Wednesday

ISYN Blacklisted Employers, #1


47 comments:

NannyinLA said...

WOW...scary and thanks for the heads up! You never know...

♥ Amy Darling ♥ said...

Wow...This whole situation sounds like a recipe for disaster.

A single mother going through a nasty divorce. She has mental issues and her oldest has Autism. She probably is overwhelmed w/her mental problems, her son's Autism, her messy divorce, caring for three children on her own, etc.

However, that does not excuse her horrible behavior.
This job sounds just awful and no amount of money could make me work in that chaotic and stressful environment.

OP, I am so glad you got out of there.
I hope you have found a normal and loving family since then.

Thanks so much for sharing your story w/all of us.

MissMannah said...

Sorry, couldn't read through that whole thing. Got side-tracked by the mental illness bashing in the second paragraph.

RBTC said...

no condition a human has justifies harming another human

boy was this fascinating - the rip off report was very interesting - and that site is a very interesting site

this billionaire family has been tormenting people for going on 2 decades now

they might make a movie some day

keep us posted Op - hopefully the questionable person kim will not try to ruin your life

rstlne said...

There was no mental illness bashing.

Her behavior is consistent with someone who has bipolar disorder especially someone who is not receiving effective treatment.

I feel sorry for her oldest son. It appears he is not receiving proper treatment and any therapy her may be receiving is being undone by his mother's actions.

Sorry you found yourself in this situation.

I still don't think this column is a good idea. Far to easy to identify people especially children.

Wednesday said...

@MissMannah-
Just because she's describing the negative behavior that the mom portrays due to her bipolarism doesn't mean she's bashing it. She's just saying what she's seen and experienced. I usually agree with you, Mannah, but sounds like you're quick to side with someone just because they have a mental illness even if it means that she's putting her kids through hell.

MamaBear said...

This is very, very wrong. I am a long time isyn reader and I won't be back. I don't care that you ID parents, but you give enough details to identify innocent children. For shame, isyn. This started as a site to protect children and this is unacceptable. I have reported this to blogger and as soon as I submit this comment, I am reporting this post to the nearest CPS office I can find to Newport Beach. OP, you should do the same if you feel the children are being harmed.

And I truly hope that this "feature" is taken down and never seen again.

brianna said...

Nearest CPS office?
Are you some sort of fucking idiot?
The info is already online.

Kudos to you, little tattle telling fucker.
There are sites out there dedicated to annihilating nannies.

No last name was used here.
I'm tired of things not being equal for nannies.
The harm to children comes from HORRIBLE parents like these.

Natasha Reynolds said...

Haha did you read the report?
This family has been terrorizing nannies for over a decade, ruining lives. Do you think life has been good for their children? There is all kinds of info about these parents online, much more than here.

ADB said...

Sorry but this was fascinating.

RBTC said...

i agree with natasha - it was fascinating and the blog administrator was very circumspect about what was posted - this family has been all over the net for many years - this is kind of like "nannies in the news" - no one bashes that feature

the blog is great and heading is a great direction - keep it up!

Effie said...

Hello readers,
What do you think?

MamaBear said...

If you all want to bash the parents, then that is your right to do so, although isyn started as a place for parents to go to in order to protect their children. If that is how you make yourselves feel better about yourself, go right ahead. But this isn't about how awful the JOB was or even the mom was. Most of this focused on an 11 year old little boy with a disability. If you go to the link in this article and read the report the other nanny postes, THAT is more how this type of post should read, if there should even be such posts.

And as for you, Briana, I can tell by your anger and foul language, that you clearly have some bigger issue going on yourself. Nothing in my comment should have incited that kind of response. I hope wherever is going on in your world and self gets resolved. I do know how to connect with CPS online and have done so.

Which, if anyone cared about these children, you should also do. Posting here won't help them. And it doesn't matter if everyone in the world is doing the wrong thing. I am not jumping on board.

sf nanny said...

oh mama bear,
I get you. you are sensitive. but political correctness is not about this. many children have autism. fact: they have behavior problems. fact: inconsistency makes their behavior worse. fact: there are nannies who have been ruined as love in nannies in a home where cyfd is investigating. fact: a nanny who values her health, safety and reputation deserves to know what she is getting into. That doesn't mean I don't feel sadness for the autistic child. my first job was for a family that had just lost their father. I went in wanting to make their world better. the six year old had anger problems. I tried to work with the mom but she wouldn't listen to me. one day the six year old got upset while I. working with his brother and came up behind me with a metal baseball bay and cracked me in the head. I passed out and thank goodness the 9 year old called 911. the mom came to see me in the hospital and told me,"he was just missing his father". pity was the only took she have him to deal. my mom refused to let me go back to that house.

Sheep said...

I think Brianna was harsh, but also that mamabear, you sound like a punk. Jumping on board? It is not up to you to approve every post or even like every post.

Maybe you should go start your own blog and get the control you so richly deserve.

OP said...

OP here-

I am sorry, I didn't realize all of these details were going to be posted. I thought I was providing the details to the blog owner so that she would know this was true. Then a very brief description would be posted and nannies could contact her for more information. I've asked her to edit out more of the details.

I didn't meant to offend anyone, was really trying to give people a head's up because I really do worry about someone (nanny or child) getting hurt here.

To the person who wanted to call CPS- From what I understand CPS was called a little over a year ago when he jumped out of the window. Thankfully nannies were not home alone with the children when the incident happenned and he only sprained his ankle, so no one was indicated for abuse or neglect.

MissDeeLovesJohnCena said...

Since we are on the subject of bad employers, what about bad agencies and agencies that treat nannies and applicants like crap? Omit the name of the agency but submit the city/state (optional). I think this would be beneficial for those considering relocating to another state and those seeking nanny employment.

RBTC said...

Op - you have nothing to apologize for - there are a few angry flamers on this blog who attack the Ops, try to ignore them - your post was very interesting and part of the point of the blog is to give details - the rip off report gave MANY more details than you did

the blog seems to be posting ideas and articles in a more wide swath to be more interesting - thanks to the administrators for their hard work!

MamaPunk (formerly known as bear) said...

I sound like a punk? I think my response was fairly mild considering the way Briana responded to me. And if defending innocent children who already have had a bad hand dealt to them makes me a punk, then I'll start signing off as MamaPunk. Proudly.

Using just the information from this and the linked post, I was able to bring up the name and pictures of the child on a Google search. It took me five seconds. It is a violation of his privacy. This poor child didn't ask for this. If you want to have a feature like this, then leave the children out of it. Discuss MB's raging alcoholism and DB grabbing your ass, that they make you work off the books for 187 hours a week for fifty cents an hour. Complain away. But leave the kids out of it.

It isn't about my need to control, it is the law. Even a minor child convicted of a crime (like the poor nanny who was attacked with the bat by her charge) still are given legal protection as to their identity.

Blogs still fall under the same legal jurisdiction of any printed media. If this or any family identified in this series were to see this, they would have legal recourse to sue for defamation of character. And don't you think a family like this, with their legal teams and financial resources, wouldn't. If you continue to bring innocent children into it, you will not find the courts very sympathetic to your argument that you are just evening the scales in the parent vs. nanny wars.

MamaPunk (formerly known as bear) said...

Good. Then my call to CPS will hopefully be taken more seriously. You might want to call them yourself, as I am sure, after 8 years, you care very much for the well being of those children.

MamaPunk (formerly known as bear) said...

The Rip Off report focused on the parents and what the working conditions were like and how unfairly treated she was by the mother. I am not concerned about that. I am concerned that I now know a lot of personal details about a minor child. It is not only illegal, it is in very poor taste. As nannies, you have seen firsthand how these innocent children are hurt by the poor decisions their parents make. At least as nannies, you can walk away (not easily, perhaps, but you ultimately can). Please don't do anything else to make this child, and others, suffer.

OP said...

OP again-

Mama Punk, I understand your concerns, but have a hard time believing you found pictures of these children online. As far as I know there are no pictures of these children on any social media sites or online anywhere because it's not allowed. I wasn't able to find any myself and I know the family, so would be interested to know how you found them. Not calling you a liar, just want to know if someone has been posting pictures of the children when they are not supposed to be. If this is the case I have no problem letting mom and dad know.

RBTC said...

you know - this is an issue that comes up on this site periodically - the very nature of the blog is inquisitive - they very specifically ask for as much info as possible including pictures, names etc

i was bashed pretty bad once for posting a simple cute picture of some kids and their nanny with permission from the nanny


i enjoy this blog, i like very much the direction it's going in, it's interesting to see new poasts and i hope the Ops and administrators will soldier past the naysayers who want to pretty much take the teeth out of it by censuring the informational aspect

it was a good post, Op, you did not do anything wrong

Helga said...

great post.
hopefully it will remind nannies to interview their employers. I have taken care of children with. disabilities. the disability is never the problem,.the problem is how the parents handle the disability. as a comparison, I was a nanny once for a four year old not potty trained who still took a pm bottle. I would potty train and hold bottles monday thru Friday. monday morning, he was always in his crib with a bottle and wearing a wet diaper.

stinkdt said...

wow. so some numbnut is going to contact ca cyfd and say they read a story about parents who didn't provide their child the.kind of care she thinks these.children she doesn't know require. the family has means and money. I wonder how many inner city toddlers will.be beaten to death while an inundated agency tried to make sense of your hysterical claims. Clearly, you don't care about children, only the sound of your own voice.

brava OP

amy adresano said...

wrong
go fuck yourself.
why are you still here?

RBTC said...

what's with all the cursing? the target of the blog is moms nannies even dads, child activists and family oriented people, any reasonable person actually - using inappropriate language is disappointing and furthers no goals or communication ;9

♥ Amy Darling ♥ said...

If this mother has bipolar, she has a responsibility to seek treatment since her children are entitled to have a mother who is well.

Untreated mental illness can be quite devastating to loved ones who must bear the brunt of the other person's illness.

MamaPunk (formerly known as bear) said...

You misunderstood. I contacted CPS to let them know that isyn is violating the privacy of these minors. they are going to inform the parents.

slimshady said...

I didn't misunderstand. why are you still here. go away fatty.

A Nanny said...

The OP didn't do anything wrong. She was in a bad situation and is warning other nannies to stay away. @MamaPunk (because you are indeed a punk and a troll), if you are a longtime reader then surely you know that the initial purpose of this site was indeed for parents to report bad nannies, often supplying names, descriptions, and locations of children they saw- occasionally with photos they snapped. So idk where all this vitriol is coming from. That's the nature of this site, of you don't like it, then LEAVE.

PS @Amy Darling

Do you see these comments???!! This is exactly the type of bullying, bashing, and general insanity I was talking about in that other post.

Anonymous said...

If it was sooooo bad, why was she there for 8 years? I call bull shit. She got fired and is bashing her former employers. Nice.

MamaBear said...

This one made me laugh. Oh, no! I've been called a fatty by some anonymous poster on the internet! How shall I live with the horror?!

Thanks for the laugh.

RBTC said...

wow , i hope any rant to cps does not backfire and have the kids taken away from the home!, the Op did nothing wrong

over the years i've seen people hate this blog and try to ruin it but reporting the blog and Ops to cps and any other government authorities is a disturbing new low, not that cps has better things to do than waste time reading a nanny blog - probably goes for the cia, fbi, home security,and president obama too lol

i hope the administrators and Ops will not be swayed by this sad type of attitude against reasonable free speech

MamaBear said...

This posting is a disturbing new low. So I guess we are even.

And I went one better. I contacted the Fletcher Jones investment group (easy Google search) and let them know about this post and the contents specific to this particular child and his disability. I have been contacted by their legal team and have forwarded all of this to them. They have nothing but time and money on their hands to make sure this material is taken down. They seemed very interested and I have done my part to alert the parents of this minor child.

As for me, I am done. I have done what I need to do. I know nothing I say or do will change your minds on this post. I will say a final time that I don't care that you have a blacklist feature, it just needs to focus on your adult employer(s) and the unsatisfactory job conditions, not on the minor children you care(d) for. There was nothing wrong with the linked to complaint. I have respectfully voiced my concerns, only to be disrespected and told to leave. Honestly, I could care less what you all think of me. Flame me all you want. I wont be back to see it and I can rest very easily knowing I have done my best for this child.

RBTC said...

it's really best mamabearetc-for you to move on from your hate for this blog - if someone like you is constantly threatening the Ops with legal action out of a vague miasma of hatred for the exact purpose of the blog - to identify caregivers and children by citing details, then - yes, i think someone has finally after 7/8 years found a way to destroy the blog

btw - i am familiar with the rip off report and people threaten to sue them all the time with no success- if the jones family has not been able to take that report down in a decade i don't think the Op here will have any problems either

the truth is a defence against libel and slander

i hope any future Ops or posters will not let a hater like mama intimidate them or scare them

LaMar said...

YOU HAVENT DONE THE BEST FOR THIS CHILD. YOU HAVE AN AXE TO GRIND.
SO GET OVER YOURSELF, GET MENTAL HELP COUNSELING. SOMEWHERE, SOMEONE FAILED TO HELP YOU. OBVIOUSLY.

Andrew F said...

I think the post should still be up. Who is looking out for the nanny who could walk in to that toxic environment and have all kinds of repercussions? No one. That doesn't exist, that sort of warning for nannies, but it needs to. I wish you would not have taken it down.

RBTC said...

it's really too bad that a toxic troll can have an effect like this ;( karma bites

btw - anyone who comes on here and wants to know what this is about google fletcher jones rip off report - they are a family that evidently has negative dynamics for nannies - and this blog was trying to be heroic - which is impossible these days with toxic haters like mama-whatever.

wow, i've seen it all now

RBTC said...

one more comment - i do not know but i suspect that posters like "mama" could possibly have contributed to mpp getting sick by their harrassing behavior, i think that is horrible- i hope that person keeps her word and leaves the blog admins alone to do their job - they are working hard for all of us

shocked said...

MamaBear,

You cannot possibly think that you have done good with your actions to that child. You are completely delusional, and God help those children who depend on you to protect them. Fyi, I read the post while it was still on and just to test I tried searching the family on google, and I was unable to find anything more than report from the other website and company's website. Please, explain why all the drama? And why is there need to lie and make things worse? Do you like causing problems for innocent people for no good reason? You are a horrible person. As far as I am concerned you might be the mother from Op's post... I wouldn't be surprised.

RBTC said...

i'm not sure if it was a good idea to post a video of mamabear singing - she/he/it is very litigious !

seriously - the troll is gone - soon to be forgotton

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OP said...

OP here, just checking in one more time-

Just to clarify. I wasn't employed with this family for 8 years. I was in this job for almost a year.

If any nanny is concerned about this family, I'm more than happy to talk to you privately. I'm sure the blog owner can put us in touch.

I call BS on getting in touch with the legal team. I am in regular touch with the legal team because of things that happened while I was employed.

RBTC said...

it was a great post Op - we would love to hear any updates - good luck!