Received Monday, May 25, 2009
Hey Readers, just looking for some opinions.
(BACKGROUND- I am a young, American, college-educated nanny with tons of experience including twin and special needs. I have also worked with celebs in the past. I am considered a high-profile nanny.)
I recently got an extremely well paying job with a lot of perks (travel, good hours, benefits, etc). It is definitely a difficult job but in time will pay off.
This is the thing... I was asked to live in for the week which I didn't want to but agreed knowing there was a "staff floor" ie private bedroom/bathroom, private entrance and staff kitchen and lounge to be shared with other nannies and housekeepers. It has recently come to my attention that I will be staying now on the floor with the 3 children in between their bedrooms. This wouldn't be a total problem but I feel as if because I am the "main" nanny they expect the world of me. They want me on the kids floor because I am there to watch them but is it really that awful of me to be 4 floors downstairs? There is an intercom. I feel like they are just setting me up to take advantage.
We also go to the country house on the weekends and will be moving their all summer. There is a separate house on the property known as the staff cottage. It is a 4 bedroom house with 3 of the rooms currently filled and usually only 1 filled majority of my scheduled time. There is also a third floor with an extra family room/playroom and 3 suites (decks, bathrooms, and sitting rooms). Here in the country I am the only one stuck in the house. I am not even allowed to stay in one of the suites. Instead I am in a room conjoined to the middle child's room and right next to the parents room. I have no furniture except a bed and a side table. I am told this is where I will be spending the summer. Where will I put my stuff? The closet is filled with the kids winter clothes and there are no drawers. I would like to be in the guest house but at the very least upstairs in a suite.
There is no tv, not even a radio in my room. I am more than welcome to watch the television upstairs in the extra family room but I have to creep downstairs in the middle of the night past the parents open bedroom door to get to my room. I feel uncomfortable with them being so close, hearing my calls, knowing when I'm going to bed, hell--hearing me pee! Every morning when I shower I wake up their child because of such close proximity.
I am new (5 weeks) and will be on the books starting in 2 days. My bosses are VERY by the books, typical yacht club-park avenue family and really don't do well with change.
I'm not sure exactly how to bring it up but I am lonely sitting in a room staring at my wall all night when the rest of the staff are cracking beers together watching a movie in their cottage. I am very different than their past nannies whom were in their 60s, didn't speak English and fell asleep on the job. They appreciate how well I work with the kids and how flexible and hard working I am for them but I don't know if asking to be moved is crossing the line. Come summer I would like to go out on my nights off and my days off but I feel like I am doing something wrong. I feel guilty.
I understand they are a family and I would never overdo it and come stumbling in at all hours but I am an adult and if I want to go to a 10 o clock movie with some friends and be back at 1230 I feel like that is my prerogative. I do my job, I do it well and I feel an unbalance. They think that they need to keep me so close because I manage the household but can't they give me the chance to prove I can do that from across the driveway?!
Also, feel free to leave out the "grow some balls and just talk to them" comments. I need some good solid advice or none at all thanks.