Wednesday

West 81st Street outside the gates of the Diana Ross Playground (NYC)

Received Wednesday, February 28, 2007
Today I oveheard a very distressing exchange between a sandy haired, caucasian boy in a yellow and blue ski style jacket, denim jeans and dark hiking style boots. He was crying, clearly upset, "i want my mommy, i want my mommy". Within ear shot I heard the nanny say, "no it's a sunny day outside, mommy wanted you to get some air". The child, very upset continued to cry. (The nanny answered the child more to the other people in the area than she did the child). As the boy continued to cry, I passed by and just when I am certain she thought I was out of earshot, the nanny responded to the last "i want my mommy" with "well honey, what can i tell you, mommy doesn't want you. she doesn't want you around her". I am sure it is hard to deal with someone else's crying child. But what an awful, awful thing to say. What kind of person has an acid tongue like that? The child was 2-maybe 3 years old. He was also holding but not wearing a navy blue ski cap with an orange logo on it. This occured in central park, on West 81st Street outside the gates of the Diana Ross Playground.
Very, very sad. -Liz, NYC

78 comments:

Nanny B said...

I hate to say it but maybe it was the truth. Maybe mom couldn't deal with the child being in the house and so she sent the nanny out, happens all the time.

but, I think it is absolutly horrible how the nanny said it. You always sugar coat it with children and turn it into something positive. that is not a child friendly nanny!

Anonymous said...

what a despicable thing to say to a child.

Anonymous said...

It's true! She don't want the child! It happens everyday! My boss don't see there kids at all! The mother sees them for but 1 hour before they go to bed and even then she sneeks into her room. So, I am glad that the nanny let the child know the truth... some parents love to make things seem like it's a fairytale everyday. So whoever's in denial needs to QUIT it and get back to reality!

Anonymous said...

Who are YOU to judge the person THAT pays your SALARY? Setting aside all of the fabulously inolved working mothers, if not for these lazy, sel involved parents- YOU WOULD HAVE NO JOB.

DO NOT
I repeat DO NOT
Bite the hand that feeds your dumb ass.

Anonymous said...

I'm sure the comment was a true one, because any parent who is at home and has a nanny take her child to the park is an A-Hole. However, the nanny shouldn't have said it out loud to the little guy. The only purpose it served was to hurt him, and that isn't okay. The child will grow up and realize that his Mom didn't want to deal with him, and so she put him off on nannies. When the time comes, he can throw his mean 'ol bag of a mother in a home as retaliation.

Anonymous said...

I dont understand how this becomes the mother's fault YET again. Mom may have had an office in her home. She may have had doctor's appointments. She may have new babies in the home. The nanny is obviously pissed that the mother TOLD her to take the child to the park. Of course I wouldn't hire the kind of nanny that had to be TOLD to take a child to the park!
To me, that is a lazy nanny!

Anonymous said...

It is absolutely unfathomable that any of you can defend what this horrible Nanny said. Telling a child s/he is unwanted by the parents is tantamount to child abuse. What kind of emotional scars is she setting this child up for? Regardless of whether Mommy wants to be around her child or not, it is not her place to say such evil things to him. If Mommy truly is a self-absorbed ninny who wants nothing to do with her son, he will find out on his own eventually, he certainly doesn't need someone putting that rot in his ear.

Katie said...

It IS the Mother's fault to have hired someone who would even THINK about saying that to an innocenct child....even if it is the truth....the child should NEVER hear such a thing!

Anonymous said...

I've been home and asked my nanny to take my children outside. There is such a thing as mothers being sick, mothers packing for a business trip, mothers needing to have a serious talk with another adult without a child listening to the conversation, mothers expecting on a conference call for work with no background chatter.

Boy am I glad I have the nanny I have, and not one of the ones that responded here!

I would have totally followed that nanny home and reported her. With pleasure.

Anonymous said...

Horrid nanny. If what she said is true, then all the more reason this little boy needs and deserves an especially loving and nurturing nanny.

2:14 PM If you have a nanny of course she judges you. Your actions have a huge impact on her quality of life. If your parenting skills are poor, it makes her job miserable. If you are a wonderful parent (like my employer) she will be very happy in her job.
A nanny

Anonymous said...

As a mother & lifetime employer of nannies, I had to swear off the hiring of a certain ethnicity based on the fact that they gathered like witches over a cauldron to discuss at every opportunity what awful mothers we were & how they were raising the children-literally. Beware of smiling faces. These kind of people who complain because mom finally has a day off and she still has the nanny work and the nanny gets pissed because she feels entitled to be off if the mother is off, even though before starting her job, she was clearly told what days she would have off.
And PS to hear what your nanny is saying about you, a nanny camera won't help. You need to use a voice recorder of some sort, only then will the true nature of your nanny be revealed.

Anonymous said...

To all the mothers, i guess the truth really hurts,but guess what u guys all are a bunch off nanny abusers, and please remember this not because they are a nanny now doesn't mean that that person don't have an education. some of us are even smater than u guys are in a lot of ways.

Anonymous said...

10:15 -
I've never heard someone sound so proud to be a "lifetime employer of nannies"

Your poor kids.

The bottom line is that kids don't need nannies - they need their parents!!!!

Anonymous said...

If you are a good parent, and a good employer, you don't need to worry about what your nanny says about you. There seem to be some very nervous and defensive moms on here! Guilty consciences?
A nanny

Anonymous said...

1037,
DOUBTFUL!!!!!

case in point nannies going on a board/site and trying to "best" nannies by insulting the people who pay them!

Anonymous said...

10:15:

I know EXACTLY which ethnicity you're talking about. The same gals who harass my lovely nanny in the park on a bi-weekly basis, with questions about how much she gets paid, how many sick days she gets, etc. They are relentless and are the worst nannies around, always picking fights in loud voices while their charge cowers in their stroller (which they haven't left for hours)....

You know who I mean. HINT: They come from a warm weather climate. Rice and peas, anyone?

Anonymous said...

ps:

I am fully aware that 40 bad apples in a park don't speak for an entire ethnicity. I just can't believe that there is such a high proportion in this ethnicity I speak of. It's the talk of the community here. I try my best to track down the parents and let them know what's going on while they're at work after a bad sighting.

Anonymous said...

I don't think that this nanny used the right language, however it can be absolutely heartbreaking as a nanny to see the charges that you love be ignored by their parents. I don't mean just during the day when the parent's have legitmate things to do, that is part of the job. But, I worked for a family for over 3 years and the mother did not work. She was at home all day and most evenings and simply did not have the time or patience to play with her children. She and the father would even ask me to put the children to bed at least 4 times a week (and when I was not there on weekends, they had someone else) so that they could have an uninterrupted dinner. Most of the time they would not even come up to give the kids a good night kiss, even though they were just downstairs eating. It broke my heart to see this and the kids' reaction to it. It hurt to always be seen as the bad guy, as the kids thought it was me who was keeping them away from their parents, when really the parents did not want to be bothered with them. I never said what the nanny did out loud, but I thought it in my head a number of times. It can be very frustrating, and I know where she is coming from.

NY SAHM said...

Well if you were in such a situation, how wonderful those children had you. I find it odd that people pass judgement on nannies or people that employ nannies when in many homes the nanny is the only contact the child has to "warmth & nurturing".

Lauren said...

I know many exceptional people with nannies. Many of whom are stay at home mothers with multiple children. These mothers may occasionally enjoy a game of tennis (the horror) but more often are serving on committees, volunteering and raising funds for causes that benefit every kind of cause and person imaginable. They rely on nannies to help transport the children but they are still involved with every aspect of the child's day. They sit and have breakfast with their children, send them off to school with well wishes (mindful of self esteem issues). They pick their children up at school and listen with interest to the stories the children tell about their day.

I try not to judge people as a rule, but there are those parents that are never seen with their children anywhere. And yes, we all know who "they" are. They are also the minority.

Most women, especially SMART women would take no pleasure in neglecting their children. We want to be the person responsible for the child. When my daughters, at age 70 reflect on their childhood, I hope that it is a happy remembrance and I am confident that I will come to mind!
I am fortunate that I have means to delegate many time consuming tasks to my employees, but RASING my children is not one of them. And I say this as a mother of three girls, a mother who is reliant on the skill and expertise of a professional nanny to assist me (and us) with driving and homework.

On another note, I have seen a lot of comments on this blog that say in effect, "how do you know that is the nanny, I often get confused for my charge's parent". I agree. I too have been confused by more than one nanny with a strong bond or connection to her child. That is a good thing. But I think that when people mistreat their charge, it is pretty apparent they are the nanny.

Most parents do their damage behind closed doors- and nannies- fearing nanny cameras-have no escape but the great wide open.

Anonymous said...

To the above poster, I have news for you: your nanny is raising your children. raising. them. driving kids to soccer and helping them with homework is part of raising them. SMART women know this.
I feel sorry for your poor kids.
Wake up and smell the starbucks, lady.

Anonymous said...

You are an idiot. I have 4 children at 3 different schools. I have a full time nanny. I couldn't get everyone where they need to go without her.

Stop hating!
And "I feel sorry for your kids",
so lowbrow after the tide UB.

zzzzzzzzzzzz

Anonymous said...

4:46:

Nannies HELP to raise kids. They don't raise them alone. My kids are 5 and 3 and they get that, why don't you?

jmt said...

The only thing we know to be true is that the nanny involved the little boy inappropriately in her issues with the mom. That's despicable.

And I love to read the really hateful comments and the ideas they so obviously project from themselves and extrapolate them back to the poster, then imagine what their problem is. It's fun!

Anonymous said...

"lowbrow?" well we know which poster you are.
And with all due respect, my mother had four of us and we never even had a babysitter.
In these crazy days of moms who feel they need to overschedule their children so that they can fit into the "highbrow?" cliques, moms make it impossible for themselves to do it all because they are frigging ridiculous.

Anonymous said...

There is no excuse whatsoever for a care giver to something so horrid.I think most nannies out there dont realise how fortunate they are. most of them are from the carribbean , illegal and uneducated . It just a paycheck to them , its not the mothers fault , nannies like these lie , act like the best nanny ever around the parents , Sad thing is that these are the nannies that get jobs over the honest ones.I have known many people who have lied about references , get their friends to pose as references , a phone call is not enough to verify anyone . Most those people are very
dishonest and liers ,and very ungrateful. Its not the mothers fault shae may see a total different person in her home

Anonymous said...

1138-
4 kids in 3 schools does not sound like overscheduling, perhaps necessity? also you in all of your ignorance forget that many people have special needs children-occ therapy, speech therapy, pt, special schools, etc. I am sure it can all easily be done if you have just the one child.

Stop Judging.

Ass!

Anonymous said...

11:38:

Growing up, my brother and I never had a babysitter either. Not even once for 1 hour. My mom was with us 24/7/365 for 17 years.

Now I am an adult and I have a nanny during working hours. So what?

Should I leave my kids alone in the house?

Or would you like to support us so I don't have to work?

Get back to me. I'd love to stay at home and take a 2 hour nap every day while my kids are napping.

Anonymous said...

I for one, am applauding 11:38!!!!

Anonymous said...

Firstly, for you to judge most Caribbean nannies and say that they are uneducated is discriminating. You would be suprised about how many of them do child care in order to support themselves and make a better lives for themselves. I know there are those who do not speak well and may not be intelligent but thats just as stupid as some one saying all mothers who have a nanny and are stay at home moms are lazy. You should not judge someone based on where they come from because they are not all the same. I am a Caribbean woman who is a part time nanny and I have graduated both high school and college with honors.

Danielle, NYC said...

Wow, this site is amazing. I've never read such judgemental, sanctimonious, RACIST comments in a long, long, time. Put it this way: I feel sorry for everyone involved - the kid, the nanny and the parents. You pay someone to take care of your kid because you're unavailable. If you think you can impact every single aspect, interaction, comment that happens when you're not around you're fooling yourself. The poster who mentioned that she's decided not to hire women of a 'certain ethnicity' because of a myopic, elementary viewpoint of a small sample size is, well...racism personified, isn't it? To top it off, she got support from another anonymous poster! Fantastic. Further, the hysteria has been turned up to 10 as more people post that what this nanny told a child (which may be a harsh truth), is tantamount to child abuse. Step back and take a breath. Abrasive, yes - scarred for life? Not in the least. Look, you paid someone else to take care of him, right? So be it. She's got as much if not more time in a day to teach and imprint on him as you do. All nannies do. That's the nature of the set up. If you're not comfortable with that, don't hire one. Period.

Lastly, about that quaint 'rice and peas' comment...a nice piece of thinly veiled, passive aggressive ignorance on the poster's part. Funny what true colors come out when someone is anonymous on the internet. Doubt this person would be willing to do the same on a camera or on the street. Why? Because way deep down, you know how base and shameful and hateful your thoughts are. Its kinda gross. At least have the balls to say it loud and proud with a name, if that's how you feel. PS - if you hate Hispanics so much, you should move.

Anonymous said...

racial comments are nasty.
having said that, I would guess the person was NOT speaking about Hispanics. I have worked with 2 agencies in seeking a nanny and both accomodated and acknowledged my request as being "common" when I requested "no X people".
Odd isn't it?
That only Nanny Agencies can ask a would be employer if they have a "preference" regarding race or religion! I would be fired for even referencing a candidate's race in my line of work!

Anonymous said...

are you people talking about jamaicans? I googled " rice and peas" and it pulled up a bunch of jamaican recipes. On another note, someone recently told me that my boss must be loaded to not have had to hire a mexican nanny. I was like, umm, I'm half mexican...just goes to show you have to be careful who you make off-color comments to.

jmt said...

I assumed rice and peas referred to Jamaicans.

Anonymous said...

I have had exp w/ 1 group of nannies, must find out what everyone else is making & always focused on how much work the next person is doing. Seem to be very goal oriented to make sure they do no more than 1/4 the work of anyone else.

No thank you!

Anonymous said...

PLEASE stop trashing Mothers!

Most girls grow up dreaming of becoming mothers. No one has the goal in mind to be a crappy mother.

Most mothers are wonderful.

And times have changed, most mothers also work outside the home.

If you are so opposed to that, all I get from that is your own dissatisfaction over being a stay at home mother with no nanny.

You do realize that you come off as 100 percent bitter?

suddenly sweet said...

Regarding Jamaicans-
It is true that agencies in the tri state area will ASK you what your preference is. Doesn't that kind of environment just allow for prejudice to exist?

Why not judge every person for his or her own strengths?

If you lined up all of the best nannies in the world, I assure you it would be a RAINBOW of color.

Anonymous said...

I think nannies are raising kids these days. Most working moms are just kidding themselves thinking that they are raising their kids.
They can say they are until they are blue in the face but anyone with a heart and a brain can see what is happening in our society. Women have changed their priorities. They feel that they need the high paying jobs for many stupid reasons: so that they can afford pottery barn kids instead of target, so they can brag to their friends about the private schools their kids go to, so they can live in the rich neighborhoods away from the blacks and hispanics, (which is not only a stupid reason but a horrible one!)
and above all the stupidest reason, because "well, if I am happy, and I'm happy at my job, my kids will be happy too."
Way to rationalize your behavior, all you crappy moms out there who leave it to the nanny to raise their kids. It's the nanny who kisses their boo-boos when they fall, the nannies who wipe their noses, the nannies who provide them with affection and fun. So say what you want, we who are wise know the truth. And let's face it: the truth hurts.
-a parent and a nanny

Anonymous said...

Daniella:

I respectfully disagree that telling a child that he is not wanted by his mother will not scar him for life.

What a rotten, horrible thing for a child to hear. And I guarantee you it won't be the last time he hears that nonsense around that lady. Even if it's the truth, you don't ever say something like that to a child about his mother. NEVER!

I bet this nanny fancies herself as a "childcare expert." Meanwhile, you don't have to be a decorated shrink to figure out how harmful her words were.

Bottom line: the nanny doesn't care about the kid....at all.

And for all of this hemming and hawing about people hiding behind the anonymous feature, what do you think that nanny is doing?

Do you think she would EVER have the guts to say what she said in front of the parents? Hells no.

It's a sad, sad situation. I just want to give that little guy a big hug and tell him not to listen to that monster.

Anonymous said...

anonymous at 1019,
you seem to have genuine sympathy for the child but what makes you think the "nanny" would fashion herself a "childcare" expert?

Most of the nannies watch the clock and are there to collect as much money as possible and do as little work. They don't give a rat's ass about the child. The mother neglecting the child or not only posed a problem for the nanny because it meant more work for her.

wake up!

Anonymous said...

How dare you pass judgement on working mothers just because normally working mothers aren't allowed to drag their own children to work with them. Here you are working for an employer that allows you to bring your children in to her home and you dare cast stones? Are you out of your mind?
Are you seriously delusioned? On drugs? or just plain stupid?

The only people I know who have succesful nanny stories are those who work in tandum with their nanny, two way street, open communication with one goal. The goal is not to do the least work but to positively affect the end result- the person this child evolves in to.

I think it is absolutely hypocritical that just because you can drag your snotty nosed brats along with you that you have such harsh words for real working Moms!

Anonymous said...

All of you make me sick. It's disgusting that any of you have contact with children. No wonder out country is so messed up.

Anonymous said...

11:14
Talk about passing judgement! I don't actually take my daughter to work with me: my husband, her father watches her in the morning which is when I work until I get home in the early afternoon, which is when his work begins.
We have arranged our schedules around our child. A novel idea, don't you think?
Now who is on drugs, may I ask?
Oh, and by the way, referring to any child as a "snotty nosed brat" shows all of us what a crappy mother and person you really are.
I feel so sorry for your kids and for the unlucky man who happened upon you...

Anonymous said...

1114,
You need to have about 6 glasses of wine and calm the hell down.
Seriously.

"I feel sorry for your children".
Who says that?

An idiot.

Anonymous said...

11:10:

I was being sarcastic. All of these nannies pose in front of the parents as childcare experts. As you can see from hanging around here, a true nanny childcare expert is rare.

Anonymous said...

Some of the people who post here are so childish! For instance, the above poster: just because someone disagrees with you doesn't mean they need to "calm down." And getting plastered isn't an answer. Can you say AA?
And why is someone an idiot who feels sorry for a child?
You don't make sense. Maybe you should lay off the wine! If you drink 6 glasses of wine, I too feel sorry for your kids!

Anonymous said...

THESE kinds of nannies never pose as childcare experts. The only time they ever pretend to know something is if it to cite some sort of statistic that allows them (the nanny) to be lazier. Ie "these children need more downtime". And while, yes, children do need downtime, "these types" of nannies never cite any sort of advice except that which allows them- the nanny to take it easy.

And as for "i feel sorry for your kids". What a childish thing to say.

Every mother tries her best. Some just aren't capable.

Anonymous said...

7:39:

You are so far off base it isn't even funny.

You think all white mothers don't have to work? That they all work just for the hell of it?

You live in la-la land.

And this makes me choke:
"It's the nanny who kisses their boo-boos when they fall, the nannies who wipe their noses, the nannies who provide them with affection and fun."

Oh sure. As we can see perfectly from reading this site (particularly this post), that's the last thing many of them do.

Anonymous said...

To 11:10 who said: "Most of the nannies watch the clock and are there to collect as much money as possible and do as little work. They don't give a rat's ass about the child." Where do you live that most of the nannies fit that description? I am a nanny in Manhattan, and yes, I do see some nannies like that in the playground, and they are invariably working for employers who are more concerned about housekeeping than childcare. The many wonderful nannies I know all work for parents who put a lot of time and thought into finding a great care giver for their children, and top of the line nannies are selective about the families they work for.
A nanny

davie said...

I just read this post and was confused by some of the responses.
It is not childish to feel sorry for the child of an alcoholic. Alcoholism is no joke! It can ruin a family.
The nanny we have now is great, but she quit her last job because the parents were always drinking.
On the topic at hand, I don't think the nanny in this story was right to say that to a child. Anyone who think differently is really stupid!

Anonymous said...

"I feel sorry for your children" is supposedly the lowest blow one can be dealt on UB or any mommy board.

And what I get from reading this site is nothing I didn't already know as a mother of two young children:

HIRE CAREFULLY
Afford the very best nanny you can!

I would sooner carry a knock off handbag than I would allow a knock off nanny around my children. And I don't do knock offs!

Anonymous said...

Wow it's good to know that you value your kids as much as your handbag. Yay for you.

Anonymous said...

"It's the nanny who kisses their boo-boos when they fall, the nannies who wipe their noses, the nannies who provide them with affection and fun."

Sad but true!

Anonymous said...

ok All you lazy nannies who are defending yourselves here you should stop while you are ahead . One nany said she is a college grad so why not get A REAL JOB . I am a nanny and i am from the carribbean and what i see in the parks and at playdates is horrendus. Most of you lie and pretend to be the sweetest thing around but deep inside you nannies are theones that dont want to take care of your children why do you think you were hired because the parent cant do it they need help most of you work when the parents leave the home and return from work . Most of you are ungrateful and non appreciative of your employers . GET ANOTHER JOB GO WORK AT MC dONALDS if life sucks being a nanny . go out in the real world and see how much u can sit around and gossip and talk about the people you work for . The parents arent the problem you are because your lazy lazy lazy .

Anonymous said...

Listen educated carribbean nanny college grad if you were sooooo educated you would under stand the meaning MOST vs ALL carribbean LEARN TO SPEAK ENGLISH when i said most your the one that doen not fall into this category but if the shoe fits then wear it ..why so offened . I am from the carribbean i use to be a nanny and i graduated college but that means i am no longer a nanny i am now an RN not a nanny .So college grad learn ENGLISH and how to use it

Anonymous said...

I am so confused RICE and Peas can be anywhere in the carribbean not only the Hispanic continent someone should learn geography and culture they do have these courses offered in high school know as social studies " the study of society and what surrounds us. So the big blog this person left on racism and moving you shoul take the time to go back to school

Anonymous said...

quote "It's the nanny who kisses their boo-boos when they fall, the nannies who wipe their noses, the nannies who provide them with affection and fun."

Sad but true!
i think you nannies are missing the point , this is the reason why you were hired in the first place because the parents cant be there to do it ..what is it that you nannies dont get about your job . the mom goes to work to provide a better life and home for her family and you , you ungrateful nannies do you think most moms would not like to be at home with their children ofcourse they would . they hired you because they think you would love and care for their children like they would .....most of these peole can choose day care but they choose you nannies because they want their children to be well taken care off .... gosh

Anonymous said...

Stop with the racism!
Does it make you feel better to post general and vile comments about another race?

This sighting is a bad one. The end.

With regard to nanny agencies, this is true- they do take special requests to find you a "white nanny", a "Brazilian nanny" or a "Jewish Nanny". If an employer were to NOT use an agency, they would be able to wittle down their pool of applicants to their own specifications.

Which is only unfortunate because in their blindness, they could be passing up the best!

Anonymous said...

everyone should stop .i dont think anyone should post anymore .It is what it is and people are using this as an excuse to vent out all their opinions on each other.

Anonymous said...

i think people are confused carribbean is not a race .Its apart of the world. I have visited the carribbean and people just live differently its like going off to asia or europe its another part of the world so it's not racist because alot of different races live there its probably sterotyping.

jmt said...

I believe that racism is a waste of time. Color and texture differences mean nothing. What people should be focusing on is cultural differences. Culture clash is much harder to deal with. There are tens of thousands of cultures all over the planet, and every one has its own way of speaking, eating, raising kids, dating, doing business, you name it. I try to focus on the good and bad people in every culture. Trash is trash, doesn't have to be "white". Trash doesn't have to be poor either. And if someone does things differently, I give it some thought instead of dismissing it as wrong. I love the differences. But wrong is wrong no matter how you were raised. The Golden Rule exists in every major religion, so I imagine most people are familiar with the concept of not being evil, no matter where they come from.

Anonymous said...

Racist people suck. End of story. Bad nannies suck too. And moms who ignore their children. Why don't all of you bored moms and nannies step away from your computer and go watch South Park. At least that show whould be on your own level in respect to the way you all talk to one another here. Good bye and good ridance to this site!! You all make me sick.

Anonymous said...

oh ok bajan, barbadian, barbados.

Anonymous said...

Jamaica

Anonymous said...

10:15 - i hope ur children aren't being raised to be hateful racists like you are! people like you make me physically ill & what you said had absolutely nothing to do with the post or the problem. oh yeah and maybe you didn't get the memo that its 2007...

Anonymous said...

also 1015: you may need to re-educate yourself about what race and ethnicity are, and maybe consult a world map! The funny thing about racists is, not only do they sound completely uneducated when they make their comments, but they're wrong about 99.9% of the time.... i am white as can be, w/blonde hair and green eyes & ppl like you make me sick. Maybe you shouldn't snub other "races" and be more friendly toward other ppl than just whites.....it would be a much needed wake-up call for you.

Anonymous said...

12:20, how is being a nanny not a "real job" ?

Anonymous said...

Re: being a nanny is not a "real job". This attitude among parents, and the nannies they hire is one reason there are so many bad nannies. I am a college grad., and I love being a nanny. I work for a family that values my knowledge of early childhood development, CPR and first aide certification, and ability to supervise homework and music practice. I swim, ride, and do art projects with my charges. I put a lot of thought and energy into my work, assume a great deal of responsibility, and it is a REAL JOB! If parents had higher standards for the care of their children, and hired professional nannies we wouldn't be reading so many horror stories on this site.

Anonymous said...

9:42
Agreed! I think it's ironic that parents don't consider watching their children, supposedly their most precious thing (shaa, right!) a REAL job!
Perhaps you are not to be considered a REAL mother?

Anonymous said...

sad thing is, the person who said that being a nanny isn't a real job IS a "nanny".

Molly said...

"All of you make me sick. It's disgusting that any of you have contact with children. No wonder our country is so messed up."

I'm not a nanny or a precious mommy, but I do know that, biologically, race does not exist. Racism, discrimination, etc. does, however (Look at New Orleans). I find it interesting to note that many comments begin with "STOP JUDGING" in some regard, but end in "Stupid. Idiot. A-hole" whatever. It strengthens my view that adults are just older, meaner versions of their grade school selves. Yuck. Later women, have fun feuding.

Anonymous said...

Agreed, 5:30. Some of these people, especially the mothers on this board, sound like they need a nanny: for themselves!!

Anonymous said...

537 you must be a nanny. Your comment reeks of it.

Anonymous said...

Alright, I've read enough to feel urged to say something.

I'm a full-time nanny for a WONDERFUL family. They work because they live in Manhattan and the cost of living is insanely high. All of my needs as their employee are met and exceeded, they spend every moment off of work with their children and cherish it, the children are the happiest, most well-adjusted sweethearts I've ever had the pleasure of looking after, and I feel like I'm part of their family. My schedule is consistent, reliable, and extremely fair. I can't believe that people have such a hard time grasping the fact that occassionally, parent's need a little help in regards to the well-being and development of their children. I suppose those self-righteous morons that touted the fact that they "never had a babysitter growing up," also believe that Day Cares are wretched things for parents to send their children to? Get real people.

The amount of narrow-minded comments littering this section is positively astounding. I won't even touch on the disgustingly racist comments that have been spewed forth by some ignorant goober.

In regards to the actual post, that nanny could've kept that comment to herself. Of course, this was a conversation overheard by an objective stranger.
Ergo, no one here knows the real context. Did anyone ever stop to think that perhaps that nanny had had a bad day? Maybe her temper was a bit high at the time, happens to all of us. I'm not exactly defending her but I'm also not advocating that whomever overheard this contacts CPS immediately. Choose your battles people.

Anonymous said...

I believe the nanny. These rich cunts cant take care of their own offspring.

Anonymous said...

Right on, these wealthy bitches want everything on a silver platter. Not all of them. Although, most of them break the law by not providing ss taxes and healthcare for the nannies. Its not like they have to work so they can live and need child care. They want to be "mommies" and yet still feel like they dont have children so they can shop and vacation.

Anonymous said...

How the rich bitches who dont work and still have a nanny. How pathetic are these women!

Anonymous said...

454, watch out-
you say that with your mouth sucking on the woman's teet. I bet it is her Gatorade and Turkey that runs through your veins.