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Lake Anne - Reston, Va

BADNANNYSIGHTING-1
Lake Anne - Reston, Va.
Tue 7/10
A childcare center was leaving the program on Tuesday. As the community childcare was walking by, 2 children left the group and the kids stayed and played at the cement play area. The adults never saw them leave the group. I asked if they were missing anyone and 2 adults said, "No". As the children were playing, I said, "Is this one of yours?" and the black man said, "Yes". Then started walking off yelling, "Bad Boy!" The young girl was still there. I said, "Is this cute Asian girl yours?" He said, "No" then looked and came back to get her, berating her for being a Bad Girl. If I wasn't there, how long would it take for them to realize the missing children!

25 comments:

orientalrug said...

People are not oriental, rugs are. That's a very derogitory term, fyi. Thanks for caring enough to post.

melissa said...

People can't be oriental. Ugh. They are Asian. Anyway, I don't really understand the post. A group of children was out with their caretakers? Is the play area enclosed or could the children have wandered off? Just curious.

MaryPoppin'Pills said...

I changed OP's wording... thank you for pointing it out to me.

noboyisperfect said...

I think it matters how far behind they were. Because its so easy for us to be critical. But this is just what kids do. I would think the adults would've been looking back every so often. Your post doesn't sound like they were far away. Its so easy to be critical when were not the ones providing the care. I'm glad u care but is it that bad? In my personal opinion, no.

tympp said...

Thanks. I'm sure she just didn't know better. I had to be told before I knew better, too. ;-)

MaryPoppin'Pills said...

Here is OP's original e-mail. I don't know if I helped or made it more difficult to understand. They may have been in a rush but I am thankful they took the time to send it in... so please, no negative comments:


Lake Anne Reston Va
Tue7/10

A childcare center was leaving the program on Tues The community childcare was walking by 2 children left the group and the kids stayed and played at the cement play area the adults never saw them leave the group I asked if they were missing any one 2 adults said No the children were playing I said is this one of yours and the black man said yes started walking off yelling Bad Boy the young girl was still there I said is this one of your cute oriental girl he said No than looked and came back to get her berating her for being a Bad Girl If I wasn’t there how long would it take for them to realize the missing children.

MissMannah said...

I think this is a good sighting, just very poorly worded. I don't really know if the OP needed to point out that the kiddos had wandered off a few feet, but I'm not bothered by that part. What I am bothered by is that the caretaker told the children they are bad. That is a big no-no in my book and if I was a parent and heard a caretaker say that to my child, I would withdraw him or her from the program.

MaryPoppin'Pills said...

I have to agree: what was said to the children disturbed me the most. As for how far they wandered off, if the OP would like to come back and clarify, I would appreciate it very much.

people-arent-bad....they-do-bad-things said...

yeah, I've never said my children were bad. That goes against my beliefs as a parent. My kids might do things that I do not like. That's my opportunity to teach them *why something is a bad idea. That's how they learn to make good decisions, for themselves. Telling them that they are bad, just serves to crush their little spirits.

I was caught up on other factors & hadn't noticed that.

Bethany said...

There are many things wrong with this post that make it a good sighting.

1. Both adults should not have been in front of the group of children. One in front and one in back is standard.

2. It bothers me that they did not realize someone had wandered away.

3. It bothers me that he did not recognize the child in his care.

4. The method of discipline. Though in my experience these summer and after school programs often do very little to educate how to appropriately speak to and discipline children.

Good sighting! Should have included the name of the childcare center.

China said...

Thanks for clarifying the Oriental comment. As an Asian, I absolutely deplore it when I am referred to as an "Oriental." *Shudder*

I think that since there were two adults, one should have walked in the front, leading the group while another should have walked in the back to make sure all the kids stuck together.

Kids are notorious for getting distracted and these adults seem very inexperienced regarding the proper way to supervise a group.

Good sighting OP.

Yes, if you know the name of the childcare center, that would be great.

gypsy said...

In Virginia, you can care for up to five children, not including your own & not be licensed. When we lived there, there were a few horror stories. They need to ovehaul their child care regulations. The commenwealth has a budget surplus in excess of $260 million. Teachers usually have masters & its a wonderful place to raise a fam. That's their weak area, for sure.

Student Nanny said...

Not the OP, but I live in this area and thought I might clear some of the questions posed about the locale. The play area there is not enclosed, and there are lots of trees around, so once you walk away from the immediate play area, visibility gets really tricky. The play area is also only about 50 ft away from the lake, and it would be very easy for an unattended child to wander in. For those reasons I think this sighting definitely has merit.

melissa said...

Thanks for the clarification. Children wandering off is never a good thing, but knowing what danger they could be in (with water right there especially) makes it worse. Good sighting OP!

MissMannah said...

Gypsy, you're so right. I used to work at a childcare center in VA and I was horrified at the lack of regulations in the state. Granted, their staff-children ratio is smaller than here in OK, which is great, but the staff is ludicrously unprepared for dealing with children. I also noticed that the child protection regulations were very lax.

bostonnanny said...

When ppl first read it did anyone else think the "black man" just kidnapped the kids? The way she worded it and the fact that he said no about the Asian girl when she first asked but went back and got her then said bad girl/boy. Sounded more like some stranger just took to unattended kids...

world's best nanny said...

I can't even figure out what this person is trying to write.

gypsy said...

Very! If you care for five or less, nobody is over seeing your home. And hoir excuse? w many of those are caring for more than five and just not saying anything? I remember some lady in VB had over twenty kids. Some were "stashed, away in the basement area. Another lady, also in VB did the same thing, oaround twenty kids. Except in her case, a baby died. When I did my FCC in Chesapeake, I had a navy mom & dad drop off their baby in a diaper, in JANUARY. It was freezing. Their excuse? The baby was squirming. I called the Navy & reported them. Another Navy family, the parents let their baby sit in the carseat constantly. The child & her carseat made my entire home smell like fungus. I reported them. Another family brought me a baby with crap on her clothing!!!???? She wasn't wearing a diaper, didn't have a sibling that I knew of & it wasn't her poop. I reported that, too. Because I feared there was a younger sibling, maybe @ home alone?! Extremely depressing. All of this in a six year span! I also have stories of wonderful loving parents, some Navy. I'm not against the Navy & I love Virginia. These were extreme cases, isolated & very sad!!!!!! Where in VA were you, Manda?

gypsy said...

I'm sorry, I wasn't clear at all. The "baby" who came without a diaper, but poop on her clothing was actually a small child & too old for a diaper. I call kids "babies" sometimes. Sorry. My point was, this child didn't need or wear a diaper. And they said she didn't have a sibling. So.....I was really afraid they were lying & that she might of had a younger sibling alone @ home and that they were too cheap to pay for me to care for her. This girl looked very messy. Not normal messy, but neglect messy. Oh & the parents drove a brand new truck, of course. Yes, I reported this just in case.

MissMannah said...

I was up near Fairfax and I worked at 3 different corporate daycares when I was living there. The experience just about put me off daycare forever--they were just that horrible.

Nan said...

So the story is a day care was walking back to day care 2 children walked away from them adaults didn't notive I pointed the children out and they had no idea the children walked off very blocked view they could not see the children till they walked around a structure Man called children bad boy /bad girl for walking off there is a lake 50 ft from where they were. The childcare center was community something

MissMannah said...

Well...that sort of clarified everything.

gypsy said...

I believe that. I had several moms who worked @ centers put their children in my home child care. They said they wouldn't want their kids there bc most everyine is unhappy & its no place for kids. Wtf? Craazy.

gypsy said...

They were too big to walk into the lake, right? I mean, these weren't toddlers?

Nan said...

These children were young 4yr ols and younger some 2