I debated posting this or not because I did not want to get slammed. I shall attempt to give you an unbiased account of what I witnessed not one hour ago.Nanny: 5'4"-5'6", approximately 230-250 lbs, dark, brittle hair pulled tightly into a rubber band, round cheeks, brown eyes, cream colored windbreaker, terry cloth track pants, brown, and leather tennis shoes with what appeared to be a "D" on them in fluorescent green. AA. When she spoke, she had a very sharp tongue but her English was largely slang. No hard g's, or hard vowels at the end of words.
Child #1: Between 11 months-14 months, riding in a peg perego stroller, chrome with an orange ball print, wearing a blue jacket and flowered leggings. Caucasian.
Child#2: Between 3-4.5 years old, brown hair, brown eyes, fair skin, wearing cargo style tan pants, lots of pockets, one pocket was accented with a camouflage print, Olive colored jacket. Caucasian.
They had obviously just left Playgarden as was evident from the excited older child. He was excitedly talking about a boy who showed him a trick on a slide with a ball. I wasn't paying attention, but was walking behind them. The boy had his hand on the stroller. The nanny said to him, "Shut up, shut up, shut up" in the meanest voice you could imagine. From behind I could see the child's head drop down to look at the ground. It was so mean. The nanny was also a fast walker and the boy was working to keep up with her. I can say this because I am a fast walker, I was behind them and she was increasing the distance between us with every step. I saw the nanny push the child, PUSH the child with her right hand and push him hard so that he nearly fell and told him to "get off" meaning the stroller. She then made a grand gesture of shaking the stroller as if the boy had caused any problem at all. She told him, "just walk, you don't need to hold on to anything, you're not a baby".
For a minute, I considered that cameras could be filming and John Quiñones was going to pop out and ask why I didn't do anything. I'll tell you why I didn't do anything. I really thought any interference at all was going to cause the boy to be further mistreated.
54 comments:
OP..doing nothing was absolutely the right thing to do..you are right..addressing an already angry/agitated nanny only puts the child/children as well as your own charges/children in further harms way. Posting here was a great idea. The best you can hope for is to run into these children again near the playgarden when they are with mom and dad so you can pass this on.Also.lets hope the 3/4 yr old gets tired of being pushed around and says something to mom & dad about his nanny pushing him and telling him to shut up!Poor kids!
This nanny is shameful.
Good post OP!
I agree. Good post. I hope the Mother sees this.
There are so many kinder ways to tell children to be quiet! I would've died just seeing his little head bow down. Why can't we ever celebrate the good behavior? At the grocery store the other day this young "gentlemen" asked his grandmother if he could ride on the carousel outside the store. He waited for a break in the conversation, he said "May I Please."
She just blurted out NO!! I almost wanted to give him the quarter for being such a good kid. Celebrate the good!
I would've been too pissed about it to remain quiet. But then again, you never know with people... she could be a crazy psycho who could go at it with you in the middle of the street. But good job! That is inexcusable behavior and I hope she gets caught and kicked out.
This is a great post! Please don't worry about being slammed here. Even if you are it is the freaking internet! Who cares! We don't know you and you don't know us. You can't take it personally.
Was the child okay? No bruises or broken bones?
So what do we got? A young child that nothing whatsoever happened to him/her.
An older child that was told to "shut up." Did she tell him to "f**king shut up?" NO! Did she smack him to emphasize her words? NO!
I do not approve the shoving of a child. It almost looks like she was trying to go faster than you so you won't witness more.
"world's best nanny"...
if abuse to you only entails curse words, bruises and broken bones, I shudder to think what kind of lives the children you have an effect on are leading.
no, please no, not another long, drawn out argument with/about wbn! we all know this writer has nothing beneficial to say, ignore it.
as for the post, good sighting, terrible situation! i would have freaked out on the woman.
Good post op! (One tiny thing though-- describing the hair as "brittle" takes the unbiased-ness away-- although NOT a big deal at all... ) Other than that truly mean nansty behavior. I know we have all been to that point, but that's not okay at all. I do have to say-- I LOVED the part about Jon Quinones (sp?) I am SHAMEFULLY addicted to that show! I love it... I always wonder now when I see a questionable situation too :P
Lovesthegirls:
"One tiny thing though-- describing the hair as "brittle" takes the unbiased-ness away-- although NOT a big deal at all..."
PLEASE! Are you serious?? This whole disheartening post and THIS is what you pick out? And you consider it biased?? Honey, I have brittle hair, too, and it goes way past my ass, and it's hard as hell to keep up with. Brittle is a descriptive word and I most certainly would not be offended if someone said I had brittle hair, because it's TRUE!
Yes, Crystal... I obviously WAS serious I said it didn't I? Also, please continue reading and take note that I said it wasn't a big deal. ALSO as you so kindly pointed out what *I* "picked" out I did go on to comment on the hatefulness of the nanny. Not that I have to explain myself to you], but for what it is worth, NO brittle is not unbiased. It puts an opinion in. Am I wrong in this? NO, I am not-- becasue what is brittle hair to one is soft and silky to another. And FURTHERMORE, Crystal, "out of this whole disheartening post and THIS is what you pick out?" WELL deary-- at least *I* commented on the REST of the post... or the post at all for that matter instead of attacking what is known in the growm up world as critical thought. 'Nuff said
There are ways you could have written this without sounding quite so mean. I think it's the contempt that comes through in so many descriptions of nannies on this site that makes me doubt their veracity.
And, frankly, I've told my toddler to shut up too. Not often, but not every moment is sweetness and light.
Now this is child abuse. I have never felt such a combination of horrifying sadness, extreme anger, and revulsion.
http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=pkSN65cJKOE
How horrible. I wish I hadn't seen that.
OMG! What sort of monsters are those people? Who could do that to an innocent child? To anyone for that matter! I am barely holding the tears in. WBN I am angry that you posted such a thing, but in a way I am also happy that you did. People need to be aware of the problem and if using such graphic images works, then so be it. I just hope no one accuses you of hijacking the thread.
YIKES! That nanny is doing terrible psychological damage to that child...it's just mean!!!!!!! I hope to god that the parents see your post. Thank you for posting =)
World's best nanny... Obviously you post things just to get a reaction? Do you enjoy the attention you get? In other words, do you come here just to get attention...any attention? Obviously, if you're paying a nanny to watch your children, you want the nanny to be kind to your children. Wouldn't you be sad if you saw your own child telling a nanny, or anyone...a story they were excited about...and being told to shut up? Of course you would! We don't just ask our nannies to avoid bruising our children, breaking their bones, and refrain from using profanity with our children...we want them to model nice adult behavior, and encourage our child's development. If you were the parent, you wouldn't be satisfied to know that your child wasn't physically harmed--you would want to know that your child was psychologically mis-treated...because you could certainly find a far better nanny to spend time with your child. Saying that because the child wasn't injured or bruised, this message shouldn't have been posted is just plain silly! If that was the only critera for a post, this blog wouldn't be necessary. We would ignore the unkind behavior of nannies who put on a good show when the parents are around and mistreat children when they're not...and we could just call 911 when real abuse occurs. But children deserve better than that--and you know that!!!!
You guys are wasting your time. Worlds Best tried to excuse her comment but it's obvious and I'm thankful, that the sane community here gets it. You can't excuse levels of abuse. It's still not OK just because there is worse abuse in the world to pull a child by the arm.
My point is that this board is for reporting mistreatment. 911 is for reporting child abuse! Real abuse is something we have paid law enforcement officials to handle--it's not a job for a blog.
WBN,
You really come off as a sicko. Why would you counter your already stupid comment with "proof" that there is worse abuse. We know that, asshole. We aren't talking about what x did to y or the sinister way you treat your charges, we're talking about one particular nanny on a Monday in march.
I thought Em was that one sour orange in the bunch, now I see it's Worlds Best Nanny. Tell me something Nanny, how are you the best when you post bs on here that is ridiculous, not to mention that you seem like a mean person? How is that you are a nanny? I can't understand that with some of the things you have commented on.
Anyone ever have a sour orange? Ewwwww.
ro said...
WBN,
You really come off as a sicko. Why would you counter your already stupid comment with "proof" that there is worse abuse. We know that, asshole. We aren't talking about what x did to y or the sinister way you treat your charges, we're talking about one particular nanny on a Monday in march.
Mar 24, 2009 12:41:00 PM
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Why are you calling her names?
That is so sad. Why are people like her a nanny if they don't like kids? That poor boy. :(
lovesthegirls,
im both shocked and seriously amused that you take yourself seriously.
brittle is just another way of describing hair. it is completely unbiased. it would be like saying her hair was "long and shiny" or "short and poofy". that is not biased, it's descriptive. she could have said "a disgustingly obese black woman with nasty hair talking like a ghetto whore"
but she didnt. she gave the facts. she must have been angry so it probably was difficult to not want to throw in some mean things about this nanny, but she DIDN'T. if she wanted to sound biased, don't you think she would have used something better than "brittle"?
also, if you claim it "wasn't a big deal" why did you bother to bring it up? that's very passive aggressive behavior.
AGAIN,
why continue to harp on WBN when she does this on EVERY post!
i'm sick of every thread being about WBN! can we end the madness already and IGNORE her? maybe she'll go away.
honest nanny..you are bringing more attention to her than anyone else! let it go already!This is a blog! relax***deep breathe in & out!
I am neither a sicko or an asshole. Because I don't run with the herd makes me unlikeable? What is this high school? I am a nanny/household manager and adore my charges and the family I work for. I am also a wife and a mother. Ask anyone who knows me, that I am real, good and honest, but I do have a tendency to call'em as I see'em. I think that is part of being a Virgo. I am sorry about that poor angel in New Mexico that I posted, but that is the reality of things.
hates cats,
yeah, but she has a valid point. some people think that by telling WBN how awful they are they will feel bad. they don't. they adore this attention. that's all honest nanny is trying to say.
I have never see a blog filled with so many uptight bitches! If you'all are so concerned about your kids then stay the fuck home! Stop the trips out with the girls to have lunch and do a bit of shopping. Resign from your charity work, your children need you more than some stupid ass charity. If you work (yeah right! roflmbo!!!!) cut back your hours, you don't need that cash, you need your kids!!! Try spending sometime with your kids day in and day out, I bet your sorry ass will be looking to get out!
World's best nanny I am sure you'd love some random to push your child around, tell him to shut up and treat him like crap for no reason. If that's the kind of mother you are, I fear for your children.
I don't understand some people here, but I guess that will happen everywhere.
I don't care if this involved physical abuse it was mean. I don't tell my charges to shut up ever and when they are excited I listen even when I'm tired or busy. This is not how you treat children. Period. This is what this blog is for in case everyone has forgotten. And I agree with many posters that regardless of physical abuse, if I were a parent I would have a problem with this person treating my child this way. I think any parent would no matter if they have told their kids to shut up or not. If you don't like kids, do NOT become a nanny, I would think that's common sense.
If my nanny used the words "shut up" around my child, she would be instantly fired. Children will be exposed to negative words enough--they should not come from teachers, nannies, babysitters or anyone paid to provide a better example and guidance on what is proper behavior and what is not. This woman and anyone who would say that to their charge does not have the right to refer to themselves as a nanny. They are simply a paid body that does not care, let alone know how to, properly help raise a child.
thank you seattle, that was exactly my point. i don't mean to draw MORE attention, but we all need to collectively get over WBN. i'm also not trying to be hypocritical by saying we should stop doing something and then continue doing it. but if someone doesn't push the issue this will continue on every post - and i'd rather everyone fight about other issues or bring about interesting and educational debates.
it's all an attention issue with WBN, everyone can recognize this, yet we all still feed into it. i'd just love to see an end to it.
Just my two cents said...
"If my nanny used the words "shut up" around my child, she would be instantly fired."
Hear! Hear! Who in the hell thinks it's acceptable to talk to a child like that? I can't even imagine...
Perhaps I shouldn't be, but I am amazed that World's Dumbest is suddenly now claiming to be "real, good and honest", after ALL of her MANY previous posts where she BRAGS incessantly about how she steals from her bosses, talks shit about them, fools them, pretends she did stuff with the kids that she never did, drops drugs on the job, etc etc etc etc etc etc. And now because she says that she sees herself as "real, good and honest", she thinks others will think she is?
This scum-turd of a nanny described in this sighting needs to be put in charge of scrubbing toilets at Greyhound stations, NOT in charge of caring for impressionable children.
OMG! With all this bickering we've lost sight of the original post.
CALI MOM,,
I have never talked trash about my employers. I have never faked an activity with my charges.
VANESSA,
My husband and I are doing quite well raising our son. He is a good, honest and polite young man. Don't you ever assume ANYTHING about the way I raise my child.
I am 43 years old. I am not a child, if I had a nanny I would expect her to know how to handle any situation.
Three weeks ago, my charge was on a horrible rampage. Calling me every mean thing that she could think of, etc. It was horrible. I tried to ignore it as long as I could, and tried to tell her that I dont like to be talked to like that,etc, and finally I just said the first thing that popped into my head after all of that, which was, "shut up." I instantly felt horrible. But I am human, and know that I will never do that again. And I apologized and told her I was wrong to have said that. And I still feel bad. I cannot believe this woman would tell a child to shut up who was just so excited to share something. It makes me wonder what else she says to that child when no one is around!
Um...I never said I am 24. I have mentioned that I am around the same age as my employers. There are not too many 24 year olds that can afford a full time nanny/household manager.
Worlds Best...
I'm also 43 years old, a Virgo, and have one son--so we have a few things in common! But I'm not a 'call 'em as I see 'em' person. I'm way too much of a worrier to do that...always concerned about other people's feelings. Not sure which trait is more "Virgo". How old is your son?
My son is 13. Just beginning that "I know everything and you don't age." I've been assured that by the time he is 25 he'll be human again. Teenagers!! It used to be "Good Morning Son!", "Good Morning Mommy!"
Now it's "Good Morning Son!" "Grunt"
He's a good kid, but he's a teenager. He talks about getting his license (like I'm ready for that!!) and girls and facial hair. I miss my baby, but I got my charges so that helps. I read somewhere long ago that Virgos are frank to the point of rudeness. Sometimes it just comes out like verbal diarrhea. I don't mean harm to anyone here and if anyone read this you can see that I am a human being, not a monster.
World's Best: my son is almost 9...so now I have a preview of what I have to look forward to =) That's nice that you still get to enjoy the little ones on the job.
:::yawn::: It's the story of the day. Amazing how we've never heard tale of any husband or child before. Never a comment on parenting vs. nannying.
WTF,
"You must not know 'bout me" as Beyonce would say.
Yes, I have mentioned in many posts that I am a mom and a nanny.
WTF? said...
:::yawn::: It's the story of the day. Amazing how we've never heard tale of any husband or child before. Never a comment on parenting vs. nannying.
Mar 26, 2009 1:23:00 AM
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You know what...World's Best Nanny sounds like a really nice person, once you get to know here. I hope she'll stick around and post often.
I have read almost all of the posts on this site because I used to love it so much . And it is not true that you mentioned your son and being married many times. You bragged about tricking your employers and stealing their drugs. That is neither honest or responsible. My last post was about how you said you were 24. And it got deleted. I remember the excat conversation was with Phoenix and she was trying to reach out to you. Maybe it was 34 but either way that is still ten years younger then you are. If this gets deleted so be it. I just dont like when people are dishonest. I am not trying to be controversial or make the blog admin mad. I am just saying what I think is ture. Hopefully people will stop taking WBN so seriously when they realize she just lies in every other post. And thats all I have to say.
World's best:
I assume this based on your ridiculous response. Really? Is that the right way to treat a child? Honestly? Now be honest and tell me if you'd be ok if some woman pushed him around, ruined his great mood and treated him like a worthless thing. If you found out someone is doing this to your child, would you be OK with it? Would you say "Hey, it's ok you can tell him to shut up and shove him around whenever you want, it's allowed and there's no abuse". Really? Because obviously you weren't using your brain when you replied.
Just another story about somebody causing a lot of psychological damage to a child. Very scary because the day to day scars are not visible...until one day they add up to one colossal disaster. I hate seeing these...and I know how very prevalent it is. Kids need to be NURTURED by their caregivers. The world at large delivers enough crap...they don't need it at home by the poeple who are SUPPOSED to care for them too. What else are they supposed to grow up thinking about themselves other than, "I'm a worthless little piece if shit nuisance?"
And we wonder why so many kids today seem to grow up with seemingly no sense of caring or compassion or empathy.
It breaks my heart when I think about that child being all excited and running up to his "nanny" to tell her something and for her to just end his excitement and tell him to shut up :( I remember once when I was little I was in the car with my mom and I was talking a mile a minute. At the time I'm sure she was stressed about something but me being a kid I was oblivious too it. I was going on and on and she told me to shut up. And I just looked at her and stopped talking. A little while later I started crying. Its just such an awful thing to say to anyone let alone a child. My mom was a wonderful mom and she never abused me or treated me badly. She just had a momentary lapse of judgement. But amazingly I still carry that memory with me today. I am a bit on the sensitive side I will admit but words really do hurt. This past week at work I was really sick but working anyways because the parents needed me too. My head was pounding and my throat was sore. But when my little 4 yr old girl charge was talking to me non stop about anything you could think off I smiled and encouraged her. And when I read Clifford to her for the 1000th time and she asked me 20 questions about every page I answered them and tried to be as patience as I could be with her. She is a child and deserves to be protected. You should never tell a child to shut up. It could be devestating.
patient not patience
In my defense here is a post I wrote a few threads back.
"Yup, I have to agree with "the original gimmeabreak"
This is a non-event.
No child got hurt, no child was neglected, no child was abused. How many times have we shushed our kids? How many times have we ignored questions? It goes with the territory with being a kid, you do not interrupt adults when they are speaking. Hired adults or not. No one squelched their imagination...please.
I hate to say this Mommies, but unless you are the perfect Virgin Mary, Mother of Jesus, you are flawed and these flaws will be gossiped about by your employees. Just like you piss and moan about your own bosses. So stop seeing yourselves as the know all, be all.
I am nearly 100% sure that those kids have heard both Mom and Dad grouch gossip and complain right in front of them whether it be to each other or on the cellie. Now let's stop wasting each others time and bust some real heavy duty nannies with issues. Oh and lets not forget ladies, I am a MOMMY and a NANNY. Oh another thing! If a nanny can write a load of B.S. like a certain post that was on here than why not a Mommy?
Mar 12, 2009 7:53:00 PM"
I am a mom and a nanny, my son is 13. I will be married 16 years this coming June.
There was another nanny on here at one time that also stole some Vicodin from her employers, she was the one that was 24 and was trying to reach out to Phoenix.
I am done with this subject.
Ok guys I'm going to clear the air. WBN is my sister. Yes, she and I are both nannies. Actually she is a house manager as well as a nanny. I am one year younger and I too have a teenage son.
My sister uses an old fashioned frame of mind when it comes to raising and being in charge of children. She's going to kill me, for making her sound so old school, but it's true. If you ever watched "Everybody Loves Raymond" you could say that WBN is Marie and I'm more like Debra. We disagree a lot, but she is still my sister!
I was none too happy about the Vicodin incident myself, but what am I going to do? Get her fired? She is 43 years old, not a child. She treats her charges very well and has quite a professional attitude about her job. She is all business. I am much more laid back. She works in a very affluent suburb of Boston, full of surgeons and college professionals. I work in a small town, also in Massachusetts, but it is much more quiet and casual where I am. She is trying so hard not to come off as a troll, she just thinks different than most of us. She has been with her current employer for nearly 10 years now, so there must be something that keeps her around. Sorry this is so long but I had to come to her defense.
WBN
---- you are annoying and a moron go away please! pay no attention it just makes you look like a bad nanny when you engage with this half whit
I feel for her charges! although it may be hard to not engage
from now on whenever we see a post from her let us skip it entirely.
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