Recieved Monday, September 27, 2010
I am a professional nanny with a lot of experience and excellent references. Lately I'm really bothered by parent's attitudes regarding childcare. How in the world is it fair to ask a nanny to take less money for multiple children? I know that when I work, each child in my care gets my 100% attention, which means I don't have a spare moment in the day. I give my all to every child. The most a child has to give up is immediate gratification. But they are assured that they will get what they need/want in my next free moment. I "hold" them with words of comfort and encouragement while they are waiting. I feel it is twice the work no matter how you look at it. It is two jobs. Or three. And on top of that in the case of nanny share, there are not only two adults to make happy above and beyond the children, but four, sometimes more in the case of divorce.
I currently care for twins who will be one year this month. I made peace with the salary I get when I was hired because I like this family and the babies were newborns so I could find a moment's downtime. I think this has come up for me again because as they turn into toddlers the workload has obviously gotten much harder. I am absolutely exhausted. I do all of their care from waking in the morning to bedtime at night. I've NEVER turned on the television or put them in front of a movie. I engage. I play. I hold. I coo and love them.
My employers just do not see the salary concerns this way at all. They claim hardship but I see their lives up close and personal and they aren't hard up. They are wealthy. It feels more like a situation of lack of respect for the position of childcare provider, but they'd never say that to me. I have tried to talk to them but they don't budge and I am left feeling horrible for asking.
No matter how I try to rethink it and see it another way, I come back to the conclusion that nanny share, or a "deal" for multiples, is an unfair expectation and a horrible scam on nannies. Is there anybody else who has these feelings? has anyone found a satisfactory resolution? I'd love to hear because I'm seriously thinking about not renewing my contract come the first of the year.