessity and leaving a child is a soiled diaper and not wanting to buy more diapers is a form of neglect along with not having enough formula for the children.<BR/><BR/>Neglect IS abuse.<BR/><BR/>What is going to happen to the children when you leave? Is she hiring another nanny or taking care of them herself? <BR/><BR/>Either way I think you might want to get CPS involved.Anonymousnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-32916951.post-53763385675252619042008-08-13T00:57:00.000-04:002008-08-13T00:57:00.000-04:00Ha devil's advocate! And here I thought you were t...Ha devil's advocate! And here I thought you were telling us that you had hired a ghost writer to express your dissenting opnion. Thanks for the clarification...hehehehe.Anonymousnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-32916951.post-64760471693280900422008-08-13T00:53:00.000-04:002008-08-13T00:53:00.000-04:00This comment has been removed by a blog administrator.Anonymousnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-32916951.post-25343561533845518782008-08-13T00:52:00.000-04:002008-08-13T00:52:00.000-04:00She sounds unbalanced and unfit. And did you have ...She sounds unbalanced and unfit. And did you have to take the kids to the store with you to buy diapers with bare bottoms? Because surely they didn't sit in soiled diapers until after noon? <BR/>And how did nobody manage to notice the formula was low, or gone, before the afternoon shopping trip? And no food for the toddler? And she wants another baby? This is beyond neglectful of her. Where is dad? He must be even less involved than mom. Ugh!<BR/><BR/>And she is demeaning to you in front of her friends? How incredibly pretentious and abnoxious. I don't know how you could call her a nice person, easy to get along with, or a friend.Anonymousnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-32916951.post-44968391959850789362008-08-12T23:46:00.000-04:002008-08-12T23:46:00.000-04:00NVMom, here. OP, what I was saying is, your post s...NVMom, here. OP, what I was saying is, your post seemed to weigh both her treatment of the children and her treatment of you. Had she treated you better, would you have stayed. Maybe I just misread it. <BR/>As for put the kids first, I'm saying that I'd be more upfront to her about her neglect, rather than try to work around it. However, overall you were certainly right to get out and I hope your next position is better!Anonymousnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-32916951.post-74892297155064896822008-08-12T22:36:00.000-04:002008-08-12T22:36:00.000-04:00that was PLAY a little devil's advocate and sounds...that was PLAY a little devil's advocate and sounds OFF to me.... sorry for the typos gang :)Anonymousnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-32916951.post-45320549172094216762008-08-12T22:30:00.000-04:002008-08-12T22:30:00.000-04:00Okay, I am going to pay a little devil's advocate ...Okay, I am going to pay a little devil's advocate here; but she sounds almost ill to me-- menatlly, I mean. I mean really??? Offering an infant milk? And the other shenannigans? I agree get out now, but on your way out talk to the dad, becasue she honest-to-God sounds a little of to me, and not just in the spoiled rotten stuck up rich people kind of way....Anonymousnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-32916951.post-34905993353305437492008-08-12T21:44:00.000-04:002008-08-12T21:44:00.000-04:00Does WSM mean she's widowed? If that's the case, s...Does WSM mean she's widowed? If that's the case, she may be just trying to hold it together and doing the best she can. If I (god forbid) lost my husband, who knows what the grief would do to me. Maybe she thinks she's acting "normal". Just something to think about.Anonymousnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-32916951.post-91710950527115288992008-08-12T21:02:00.000-04:002008-08-12T21:02:00.000-04:00I don't think you are allowed to record phone call...I don't think you are allowed to record phone calls.UmassSlytherinhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/15647516080217006351noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-32916951.post-40148666241542511532008-08-12T20:59:00.000-04:002008-08-12T20:59:00.000-04:00Don't forget to have a friend call for a reference...Don't forget to have a friend call for a reference for you, now and periodically. It is better if it is a friend who wants to hire you.<BR/><BR/>The statute of limitations doesnt run out if the boss keeps badmouthing and slandering the employee. Record these calls. Use them in court. It will be a cut and dry case. I have one friend who is working on an employer who slandered her for a period of years in hopes that no one would want her former nanny to work for them. When that case gets to trial, you will read about in the news...<BR/><BR/>Believe, you me!<BR/>And I have a feeling it will be covered on this blog! Make that more than a feeling.Anonymousnoreply@blogger.com