The 3 year old screams everytime I tell her no. It is so loud, so bad that it makes me not want to say no. I have tried giving her choices, making things seem like her idea, I talk in a calm manner, I talk to her sitting next to her. The second she has to be corrected, she just screams. By corrected I mean, she takes a soft block from her brother. I try to redirect her because he starts to cry. Her response is to throw the block as hard as she can at him. Granted, it cannot hurt her. Then I offer a solution like "if we you play without throwing blocks, I think you need to play something else." And I even try and find something fun for just her. Movies, barbies, dolls, leggos. Etc. The screams are ear shattering. I work in a neighborhood in Larchmont, NY and the houses are close together. I took the little boy outside on the porch with me while she was screaming because I am new and I am afraid someone is going to think I am hurting her. The older lady next door was out there. I said, "I'm sorry she's screaming. She isn't hurt". The neighbor said, "Oh I know. We're used to that." I was surprised and the neighor clearly didn't want to say more. She just looked at me with then she said, "Did they tell you how many nannies they have been through since X (boy) was born". I looked at her surprised and she just shook her head. So clearly there is something to do with the new baby and the girl but what am I supposed to do? We have a whole summer ahead of us. If I make lunch and tell her it's lunch time, she screams. If I ask her if she wants lunch and she says yes, I ask her what she wants and it is something like "Burger King" which I have to say, "we can't have that today..maybe tom.." SCREAM SCREAM SCREAM. I swear I am a calm, yoga centered person but my BP is easily up 20 points being here. I don't know that I can take this!