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Troublemaking Nanny at the Public Library in Watertown, MA

Received Monday, December 31, 2007
At approx 11:45 on Dec. 10,2007, I observed the following troubling exchange between three nannies who were watching their charges in the Watertown Public Library Children's Room. There were three nannies with young boys. The three were gossiping about Hollywood celebs while the boys ran around and played. One nanny was holding court with the others, dominating the conversation and giving advice. She was a black woman with an accent, possibly Haitian. On one side of her was a dark haired nanny with a straight ponytail, who seemed from her conversation to be Middle Eastern. Her charge was a little dark curly haired boy of about 2,1/2, who seemed very bright, but was getting no attention. He seemed to be wandering about unhappily, interested in the books, but getting no attention or help with them. The other nanny was a quiet, tall blonde woman with a ponytail. They listened intently as the Haitian woman told the dark haired nanny that her boy was not behaving and was being manipulative and should be dealt with. I watched as these nannies talked among themselves and did not pay attention to their charges. Puzzle pieces were strewn about, and no one helped any of the little boys with a puzzle. They were on their own. Later I noticed as the "Haitian" woman took hold of the charge of the dark haired nanny, the curly haired big, bright but sad little boy. She held his head and pulled his hair back against his will and said " Let's see what you'd look like as a girl." This was not her child and she would never have done this in front of any parent. The little boy was angry and fell on the floor with a tantrum. I later heard the Haitian woman ask the dark haired nanny what the street number of the house she worked at was.
This was subtle but to me, real assault on the other nanny's charge. I fear this woman might insert herself into the other nanny's space, and even visit during the day at this child's house. I would hope that this posting might alert the parents or others to identify this troublesome nanny and those nannies under her control, and make sure she is watched. I felt so sorry for the little boy she targeted.

17 comments:

Anonymous said...

This story is old and has many holes

siouxie said...

my bucket is old but holds much water.

tree said...

Very confusing to read.

Anonymous said...

Obviously this is a person who has no business being a nanny. What kind of weirdo says things like "how would you look as a girl?" to a 2 year old boy? I feel badly for the young boy. She sounds like a pushy jerk who plans to visit the other nanny. I plan to forward to my friends in MA and hope others do too......

MissDee said...

Good grief! WHERE did she come from? WHAT agency placed her? WHY did the parents hire HER? She's lucky I wasn't there-I would've said something to her. And she is a NANNY? Hmmmmmm....Yet ANOTHER case of "I'm going to make easy money taking care of a child. I'll fool my way into an interview with my Crest Whitestrips smile and get a job so that I can use my mean personality to intimidate little kids and get paid for it."

When I open my agency, I will put the link to this site for every parent and nanny! And I will do "nanny visits". And don't think that I won't say something to the parents if I see something I don't like. And the best part of my agency? I will encourage my nannies to wear the agency tee shirts, so that everyone knows what agency they were placed with.

A New Year. ANOTHER mean nanny....

Anonymous said...

MISSDEE,
I too wonder where parents find these horrible "nannies", and what kind of interview and references got them hired.

BTW, I doubt parents who hire through a top agency want their nanny running around in a tee shirt advertising the agency!

Anonymous said...

I feel sorry for the nannies that work for Miss Dee's agency, I give her agency 6 months before it closes down. She sounds like a control freak.

Anonymous said...

I would never where a agency T-Shirt and if I was a parent I wouldn't like you making unannounced visits to my house all the time.

Anonymous said...

and i think it's real smart to advertise where some pedophile can come and stake out my kid just by reading your dumb t-shirts

MissDee said...

OK, yesterday I read something here and was upset about what I read, and posted a few things that upset a few people. Let me make myself clear on what I was trying to say:

1. The "nanny visits" will be done ONLY if the parents REQUEST them to be done. I will not just show up at the parents' home and upset them, or do it on a consistent basis. If the parents REQUEST a visit, I will do so. This will be done ONLY with the PRIOR CONSENT of the parents. Hmmmm....other people on here have suggested that parents' have a "nanny visit" after spotting a bad nanny, so because I plan on doing that, everyone wants to jump on me?

2. The tee shirts will be OPTIONAL for the nanny to wear. This doesn't mean that she HAS TO wear them, I thought it would be a cute idea to wear these shirts when out and about. I didn't think of the pedos or anything like that. I thought it might be a good way to advertise. When I worked in daycare we wore t shirts as part of our uniform. The children wore tee shirts on field trips so we could know where they are. That right there is keeping children safe AND ADVERTISING. So you mean to tell me a pedo couldn't have come and stake out our field trips and center when we had our center's name on OUR shirts? You mean that a pedo would watch my nannies with my agency's name on them and a website/number, but he WOULDN'T watch a daycare center where teachers children and parents aren't walking in and out with the center's information on them? I'm aware of what can happen, and yeah, I didn't think of the pdeo part and I'm sorry.

FYI: I'm not a control freak. I have low tolerance for people that want to pretend in the childcare profession, much like my overdressed, drama queen, bitch of an ex boss who had no standards for what went on in her joke of daycare center. She pretended to have a college degree, yet knew nothing about child development. I also don't like bad nannies, and I want what's best for children. I don't think there's anything wrong with that. Argument and discussion dropped, I said what I had to say. I apologize if I pissed anyone off.

Sandie said...

Miss Dee-- I'd come work for you! You don't sound like a control freak, you sound like someone who actually cares.

MissDee said...

Sandie-thank you for the comment! I'm surprised that so many anons got mad. I wonder why? *LOL*

pasadenamom said...

Hi misdee,
I hope your day care center works out. It seems to me that you have all the right elements and parents', children's and nannies' best interests at heart. Good luck to you. May you be blessed and your endeavor successful in the New year!

mom said...

Miss dee,
I don't understand the kidnapping thing as relating to the t-shirts anyway. The kids are not watched at a central location in a nanny service. Even if they were, anybody with a mind to kidnap a child from a daycare center is perfectly capable of looking one up in the phone book...or choosing one they see along the side of the road. I seruously doubt breaking into a daycare center is the most effective and anonymous way to molest or kidnap a child. There are plenty, it sounds like, being left alone for the taking at parks everywhere every single day.

As a parent, I might enjoy having a nanny appear in a nice uniform (my friend's nanny does.) As a nanny, I might not like having to wear one everyday though. But on the other hand, I might enjoy not ruining my good clothes as I played with children all day. I think t-shirts might be good advertising. And, I just thought of this...It would be an extra assurance for your parent clients. when Your nannies are in public, if they misbehave in any way, there is an easy way to report them to you. (Kind of like a "If you don't like my driving, call this number" that we see on trucks and vansd all over the place.

mom said...

Miss dee,
Perhaps you could have the uniforms available and give your individual cleints the choice of whether their nanny wears one. I personally would like my nanny to be identifiable in public, but clearly others feel it is a security risk.
If you have a reputable, well run agency, you can demand a higher salary for your nannies and this would likely make them more willing to accomodate uniform requests. And if you are top notch, probably a lot of parents will want to "advertise" to their friends and neighbors that they can afford you. (Smarmy, yes, but true.) When your top notch nannies are spotted taking exemplary care of their charges, it will be wonderful advertising for you. It will also be extra incentive for you to make sure any nannies you employ check out thorougally and do a great job every day. I see a lot of cheks and balances involved in having your name on somebody's shirt.

Anonymous said...

ok miss dee settle down no need to get your panties in a bunch.

MissDee said...

Thanks to everyone who is supporting me on my agency and daycare. It means alot to me to get your support! The agency will be open first. Then by December 1st, 2008, I plan on having a family daycare setting, in which I will hire two people to run the daycare while I am at my job as a nanny.

11:37-Argument and discussion dropped. Go to the nawty step!