I needed advice about the boy I'm watching.
So I watch the kids all morning and put them down for their afternoon nap. One
of the kids is a barely three year old boy and has been potty trained for about
3 months. I still have him napping at least 2 hours, usually more. He insists on
not wearing a diaper for nap (despite wearing pull ups at night). So one day in
February I gave in, and he stayed dry so we tried again, and this continued
dryly for a few weeks.
Now for about a month or so, he's been wetting the bed 3/4 times out of 5. I've
limited water with lunch and force bathroom breaks before nap. I can't ask the
parents because he doesn't nap with them on weekends and they'll suggest a
diaper. I've stared to notice a pattern, I'll peek in his room and he'll be
starting to wake up (dry) so I go attend to the others and come back within 10
minutes and he'll be wet. I have a feeling this is simply his laziness in that
he's awake but chooses not get up. He is only ever wet on the top of his jeans.
I hate to say that because I don't want to hurt his feelings but he is getting
his sheets washed daily and quite frankly, I'm sick of it. I know I could go in
and force him to get up but on some occasions, he tosses and turns mid nap and
goes back down.
He sleeps in a toddler bed, I leave his door cracked, bathroom light on across
the hall, I sit right at the bottom of the stairs. He goes to the bathroom by
himself when awake, he is usually extremely responsible. I've only had one awake
accident including while he trained.
It's getting frustrated to be greeted by "I had a accident." And then spend 20
minutes fixing the bed and getting him dressed. The whole time he says accidents
happen, it's okay. For a long time, I said the same thing which is what mom and
dad tell him (accidents have been more frequent with them). Now I've started to
say "Accidents happen but we really need to practice getting up and going potty
if we are awake in bed." ...to which he usually cries (I think more because he's
just woken up and I of course say it in the same soothing tone) and I feel bad
because I don't want to discourage his usually great potty behavior, but I
think it's important for him to distinguish between accidents and preventable
He is such a smart little guy, and I know he can do this (since he has before)
and I don't want to go back to diapers and erase our progress. So I'm torn. Do
you guys have any advice how I can help him move past this? How I can not
discipline him for his laziness but still confront it?
I know there's no other reason for it. He isn't having any changes at home,
definitely no fears or abuse of any sort. He doesn't go to school or anything so
I know he's not being picked on or anything.