Received on Wednesday, September 27, 2006
I wanted to share this story with your readers. I have a great husband and two kids and am a stay at home mom. Two years ago a friend of mine came to stay with us for a weekend. The weekend turned into a week turned into a month. My husband was on his last nerve, no longer buying the pity I had for this wayward, someone lost soul of a friend. At the same time, she was toying with the idea of going to work as a live in nanny because she needed a place to stay, a job and a car. I helped her with her resume. I listed myself as her reference and a mutual friend of ours as another reference. And she left off to the NYC area to look for a job. Before I knew it, she had a job. No one had even called me or our mutual friend. Granted, we were willing to lie and say she had worked as our nanny but no one even gave us that chance! And my friend was watching a baby. A baby! Some mother hired her off of Craig's list and didn't even check her references, but allowed her to move in their home and take care of their baby! My friend was never alone with my baby because she didn't know what to do with babies, in fact she told me quite honestly that she didn't want to take care of babies. She took the first job she could and was in Greenwich, CT taking care of someone's baby! This caused me more than one sleepless night! My friend who is very sweet did struggle with many aspects of basic common sense! I have since asked her to remove my name from her resume. The last time I called the house she was living at, the mother answered and said "she no longer works with us" in a very flat and non revealing tone. I could never afford a nanny, but if I did, I would check references thoroughly! Ask open ended questions. If you use an agency and they say they have checked the references, even if they give you a form with supposed responses, don't buy it. I don't know what happened that ended my friend's job in Connecticut. When I asked her to remove my name from her resume (back when she was settling in to her nanny job), she got pretty mad at me! I spoke to a friend of her brother's last week and hear she has another nanny job in the same area. I think I started her on this course by helping her with her resume. The CT mother never called for references and if she had I probably would have lied for my friend. After all, she was off my sofa and my husband was happy but I never would have endorsed her taking care of a baby! If I did anything to set this person on a course that caused any child harm, I of course would feel terrible. So in reading these submissions, how many of these bad nannies went through thorough interview and screening processes? My guess is none. Please do not attach my name or email to this submission. Thank you.