Received Tuesday, March 10, 2009
I work for a divorced couple. Along with taking care of their three children, I clean both of their houses. When they were together it wasn't so bad. One house to keep clean wasn't too much. Now that they are divorced it's a lot to keep up with. Actually, the father's house is a lot to keep up with. I clean two bathrooms, vacuum the whole house, mop the kitchen, dust, wipe up the counters and clean up his messes from the weekend. The mother's house is pretty clean to start with, so I basically just vacuum, run the Swiffer over the kitchen and dining room floors, and put away laundry. I know everyone is going to tell me I shouldn't be cleaning, that it shouldn't be part of my job. But I agreed to it, and learned the hard way. Never again will I accept a job with cleaning.
The oldest is in school all day and the younger two go to school for 2 and a half hours three times a week. One morning I'm off, one I spend at the mother's, and one I spend at the father's. That 2 and a half hours while the kids are at school isn't enough time to do all the cleaning that needs to be done at the father's and I pretty much work my ass off every day I'm there trying to keep up with it all. The mother is not a pig. She does her share, and her home is always clean with minimal effort from me.
A couple months ago I accidentally bleached a couple of the father's dish towels This made him refuse to buy me spray cleaner of any sort and to get Clorox wipes for me to clean everything with. At the time I didn't let it get to me. If he wants me to use wipes, I'll use wipes.
So today I pulled out the wipes to clean, and there was a sticky not attached saying that I should not be going through the wipes so fast and to use them more sparingly because they are costly to replace. At this point I don't really know what he expects me to do. If he'd allow me to use spray cleaner (he's more than welcome to get a non-bleach cleaner) then it would go a lot further. As long as I'm using only wipes to clean, they are going to go fast. I use them the same way I use wipes to clean my own house....and yes, when I clean his piss off the outside of the toilet bowl, I like to double up the wipes!
It seems so extremely petty for him to complain about wipes. I've been with this family for three and a half years. As far as I know, he has no complaints about the care I provide for his children. (I'm sure he'd let me know if he did) I go above and beyond every day. I take the kids on trips, we do educational activities, arts and crafts, and read a ton. Everyone tells me how amazing I am, but he just doesn't appreciate what I do.
When I take his kids to the airport to see the planes, I don't ask for the $3.00 for parking. When I take his kids to the zoo, I don't ask for the $1...00 for goat feed. When I decided to start teaching the kids Spanish, I paid for the flash cards and work books, and I've never asked for gas money to drive his kids around all day. Considering the amount of money I spend on his children, I just can't believe he'd complain about Clorox wipes! I don't even know what to say to him. Am I wrong here, or is he out of line?
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