Received Tuesday, August 25, 2009
Please help me out. I need some advice immediately and will take whatever advice I receive. Here's my problem: I am a temp nanny for a family w/a very unruly 4 yr old girl. I worked for them as a temp for about 5 weeks during the beginning of summer and it was hard. Then the girl went to preschool and I was let go. This week the school is closed for vacation and the father called me and asked if I could work the week he was out. At the time, I had no job and was in need of money so I agreed. (This was 2 weeks ago!). Shortly after, I got a new part-time nanny job, however the hours will not coincide w/this temp position. The father works in a home office and I only work 5 hours, 10-3. I worked today (Monday) and will work all week until Friday. The problem is the child. She is very difficult. When she is to have her nap and quiet time, she becomes abusive to me and her Dad. She literally swings at both of us as we try to carry her to her room. Her Dad is not very strict w/her which makes my job harder. The daughter knows how to manipulate the father by saying she needs to pee, get a drink, etc. The Dad caters to her and does not seem to realize he is being manipulated by her. She kicks and screams for an hour, almost knocking the door down w/her feet as she throws a fit, etc. Yes, she was like this a bit when I worked for them before, but her tantrums were not this severe.
My question is this: Since I agreed to care for the child all week, would it be rude for me to call the Dad and tell him that today was a physically and emotionally taxing day and that I do not think (for $10/hr), I can handle this anymore. Seriously, I was so worn out today after her tantrum that I felt like throwing in the towel and leaving! And I have never had the urge to do this before! ~ As I type this, I am dreading my job. I know it is only for the next week, but I simply cannot put up w/being kicked at, hit and having to carry a 4 yr old to her room while doing so. But I know I agreed to watch her and need to honor my commitment, in spite of the abuse. What oh what would you other nannies do in my shoes??????????