03 July, 2012
Hello all, I recently discovered ISYN, and I'm loving it, thank God for iPhone, I've been reading nonstop since last week when I stumbled upon this site. I'm a nanny for a fantastic family, MB is a SAHM, and DB is in the medical field. Two awesome charges SW is 4 and LT is 2. Been with them for almost two years now.
Anyways, I'm writing to see if anyone has some suggestions for the issue we've been having with SW. He's a wonderful, caring, and smart little dude, and though sometimes he has trouble listening, he is generally a well behaved and great little charge. Lately though, for the last three months at least, my leaving in the evenings has become a big hassle. I spend anywhere from 8 to 12 hours a day five or six days a week with them, and sometimes MB is home, but works in her office, generally, I am the main caretaker during the day, until DB gets home, or until MB finishes her days work.
So, lately, whenever I leave the house in the evening SW throws a big fit, clinging to my legs, crying and reaching for me, screaming and sometimes even following me out to my car and refusing to go inside, or to let us close the door. MB and DB are great about it, they know that SW just loves his nanny, and that theres a strong bond between the babies and myself after almost two years, so the problem isn't that the parents are jealous or resentful. I just need suggestions on a more peaceful way to transition SW back into his parents care in the evenings, as its getting tiresome for all parties to console him every evening.
I know that once I leave, he generally gets over his fit in ten or fifteen minutes. I've tried reminding him about what fun things we'll do in the mornings when I return, or leaving him with a small treat (a mint, or small candy), or having a fun activity for him and DB/MB to work on, even just ignoring him and leaving in the middle of the tantrum (which killed me, I don't want him to associate me with feeling upset). Does anyone have experience with this or suggestions on a good way to ease into our evenings? I need to figure it out quick, as now LT is beginning to do the same things when she sees how big brother is acting. Thanks in advance, and Happy 4th to everyone!
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