Received Saturday, March 7, 2009
I have a situation. I am a nanny for three kids and I love my job, but there's one problem. I feel undermined by the old babysitter (and now nanny for another family in the development) and one of the oldest girl's mom.
Whenever we go out to the community playground the other nanny is constantly checking on my charges, commenting on things they do, and over stepping her boundaries while ignoring her own charges. The problem is that everyone in the development thinks she is so great, including my boss. She has been working as a babysitter for many families in the area over the years and is now employed by a friend of my bosses. She is very short with her charges and today when one kept falling off his bike she just looked over and continued talking to another mom at the playground. Every time I am outisde with my charges and she is out there she is constantly asking where they are going, what they are doing, etc and making comments about it to me. I don't appreciate it and she is very aggressive with the way she says things.
The other problem is one of the parents of my oldest charge. She asked to go over to her friend's house and since she is allowed to I said ok. I had let her know she has to pick up before her mom gets home and needs to be mindful of that. My charge was playing outside and left some trash out on the playground (something I am not ok with). Since she is 9 years old and responsible for picking up after herself I called over to her friend's house and asked the mom if she could please send her to the playground to pick up her trash. The mom curtly responded with, "I'm not sending her over there to pick up her trash!"
I'm really not sure what to do in either case. I don't want to stir trouble with either person, but I am the one ultimately responsible for my charges, their behavior, and safety. Any advice?