I have a two part situation and I hope for input from nannies and employers.
The first is that there are times my nanny does something not in line with my parenting philosophy or that I think she should check with me first for and I take issue with it. Sometimes with her, often times with my husband. I want him to hear my complaint, validate it and give me a solution or move on. Not once has he ever validated my problems with the nanny. He responds by saying, "let's not rock that boat', "you know we have a good thing going here" and "I think you're overeacting/taking things too literally, taking things too seriously". Does anyone else experience this? My nanny is wonderful. Yes. But if my mother calls one morning and asks her to meet the kids at the mall for lunch and to buy them swimsuits, wouldn't you think I should hear of it before? I don't require permission, I just want to know what is going on. A text would have sufficed.
The second part of my situation again deals with the nanny. She eats very healthy and has introduced us to some very healthy concepts, stores, etc. We only buy certified organic now. We eat less process food than ever before because of her ideas that she implements on her own. She doesn't need to be micromanaged. An example of something she did wonderful is she bought whole grain bread, organic peanut butter and fresh preserves and made sandwiches, cut them out in circle shapes and froze ten in the freezer. Previously, I'll admit, I let my kids eat the frozen pb&J. So that's great. Something I didn't like was washing out a sippy cup my four year old uses for the car (for spill purposes only) and finding a white powder. When I asked the child what it is, she told me X put powder in her orange juice. So I asked X for clarification. She tells me she has been adding a pinch of dichotomous earth to all three children's drinks for the past couple of weeks. Don't you think I should know that? She explained all of the benefits, but again, after the fact.
I am a working mother and leave the house every day by 730 and usually don't return before 6. Is what I am feeling normal or territorial?