Wednesday

Recovery Time - PG RATING - discussion on body parts

In the beginning of my career I worked for a very, let's say, pro surgery family. At the start of the position (the first week) I worked side by side with their 1st nanny who wanted to leave the position to go back to school. I was looking at the rows of professional family photos hung along the hallway when I noticed something strange. One of the boys smiling in the family photo of four did not look like the son I had met that week. I asked if the boy in the photo was a cousin. The nanny laughed in response, then explained, the boy in the picture was indeed the eldest son (MB's from a previous marriage) but that she could understand why I didn't recognize him. As, he had had a jaw realignment surgery a few years back. She then added, with a chuckle, "MB had to make sure he could have the opportunity to become a GQ model later in life." During my first month working for the family I remember listening to MB mention to me, in a very nonchalant way, that her 4 yr old son would be a having surgery the next week. To which I replied, I would be happy to help in any way possible. It wasn't until post surgery that I learned what the surgical procedure was for. After reading between the lines I believe what happened was- Her youngest son was born prematurely and had had a circumcision during his first days at the hospital. MB was unhappy with the results of the procedure, as she perceived things to be uneven (though when bathing and dressing him, nothing out of the ordinary stood out to me.)MB had convinced herself her son would be teased later on in life if things were not corrected. I remember him laying in his bed with ice packs on the delicate area, extremely uncomfortable asking when it would stop hurting. His recovery time was supposed to be just a few days, but he was extremely uncomfortable for over a week. A year or so later, I remember arriving to work one morning and beginning to prepare breakfast. The younger son came running into the kitchen at full speed shouting "Do Not touch mommy's boobies! She has stitches!" Taken aback I was able to spit out, " Okay... I won't. I promise." This is how I was informed that MB had had a breast enlargement procedure. She then spent the next three weeks glued to her bed, popping pills, recovering from the surgery due to "excessive swelling and sensitivity." It was when MB mentioned how easy it would be for me to have a rhinoplasty procedure done, that I really began to have second thoughts about this family and whether I wanted to work for them or not. I am sure MB thought the comment directed at me was innocent and harmless and that having the surgeries enacted upon her sons was the right choice. However it is my understanding, that almost all of these surgical procedures (with the exception of, maybe, the jaw realignment) are usually considered cosmetic and unnecessary. I am not against surgeries. In fact, I am all for a person of age (over 18) choosing to alter themselves to better their own lives. But I wonder if those boys will be glad of the choices their mother had made for them. Although she did not persuade me into the nose job, I am still recovering from my time working for this family.

17 comments:

Anonymous said...

What's with the PG rating?!? Are we not all adults here?
As for the story, this is jus bizarre. But I would have taken the nose job had the MB offered to pay for it. Haha

Corina said...

Rude for her to mention a nose job to you. As for the kids surgeries. The circumcision procedure is not your concern. It may have been necessary. My nephew had to get his "fixed" up. Not due to cosmetic reason but for medical. As it would have caused some problems with urination, infections, etc. I wonder if same with eldest getting jaw surgery?

Anonymous said...

Agree wholeheartedly with Corina!

Anonymous said...

A jaw realignment may also be necessary OP
Sound like the mother was just making sure her sons could live healthy lives. And If she wants bigger boobs she should get bigger boobs she was "of age" as you state OP

Anonymous said...

I have a birthmark on my cheek.
My mother had it checked when I was younger and learned that It is not the dangerous kind that is likely to turn into skin cancer.
She asked me if I wanted to have it removed but at age 11 I chose to keep it. I love my birthmark. It is part of what makes me, me. And I am so happy she asked me what I wanted and that I was allowed to have a voice.

PugHug33 said...

My parents had my cleft lip fixed when I was little. I don't remember anything and am glad they did it! I would have felt self conscious my whole life about it!

OP said...

OP here.
Yes, it was a rude comment and she was so not self aware when she Said it. Yes the circumcision correction and the jaw surgery may have been for medical purposes. I just felt that their mother was extremely pro surgery. And thought that having a procedure done was no biggie.
Later on in my life, my own mother had a routine surgery done and she was put under. Day later she did not feel right. And went to the ER. There she had tests done and they found a blood clot in her lung. Most likely a side effect from the anesthesia.
I do not look at surgeries as something to be taken lightly and know that there are huge risks involved every time.

OP said...

OP here,
If you want a nose job get a nose job. But most likely you'll have to pay for it yourself :)

OP said...

OP here,

Thanks anon. I agree it could have been for Med purposes.

OP said...

OP here.
I am glad your mom gave you a voice as a child anon. Thanks for sharing

OP said...

PugHug33,

Cute name :)
I am glad you were happy with your parents choices

-OP

Anonymous said...

I agree with anon. This post is bizarre! Almost at bizarre as the Parental Guidence warning!

Leigh Raymer said...

I put a warning because there have been posters who get very uncomfortable at words or phrases which describe body parts which can have a sexual connotation

Anonymous said...

The warning is embarrassing. Please don't put warnings unless the items actually have to do with triggers for violence or sexual abuse.

Leigh Raymer said...

Anonymous - i agree there should not have to be warnings for a reasonable person like you - the warning was for someone who is super sensitive - there have been posters who have gotten ballistic about body parts topic

Nope said...

More lies

Leigh Raymer said...

Nope - you throw the word "lie" around really easily - it's not a lie,3 years ago commentors accused the blog owner of - I won't go into the whole thing but - exploiting children and much more just because the post had some mild sex related content. You may be new and not read the archives so i forgive you for the name calling - btw - some of the name callers are starting their own blog - go check it out