Out of fairness to the nanny, you probably want to make sure you really want a live-in nanny. I thought she'd go peacefully to her quarters at the end of the day. I made sure she had a nice sized television, direct tv, a DVD player, a radio, a desk, a mini refrigerator, a microwave. She has her own bathroom. Yes, it's all located in the basement, but it's a walkout basement. I don't want to be a thoughtless employer.
What concerns me and I don't know how to address is that since she has been here, the nanny hasn't left her room on the weekends that I have seen. I literally haven't seen her outside. Not in our hallway, not using her nanny vehicle to go anywhere. It is possible she sleeps a lot on the weekends. I know Friday is a big grocery trip for her, so I know she has food in her room. I guess what I want to know is do I need to talk to her about this? Reading the other posts, the philosophy seems to be that if she was doing it at her own house and you wouldn't know about it, it isn't your business.
As a nanny, she does a great job. She doesn't seem depressed, she greets the family with enthusiasm morning and at night. Has anyone else ever had something like happen? If she wants to stay in her room all weekend, it doesn't bother me. Do I address it, like, to make sure she is okay? I'm weary of doing this because I have a friend with a live-in (on the same floor of her house) and she hates her being there any part of the weekend. I can't imagine how awful that feels for the nanny. I want to not make her feel like she needs to do anything different, but it's weird. It's really like we don't have a live-in at all. Weeknights are the same thing, but less noticeable
because she has worked some late nights.