I work for a lovely family with twin toddlers and have been with them for 13 months (since the boys were four months). MB and DB are very involved, loving, and treat me respectfully. I love my role with the boys and feel everyone values what I do. Overall, I'm very happy with this position.
There are several things that have come up for me since I started and I'm not sure how to open up communication. MB works long hours and I only see her in passing some mornings, so I'm not sure how I could schedule a time to sit down with both. We haven't had any sort of professional review and they've never corrected me in any way. I thrive on knowing what I can improve so I almost feel they are too nice/passive in this area for my liking. I fear they'll see my communication as complaining, since they never bring any issues up themselves.
The biggest issues for me is DB working from home. When I took the job I was told both parents work out of the house. DB owns a business and his hours are flexible. Over time he has started working in his home office more. Sometimes he's here until midday, sometimes gone all morning then home midday, and often he's here all day. I sincerely can't tell you the last time I worked a full day without him in the home at some point. DB will come out multiple times during the day, which upsets the boys. In a genuine attempt to help calm them down, he'll give them a food/toy/ect to distract, which completely messes up whatever I'm trying to do with them. I would much prefer him to make his entrance and exit quick and not interfere. This morning he gave twin b a huge 32 oz. container of yogurt to distract him and twin a a cup of cereal, then left. This resulted in yogurt and crunched up cereal all over the kitchen that I had to clean.
Directly related to the above, I'm paid salary. I was told the salary was based off me working 40-50 hours/week. My regular schedule being 7:30-5:30 M-F, but because of DB's schedule flexibility I could expect to leave early often. This rarely happens. If DB gets home early, he hides out in his office/mows the yard/ect. In the summer he would lay out in the pool until 5:30, which honestly really irked me. I don't mind working my set hours, nor do I feel it's any of my business what the parents choose to do while they pay me to care for the twins. I just feel like my salary needs to be reevaluated to reflect all of this. I make $600/week before taxes and take home about $1,000 bi-weekly after taxes (which includes some untaxed cash to reimburse me for outings or supplies I used those weeks).
I also have issues with DB forgetting to pay me. I just expect not to get my check without a reminder anymore. He also forgets to pay the house keeper.
The boy's grandmother will drop by at random times (yesterday she told me she'd be here at 1:00/1:30 but showed up at 11:00) and ruined nap time. Sometimes she comes by completely unannounced to both myself and the parents. I don't mind restructuring the day when I know she's coming. I just feel that I deserve a heads up and a specific time so I can plan accordingly.
I've considered leaving this position to work for a more career oriented, straight forward family. I know there are pros and cons to both, but I wish my employers communicated with me more and that the position was more professional/straight forward. Sometimes I read about nannies here never interacting with their employers, only showing up in the morning to endless Post Its, and I kind of wish my life was more like that.