Is Parent Being too Particular?
I just recently hired a morning nanny to come in at 6:30 to make breakfast for the kids. They are 6, 5, and 3. I am a health nut and ask for her to make the same thing each day for the kids because I know they will eat it and it's healthy. It's eggs with ham and cheese and oatmeal. Fruit on the side. I asked that she doesn't use butter on the pan just cooking spray. They have to eat all their breakfast because they don't eat lunch until late and it's essential they eat a healthy and big breakfast (most important meal of the day!) They have until 7:10 to eat and then they need to get dressed. I don't want them eating in their school clothes. I asked that she always does my little girls hair. Makes sure they brush their teeth, wash their faces off and get sleep out of their eyes and comb the boys hair. Then they need to leave by 7:30, she uses my car to drive the kids to school. She drives 30 minutes to ODS school and then 45 minutes back to the younger kids school. I ask that she takes them in and drops them off to ensure they get there safely. Then she's done! She brings the car back to the house and she goes! She is done around 9:30 and we pay her 15 an hour.
I ask that she is dressed in at least jeans (no yoga pants) and her hair looks nice. I don't expect her to look like she spent 3 hours doing herself up in the morning, just that she did SOMETHING to herself! I am really big on table manners, so they need to talk without food in the mouth, say excuse me, yes ma'am, no ma'am ...never say yeaaaa or oh my god! or anything like that. I like for them to speak nicely and diplomatically. We don't scold them for having elbows on table just politely remind them. I like for the nanny to use positive reinforcement and avoid saying "no". I enforce this at home as well and I don't say flat out "no" to my kids either. I always positively explain everything to them instead of just saying NO!!! "No standing on the table" is "Please sit your bottom in your chair, the table isn't for standing" (that is a silly example, my kids don't stand on table lol) DH told me I'm too particular. I don't really see it. Yeah the breakfast thing may sound weird but isn't it easier on her to just make the same thing every morning? The kids know they HAVE to eat all of it. We don't put too much on their plate, they are not set up for failure. It isn't anything I don't do with my kids. I have another nanny in the afternoon that follows the rules and does fine. She's a wonderful nanny. Too particular? Am I not paying enough to be this particular? - Anonymous
at 4:09 AM