Presents, Presents, and More Presents!

Friday, November 19, 2010
Opinion 4 Hi! I would like to ask a question about gifts! I work for a family with a 3 years old girl. I've been working for them for almost 2 years. They moved to CA from the Midwest so until now they were renting a house. They purchased a new home and they moved last week. I don't know if they are going to host a house warming party or if they will invite me. His birthday was a few weeks ago, and her birthday is next month. I gave him a small present for his birthday and a card that my charge and I did. I'll do the same for her birthday. And I will also give them something for Xmas. Should I also give them a present for the new house? It's the 2nd house that they purchase. Do you have any suggestions for the house warming gift? Thanks!


nycmom said...

I would really not expect a gift from our nanny in this situation. But I also would not expect a gift for my husband or my birthday either. I do appreciate a small gift for my kids' birthdays, but never for us or our home. If you do get something, I would say keep it as small, inexpensive, and stress-free for yourself as possible. It is very kind to consider getting them a gift at all and you already go above and beyond IMO!

Just My Two Cents Just Now said...

From a nanny's perspective, I would not worry about getting a present for your Momboss or Dadboss. Especially anything bought. It might make them feel awkward, but I am sure they would appreciate the thought. A nice gesture would be to make something homemade for them, perhaps a nice card or bake some homemade cookies with your charge and you can say everything is from both of you. It is always nice to get something for your charge.
I don't know if they would invite you to a housewarming party or not. If you are not, do not feel slighted. Perhaps the parents only want to invite close friends and/or co-workers. I would not get them a housewarming gift however. It just may be overkill.
But a lot of my advice would depend on how close you are to the parents. If you are closer than most nannies are to their employers, then the dynamic may be completely different.
Good Luck.

Manhattan Nanny said...

How about a small plant for the child? She can keep it in the window of her new room, and you can help her water and take care of it.

Rocket Scientist said...

I do not buy my MB and DB birthday gifts, but I do buy Christmas gifts. I give something inexpensive and thoughtful, definitely not extravagant, and sometimes it is just one gift for the family--some sort of activity they can do together. When they moved into their new home, I bought some flowers and arranged them myself. I don't think you need to do anything more than flowers or a small plant, if anything. Those are pretty customary housewarming items.