Received Tuesday, April 28, 2009
Hi, so I've been a nanny for about a year for this family I love. Going into this position, we all knew it was going to be part time. I wanted some time to figure out what career I wanted after graduation and the parents needed some time to find a nanny agency that they wanted to use to find a live in nanny from another country. (The mom had just gone back to work so they were new to this whole thing). I am live out which works great for everyone. The children go to school and are involved in many different activities, so a lot of my responsibility is just driving them around, supervising play dates and cooking them meals. Now that my time with this family is winding down, the mother has encouraged me to bring my laptop to their house so I can look up jobs or do other job related activities while I am in charge of the older children. They are 11 and 13 so I mainly sit on the deck while they play outside but don't constantly supervise what they are doing with their friends. As long as I can see them, the mother has no problem with me using my laptop. The only thing that is bothering me about this job is how the mother went about allowing me to use the laptop. I fully understood when she asked if she could put a parent lock on it to ensure that if her younger children got their hands on it they wouldn't go to a website they shouldn't be looking at. Since I was unsure how to do it, I handed my laptop over to her so she could put on the necessary restrictions. I did not think to ask for my password at the time because I don't look at any sites that are not appropriate. Later that day, I got home to find out that she had blocked many websites, including Craigslist which I frequently use for jobs! Since it was later in the night, I decided to wait until I got to work the next day to ask her for my password. Before she left for work, I kindly asked if her if I could have the password so that I could look at some other job websites other than just monster.com and several of the local hospitals. I figured that even if she didn't give me the password, she would at least be willing to change some of the restrictions. Instead, she looked at me and said that if I couldn't deal with not looking up porn or other s**t for 9 hours a day then I should just quit now. She isn't paying me for that. Obviously I was a little taken aback and hurt. Now I'm unsure of how to approach the situation. I have another computer at home so this lock isn't restricting me from looking at jobs at all. That isn't my concern. I'm worried that I have accidentally done something or one of the kids might have said something that could be misconstrued and now the mother thinks she cannot trust me or that I don't pay attention to her children. Does anyone have any suggestions of how I could approach this with her? I've been laboring over this but honestly can't come up with any reason of why the mother is now thinking that I wouldn't watch her children if I had access to my computer.