Received Wednesday, June 13, 2007
This occured at about 1:00 PM, today (6/13).
African-American or Jamaican nanny with little girl, about 4, who had two pigtails. I didn't even know the woman was with the child at first--that's how quiet and good the little girl was. At first, it didn't bother me. But after the first half-hour, I thought, Well, this child is certainly being ignored--and she is incredibly patient! The Nanny was only interacting enough to say, from time to time, "Get over here!" Anyway, after about 40 minutes, two things happened. First, they got in line after me to pay. I accidentally bumped into the child with a wooden hanger, immediately apologizing. But Nanny said, "Oh, I'm sure it was her fault!" !!!!!!!! (I assured her it was an ACCIDENT on everyone's part.) THEN, just as I was thinking, "I hope this sitter is going to get the kid an ice cream or something," the little girl said, "HAZEL, am I still going to be on timeout when we get home?" And Hazel says, "YES." And the girl says, "WHY?" And Hazel says, drum roll please: "BECAUSE YOU DO NOT LISTEN TO ME! "
Now, admittedly, maybe this lovely, patient, good-seeming child, had an ogre-ish moment before entering the store. But I find it heartbreaking that she was being rewarded for this adult's shopping outing with a timeout!!!! To my knowledge, the nanny said NOTHING to praise the little girl for her patience or grace. What is the child learning by this???? I hate to think.