Nanny Employer Sitdown?
I'm back to work a month (today). This is the first time I’ve ever hired help. Nanny is live in (but separate apartment in our carriage house). She has been working for us for 10 weeks, she started before I returned to work. We do have drop cams (nanny cams) but they are obvious and I discussed them with her before we got them. I do like to check in on the baby throughout the day, makes me feel better to see her and see what she is doing. I also spy on the dog, last night he jumped on the couch to steal the baby’s pacifier. Bad Dog!
My question: Now that I’ve been back to work a month and Nanny’s been when us 2.5 months, as we approach 3 months (90 days), should we do some type of 90 day review (informal or formal). My husband and I were discussing this last night. We are happy with Nanny, the baby is happy and we’d like to express our happiness while asking her for feedback on us/baby/arrangement. I know cash is king, but my husband doesn’t want her to get used to us throwing cash around since having a nanny and having the live in expense is expensive. We also pay her babysitting fee if she babysits for us. Husband suggested $50 gift card as an expression of our happiness. Thoughts? Too little, more than enough? Should we ask her for feedback before we give her expression of our happiness (so she doesn’t feel obligated to say nice things if she has critical feedback). Thoughts, have any of the Nannies had a sit down with employers at 90 days?
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