Tuesday

Sad Girl in Ossining, NY

Samuel Preston
 I am not sure where to turn. I moved with the family I had worked with for a year to Ossining in Westchester County. It was my choice, the allure of NYC was what motivated me. I'm happy I made the choice. I have made friends and am busy anytime I am not working.

The problem is the girl for whom I nanny. We moved to a beautiful town on the Hudson, but it has proven less desirable than I think my employers thought. The girl went into public school immediately. She was not a stranger to public school.

Initially, she seemed okay. She would come home and talk about school and the kids that she met. She started riding at a horse farm about 40 minutes away. She even gave her phone number to some of the girls in her class who called her for playdates. Her mom shut it down right away because the kids were from this same town, in public school. Two even lived in an apartment.

We live in a very nice house on the water. There are other nice houses here. Not everyone can go to private school. Can they? I have a little girl who is broken hearted and sad, she gets out of school in two weeks and she has no friends. I look up things to do on the local kids to do calendar and nless they are certain not to attract certain 'regular' kids, the mom won't hear of it. They have a heated pool and the mom thinks it is fine that she spend the summer with me and the pool, with a twice weekly tutor to prepare her for this fancy school she starts in the fall.

I'm a happy person. I make things fun for her, but this little girl is depressed and mom can't see it!

14 comments:

Rebeca Johnson said...

This is so sad!

Sara said...

I would get the names of some of the kids in her new school and get to know them. Hopefully they would be approved and worthy.

Anonymous said...

I'd report her for child abuse because that is what this is... She's isolating the girl and plugging the child in a depressed state. Unacceptable!

Angi

Anonymous said...

*putting

Puleeeese! said...

Wow. 2015. Year of the 'holy overreactions, Batman! ' It is not child abuse!

Anonymous said...

Isolating a child absolutely is child abuse. Ask any social worker!

Angi

Thirty something said...

Thats not ideal, but certainly not child abuse! i think the suggestion to find out who the Children in her new class will be id a helpful one. Perhaps you could get their names and organise a getting to know each other before school starts picnic. We had one of those before my daughter started her 2s program and it was nice for her to be familiar with some of the other kids in her class before they were all lumped in a classroom together.

this_nick said...

You would report her for child abuse for being a snob, but not the mom stealing her kids' meds. Oooookay.

this_nick said...

Incidentally, DCF wouldn't do anything here.

this_nick said...

I mean here's a crazy idea: talk to the mom. It may help or she may fire you, but a nanny who's not willing to risk her own livelihood for the well-being of the child in her care is pretty meh.

Anonymous said...

Would they remove the child? Of course not. They would implement parental classes and discussions with a child therapist. This is what needs to happen

Angi

Anonymous said...

The needs thing was based on all speculation and theories. This is not.

Angi

this_nick said...

Yeah, no. They would say the parent gets to pick and choose who their child can play with. Even if she's a right bitch.

Anonymous said...

Ok angi the mom isnt isolating the child. Im sure she can play with the other hoity toity moms kids. Just not the "poor" ones. Immoral? Yes. Abuse? No. Just a sad person. At least this child has such a caring nanny. BLESS YOU OP