Any other mothers ever feel like having a great nanny makes you the object of scorn and backtalk? Huge house, gorgeous husband, five figure job, is it me..or is nothing worse in the eyes of another mother, working or stay at home, as a mother with a great nanny? My nanny and I have a mutually respectful relationship. When she is with my children, my children are just as well taken care of as when they are in my care. Instead of this making me the target of your wraths, why not celebrate that when it works, it really works. I understand envy, but I don't understand the level of envy and anger directed at me because of my set-up. I think what I feel is equally felt by my nanny who doesn't seem to have connected with any moms or nannies, despite being absolutely wonderful.
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i was excited about the return of this website, but the inconsistent tone and passive-aggressive headlines are pretty annoying and disappointing. if you cared enough about a submission to post it, why would you title it "first-world problems"? this is someone's legitimate concern, and your headline belittles it.
This "title" was used by the author in the subject line of the email submission.
bahahahahha. anonymous@958; asshole of the day. can we bring that feature back?
Now that I moved past the unproductive first comment to the crux of the post, I see what you are saying. One one hand, you are admitting that you have it good but on the other hand, I think as a woman, it is always hard for us to see and realize that other people, usually women wish to begrudge us things. There is a chance you lucked in to your nanny situation but it is more likely that you had to make some compromises and put some work into building a meaningful relationship with the nanny. I am sure some moms I know would poopoo that just because they would be insulted at the suggestion that they should work towards a relationship with the nanny. You reap what you sow, enjoy your success. I can see where it would be harder for the nanny to grasp on to connections because she's possibly not really identifiable with as a nanny or a mom, but so what. She needs to own her greatness and step up and meet people. If people still want to disclude her, than it is wholly on them.
I think there's this constant mother competition of who's kid is smarter or further ahead developmentally. When you have a professional care giver helping you I can see why people would judge you. It's like people see children as a reflection of who's a better parent. It's like you're cheating! But really the whole thing is silly all children are different and the more people who love them and model good relationships the better!
It is sad that moms are so competitive when we really have the opportunity to make things easier and better for each other.
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